There are many approaches to psychotherapy. As a PhD psychologist and marriage–family therapist for over 28 years my approach has been highly influenced by the executive coaching and consulting work I've done in the business world where there is a high demand for results. Many clients have given feedback that I'm much more active and involved compared to therapists they've seen in the past, and they appreciate this rather than just sitting back and listening without much comment. I have a very strong desire and commitment to help every client that I see make major changes in their life leading to greater fulfillment and happiness—this is what I strive for with every individual!

Therapy can help with a number of different issues. We offer a systemic approach to understanding problems. In other words, what is happening in your relationships, home, school, or community that is impacting your mental health? In addition, how is what you are dealing with affecting the relationships you have? In discovering this, we can move forward with how to manage feelings of anxiety, depression, stress, or other mental health issues.

Research supports that people change through the therapeutic relationship. Regardless of techniques or training, the most important variable is the relationship between therapist and client. It is a place where, with a good therapist, clients can say whatever they want without being judged. There are few places in life where people can experience that. When we have started to talk about the problem, we are already starting to change.

A respectful, collaborative, optimistic and holistic approach is used. People are best understood based on how they relate to others. This is rooted in the patterns learned in their most significant relationship experiences – usually their relationship with their parents. So your family history is very important. Since reality and meaning are created by you, what you think about your problem and yourself is very important. It is also significant what is happening for you in the present moment, in the therapy room and in the therapeutic relationship. Your problems will be undermined by looking at some of your beliefs about yourself, the world and how you might be unknowingly perpetuating the

Within my private practice, I offer individual adult psychotherapy. My approach while working with you is to see you as a unique individual. Developing a therapeutic relationship that can assist you in coming to know, learn and understand your internal world. Our internal world is made up of conscious and unconscious thoughts, feelings, fears and anxieties that do impact our external choices. My treatment approach is to help you open up more awareness of yourself internally to be able to grow more skills to care for yourself in different ways. I believe we develop symptoms when our internal selves feel stuck and unable to grow. Therapy is about fostering growth.

Psychotherapy helps individuals to understand more of the underlying reasons, contributors and factors of life struggles. People are not the same, so every therapist and treatment plan is not the same! I work with my clients on those areas and goals they feel they want to work on, collaborating with my clients on what feels right for them and what direction they want to go. I am not the "knower of all," as time and time again it is shown YOU are the expert of YOUR life!

I am a relational therapist who works from a narrative perspective. That means that I preference the knowledge and experience of the people who chose to work with me. While I can offer tools, theories and techniques to make the changes you want in your life, our work together will always be centered around your personal values and preferences. I take great care to work at a pace that is right for you and on goals that you identify. I use warmth, humor and curiosity to create an impactful therapeutic experience.

Psychotherapy can include individual therapy, couples therapy, or family therapy and address a variety of issues such as depression, relationship issues, anxiety, life changes, etc. Depending on what you are looking for in therapy, we will work together to come up with a customized treatment plan for your individual situation and your goals. As part of this, we will explore how your family history, childhood, and important relationships are impacting you today. I will help you to develop coping strategies that use mindfulness, relaxation, behavioral changes, and emotional regulation.

I work with older adolescents and adult women in Minnesota doing online counseling. I lead with empathy and seek to understand your past, your current symptoms and struggles and what you are hoping life will look like in the future. Together we will work on processing your feelings in conjunction with giving you skills that will help you cope with your current situation.

I'll help you explore what's getting in the way of living the life you want, and support you as you start experiencing more of what's important to you. You'll gain insight into your personal challenges and learn useful tools for managing yourself, your relationships and your problems. My philosophy is that our past experiences and the ways we've learned to deal with stress and relationships often leave us unprepared to cope with current issues. We tend to rely on old habits to solve problems and end up feeling frustrated or disappointed. With support, you'll discover your capacity to feel more comfortable with yourself and share that with others.

Therapy can help. The ability to talk about your thoughts and feelings with a non-judgmental, trained professional can, in itself, be beneficial. In addition, our therapists are trained in a number of therapeutic orientations. We offer help with grief, trauma, depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, transitions, and divorce, just to name a few. We also offer therapy for relationship and family issues, parenting, and play therapy for children. Your relationship with your therapist is critical to success in therapy. Visit our website at http://www.centerlifecounseling.com for more information or to contact us for scheduling.

James Hillman once said, "we've had a hundred years of psychotherapy and the world is getting worse." While there are many occasions where the validation and listening endemic to psychotherapy makes sense, there are times where we overassume that "feeling better" and "changing behavior" are the same. Grey Matters International, Inc. goes after the forgotten brain laws to behavior change that therapists miss when processing hours and hours of dialogues with people. Utilizing a cutting edge technology to facilitate the emotional process of change, we can make the therapy process way more effective, faster, and with less money spent. Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

If you are like many victims of Narcissistic Abuse, you might find yourself scared and hesitant to reach out to a therapist. Perhaps you are worried that someone like me might tell you that you truly are the problem. Or, maybe you have had negative experiences and felt dismissed, minimized and unseen in your experiences. I want you to know that I believe you. There is a way forward through all of this pain. I have helped others in similar situations and I would love to be of service to you. I invite you to snoop my website. You are welcome to email me or if you are feeling ready, directly schedule our first appointment via the schedule link.