Anger Management and Counseling in Palos Verdes Estates, CA.

We all get angry sometimes. The issue is what you do with your anger. If you act it out in ways that hurt yourself or other people, that’s where the problems lie. You may express you anger physically by hitting people, hurting yourself, or breaking things. You may also express your anger by saying things that get you in trouble or damage your relationships. Sometimes it’s what you say, and sometimes it’s how you say it. Together, we can sort it out. We’ll see what triggers the anger and how you express it. We’ll work to undo the triggers and find other ways of dealing with the anger when it arises.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

While there are thousands of techniques to manage anger, understanding and resolving the source of the anger is imperative. Anger is never a primary emotion. Typically anger is a secondary response to feelings of hurt. A person's feelings are hurt then, perhaps because he or she hasn't learned how do deal with feelings of hurt effectively, those feelings manifest as anger. The more unexpressed hurt held inside, the more anger you feel. Anger stems from feeling unjustly treated and yet when anger is not managed, people still fail to understand and empathize with you. We can work to get to the source of the anger and help you to improve your relationship with self and others. Feel free to call my o....

I have witnessed first hand the radical transformation that comes with anger management counseling. So many men come into my office suffering from anger issues. Through working together collaboratively the anger dissipates, and what is underneath is usually much more nuanced then originally thought. Men and women suffer from anger differently. Anger Management counseling is a transformative process which creates space for ones' preferred identity to emerge.

I have a great deal of experience working with anger issues and domestic violence situations. DV is especially important to address because of the reaction of the children pulled into this dynamic. Cognitive Behavioral methods are taught which are easy to implement. We will look for the source of anger and find different redirected behaviors to replace anger. Mindfullness and various relaxation methods will be discussed. However, you will have input and final say in setting goals and in laying out our approaches to dealing with anger. We work together as equals, without judment.

I have worked with clients who have had a difficult relationship with anger throughout their lives and have found that it is often accompanied by shame, blame, judgement, or guilt. These problems have a powerful voice that works to drown out a person's preferences and unique outcomes, placing them far into the background, and deeming them unimportant. It is remarkable to find out what values clients have managed to hold onto despite anger's seemingly all consuming presence. The excavation of moments of holding onto values in the face of adversity is an opportunity to approach anger from a place of agency and empowerment versus blame or shame.

Anger is a kind of energy, a fuel that can be used for the benefit of yourself and others. But sometimes it can be too much of a good thing. It can morph into something destructive. Excessive anger can also be a mask for feelings of pain, helplessness and being out of control. We would explore what's going on, and I would offer you tools to help bring your anger under control.

Most people affected by problem anger spend their time trying to control it and make promises to themselves and others about not getting angry again. Instead of struggling to control anger, there is a way to learn how to accept and observe angry feelings without having to act out in anger. Problem anger is usually a message that something needs to be changed or be released. I use the concepts of Acceptance Commitment Therapy and Narrative Therapy to help clients let go of anger and move towards their preferred way of acting.

Anger is a normal human emotion. When expressed appropriately anger can be both adaptive and helpful. However, when anger is expressed with inappropriate frequency or intensity or without appropriate controls it can become very destructive to one's relationships or one's self. When this happens it may be very helpful to consult a therapist with skill in dealing with anger management problems. Together we can identify the triggers to anger arousal. We can identify anger maintaining patterns of thought and learn proven methods for stress reduction and respectful assertiveness. You can learn to recognize and use your angry emotions to enhance and deepen your most meaning relationships.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Frustration can sometimes lead to aggression. Cognitive-behavior therapy, as practiced by Dr. Levine, is a valuable tool in reducing the impact of frustration and reducing the resulting degree of anger. He will work with you to help you alter your reaction to frustration and develop alternative mechanisms to react to these events. Once your anger response is reduced your relationships with your family and friends are also likely to change in a much more positive direction.

Your anger turned towards yourself creates depression, but your anger towards others creates resentment. Do you find yourself vacillating between feeling depressed and resentful towards yourself or others in your life? Learning how to deal with your anger is the first step to get you out of that cycle. Counseling along with Mindfulness Meditation are great tools to help you manage anger and find more peace.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.