Anger Management and Counseling in Lomita, CA.

I have a great deal of experience working with anger issues and domestic violence situations. DV is especially important to address because of the reaction of the children pulled into this dynamic. Cognitive Behavioral methods are taught which are easy to implement. We will look for the source of anger and find different redirected behaviors to replace anger. Mindfullness and various relaxation methods will be discussed. However, you will have input and final say in setting goals and in laying out our approaches to dealing with anger. We work together as equals, without judment.

Anger is a feeling that carries information. Anger alerts us to the awareness that we feel threatened in some way. People often get angry because they are in emotional pain. However, showing someone that you are in pain is a more effective way to help others feel remorse for what they did than raging at them. Emotionally intense young adults do not have to destroy any more relationships with "over the top" reactions! There are more effective ways of responding. I can teach these young people simple relaxation and awareness exercises that allow them to tame their anger.

I am a counselor specializing in grief and loss. When a loved one dies anger is often a feeling that looms large and can feel frightening. Anger at God, the person that died, the medical system or other people in your life is a normal feeling after a loss. As a bereavement therapist we will work together to understand these feelings and the myriad of other emotions that accompany a difficult transition.

Most people who have difficulties controling their anger attempt to suppress the anger by various means, which often leads to future eruptions. A more effect approach is to explore the causes of the anger by discussing your feelings with an objective psychologist. Ironically, anger control is gained not through "control of anger" but through feeling and understanding the anger.

Anger is a legitimate emotion in response to injury or for self-defense. But if survival defenses are out of conscious control, it is then considered lack of impulse control. Your anger by passes the rational part of your brain and you react instantly without thinking or choosing how to react. In order to interrupt that automatic reaction, you must slow it down. Do that by taking deep breaths until you have calmed down and are able to make a rational decision of how to react.

Anger is not wrong. How we hurt others or ourselves in anger is damaging. I work with clients to release their anger and frustration in healthy ways prior to interacting with anyone. We then work on how to release tension and understand their feelings so that when they discuss challenges they do not re-ignite and exacerbate the sitaution. We explore the cycle of anger and violence and create saftey measures so this cycle is altered. Self-responsibility is critical. We work on body relaxation, visualization, and breath work to help the client understand their body and utilize it more effectively.

We provide therapy to treat anger management. Anger is a psychological defense mechanism to feeling threatened either emotionally or physically. We teach our clients how to identify their own feelings, so they are better able to communicate the offensive behavior or words which they heard. Then we teach the client how to respectfully express themselves.

I use Trauma Therapy and Communication tools to find new ways of awareness to express oneself appropriately. I have been trained to find the "triggers" that mean someone may go "ballistic" because of these triggers, then find a way to change the way this energy is expressed. In my over twenty years of training I have a great many tools in my tool box. I know I can help!

Most people affected by problem anger spend their time trying to control it and make promises to themselves and others about not getting angry again. Instead of struggling to control anger, there is a way to learn how to accept and observe angry feelings without having to act out in anger. Problem anger is usually a message that something needs to be changed or be released. I use the concepts of Acceptance Commitment Therapy and Narrative Therapy to help clients let go of anger and move towards their preferred way of acting.

I have worked with many individuals who are having a lot of difficulty coping with their big feelings around anger. Much of the time, behind the anger are other feeling of hurt, frustration and an umbrella of sadness. Anger can be very debilitating and can get in the way of having successful and positive relationships both personally and professionally. In my practice, I work with my clients to understand the origin of the anger as well as to develop ways to alleviate it with the goal of living a happier life.

While there are thousands of techniques to manage anger, understanding and resolving the source of the anger is imperative. Anger is never a primary emotion. Typically anger is a secondary response to feelings of hurt. A person's feelings are hurt then, perhaps because he or she hasn't learned how do deal with feelings of hurt effectively, those feelings manifest as anger. The more unexpressed hurt held inside, the more anger you feel. Anger stems from feeling unjustly treated and yet when anger is not managed, people still fail to understand and empathize with you. We can work to get to the source of the anger and help you to improve your relationship with self and others. Feel free to call my o....

I encourage you to express your anger without violence to others while finding how you can harness this emotion to help yourself instead of self-destruction. You have a right to be as angry as you feel and to learn to evaluate the costs of bottling it up or feeling out of cotnrol. The expression of anger and its energy can be used to help you improve your life if you are willing to learn more about it.

Are you accused of being angry? Is someone afraid of your anger? Are you being threatened into getting help for anger? At CCRG, we understand how YOU feel, and we can get people off your back. If you're willing to learn some approaches that work, you will find that others annoy you less, things go your way more often, and you'll be treated with respect and love. Wouldn't that be nice? Give us a call and just say you want help with what others call "anger."