Great Couples Counseling in Palos Verdes Estates, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Practice communication skills to powerfully begin resolving those angry and blaming arguments. Write brief notes about what was said and have expert training to show your partner the love you feel and need. Learn how to express disagreements as well as affection that can transform your relationship. Find how to identify and manage the emotional baggage you are bringing to each other.

My initial work was with sexless/touchless couples, where I developed a speciality in supporting them in bringing the passion back to their relationship. This included sex of course, but also a deeper passion, a passion for life, a joie de vivre, a deep, loving connection. This is how I became known as the "Passion Doctor". My approach is to get the couple back into connection: verbally, emotionally and physically through psycho-education and exercises specifically tailored for them. My approach is not cookie-cutter or generic and combines the many disciplines I have studied and practiced including psychotherapy, somatic work, breath work and Tantric practices.

The benefits of Couple's Therapy can include an improvement in the relationship that saves it from stagnating or ending. But sometimes the couple benefits most by having a neutral, empathic environment in which to figure out that what they really want to do is break up, in the most amicable way possible. Whatever the conscious and unconscious goals of the client couple, these can be met given sufficient courage and the willingness to speak truthfully.

Relationships are hard. This is a fact that many people deny and others become aware of when it is too late. By creating an environment where couples can communicate in an honest manner, I work with them to establish clear lines of communication. In addition to working with couples, I am currently working toward a certification as a sex therapist.

When couples wish to work through their relationship difficulties, or do premarital couples therapy, they will find my office to be a safe, nonjudmental, and encouraging space. You will colaborate with your spouse, and prioritize issues you'd like to discuss. You will explore your own ability for acceptance and tolerance of your spouse's behavior. We will work together on communication skills, and styles, we'll try to soften the dialogue. We'll learn about problem solving skills with which husband and wife are heard. If there are sexual problems, I have experience in treating sex addiction, internet pornography addiction, and the affect of extended families on your relationship.

I will work with you to help you overcome whatever challenge you're facing, whether it's fighting, distance, a betrayal, or lack of trust, among other challenges. I will also help you to better communicate, including changing harmful or frustrating patterns of relating to each other. The ultimate goal that I keep in mind is to help the two of you become a more loving, cooperative, trusting, and intimate couple.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Couples are frequently referred to me by current and former clients, colleagues, and other healthcare professionals including physicians from several disciplines. More often than not, couples self-refer for help because one or both are feeling stuck and in pain. Sometimes there is an accumulation of hurts that have piled up. You need to talk about it. There are many benefits to couples counseling: enhanced communication, learning how to resolve conflict, creating more trust, growing intimacy, identifying triggers that can cause upsets, learning how to deal with the inevitable challenges that even the very best of relationships experience, and learning how to love at deeper levels.

The love you once felt for each other when you met and decided to live together is still there. Love appears to erode and even disappear as we take our relationship for granted. We can become Insensitive, lazy, stop being involved, intimate or concerned and understanding. These disconnections lead to more and more distance over time. Arguing or indifference can become a way of life. Along with a lack of intimacy, sex,sharing of interests and even simple communication. This disconnect in the relationship can lead to abuse, betrayal, infidelity, separation and divorce. in Couples Counseling we will identify the issues, set goals and activities to reconnect with the love that is still there.

What brought you together? What drew you to each other? What are your shared hopes, dreams and values? These are just some of the questions that I ask couples in order to help re-connect them with what they hold dear to their hearts; with what they give meaning because I believe that what we give meaning to helps us face the difficult times in relationships.

When two individuals desire to be together due to the mutual love they feel for one another and encounter difficulties within the relationship seeking therapy is vital. Each couple has specific relationship need and goals. Learning the partners love language, relationship goals and assisting them with communication skills can be crucial in providing longevity to the relationship.

When you and your partner aren't getting along it can effect the way you feel about everything else in your life. Are you constantly arguing? Feeling lost, lonely, and frustrated? Are you longing for more of a connection? Don't let another day go by like this. I will help you learn to communicate better with each other. Together we will discover the underlying issues that are feuling your conflicts and work toward more harmony in your relationship. I will help you reach your goals for coming in as a couple. Let's get started right away!

Every relationship experiences arguments and conflict. That is an inevitable part of being in an intimate relationship. These differences do not have to undermine a relationship so long as the underlying patterns of interaction which keep these conflicts active can be understood and resolved. As a specialist in couples counseling, I seek to help a couple identify these patterns and learn how to listen with understanding while promoting the authenticity of each individual. I use an emotionally focused treatment which allows a couple to work through their conflicts while enhancing their feelings of attachment and closeness. With 32 years of experience, I have helped many couples do this.