Anger Management and Counseling in Forest Park, IL.

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. The way we express anger can be what distinguishes us as being healthy or unhealthy partners, parents, co-workers, employees or managers. Anger is generally a surface emotion. Beneath it lies another strong emotion, usually sadness, hurt, fear or inadequacy. In our efforts to protect ourselves from being vulnerable we often act out in anger, which generally takes us farther away from our true goals. In my work with you I will help you understand your anger in a different way and provide you with techniques and coping skills to manage this strong emotion moving you closer to your ultimate goals and strengthening your relationships.

I've seen many clients over the years with anger management issues. Men require a therapist's sensitivity to the issues they use anger to deal with. Learning the practical skills to deal with anger and understanding the issues of entitlement, humiliation, control, and fear that often provoke rage or it's opposite, suppressing, internalizing it, is my goal in working with clients through individual and couple's counseling. I see many couples where their anger with each other contaminates possibilities of working on common issues so I work with couples to disentangle their disruptive, sometimes abusive communications through a combination of individual and couple's counseling.

There is healthy anger and unhealthy anger. Unhealthy anger tends to affect the ones we love the most, our overall mood, and our goals in life. Anger Management is an effective way to get ahold of your anger. I will work with you to help gain insights into your anger and provide you real world tools you can use to manage your anger more effectively.

I view anger not as something to fear or suppress, but as a powerful and often protective emotion that holds important truths. In therapy, we’ll create a safe, nonjudgmental space to explore what your anger may be guarding—pain, hurt, boundaries, or unmet needs. Together, we’ll gently untangle the layers beneath it, helping you understand its roots and learn how to express it in ways that bring clarity, healing, and connection. Your anger deserves to be heard with compassion.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.