Great Couples Counselling in Schomberg, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

If you are reading this profile, you are probably concerned about your relationship and want to seek help. You and your partner may be arguing all the time. You likely feel you are no longer connected and feel supported in your relationship. You may feel you are losing trust in your partner and in the relationship. Relationship, like everything else, requires a great deal of effort to build and cultivate. Rupture are inevitable but can be repaired/restored through the help of couple therapy. With over 12 years of clinical experience, I humbly want to support you to repair or restore your relationship. Please don't hesitate to reach out and get the help you need at this moment.

Therapy with couples is amongst the most rewarding aspects of my work as a therapist. Not much gives me greater pleasure than helping couples develop a deeper understanding of both their situation and of one another that leads to a more meaningful and enjoyable shared life. In my experience, couples can make incredible progress when both parties are motivated to improve the quality of their relationship and learn to love one another in healthier, more fulfilling ways.

Beneath most intimate relationship struggles, there is a key defining question being asked, “Are you really there for me?” This question embodies many others: When I need you, can I reach you? Do you respect and support me? Do you care about me when I'm hurting? Do you still want me? When the answers to these questions become shaky in our mind, we get stuck in unhealthy patterns, and may need some help finding our way back to each other. Emotionally Focused Therapy is an evidence-based model that helps couples reconnect with each other and (re)discover the relationship they have always wanted. Reach out today to bring healing and enhancement to the most important relationship in your life!

When you choose to explore couple’s therapy, there is often a desire to connect with your partner but a piling up of unresolved emotions that may motivate you to seek help. As a therapist, I use that same desire to try to help you recognize the patterns of communication that are preventing you from understanding each other. I would like to validate both your experiences and foster a new kind of communication that can hold space for both your needs. If you are ready to rebuild your relationship, call now for a free consultation.

Intimate relationships are like a dance – they can be quite joyful and energizing but when facing obstacles, partners need to find the steps and rhythm to move more freely. Couple therapy can provide a safe space in which you and your partner can gain a deeper understanding of one another and what contributes to difficulties within the dance of your relationship. Should you decide to attend sessions, I will work with you to facilitate honest conversations, help you to better understand what you may need from one another, and support you in finding a way to step toward more acceptance, intimacy, and connection. Contact me or book a free consultation if you wish to learn more.

Your marriage is in crisis, or you feel "stuck". Perhaps you are dealing with one of many common relationship issues, Infidelity, Frequent bickering and fighting, Inability to stop destructive patterns of behavior, Feeling taken for granted, Unsupported or misunderstood, No longer enjoying time together, Damaged trust or jealousy, Loss of intimacy, Challenges with parenting, Difficulties with the stress of work and family. Learning new communication skills which replace the old repetitive patterns, using Imago and Emotionally Focused Therapy are two strong amongst various approaches to reignite and/or deepen the connection that restores trust, safety and security, and harmony.

Relationships can be both satisfying, and frustrating. Although we can get along with some people some of the time, in close relationships we can sometimes get stuck, over-reactive, or even too distant. In couple counselling we can explore what's not working in your relationship, what your individual and 'couple' ideals and dreams are, and then strategize and work together on getting your relationship to a better place.

Relationship’s dynamics can be challenging to navigate even during the best of times, and couple therapy can help partners find new ways to relate, connect, and communicate with each other. Asking for what you want and need in a relationship can be scary, so therapy should be a safe space where you and your partner feel comfortable exploring your needs and expectations together. I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore patterns of interaction that they want to strengthen or change in their relationships, as well as holding space for vulnerability and connection. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

Relationships are work in which both parties have to be committed to resolving any arising issues. Often, a lack of communication, having unsatisfied emotional needs and expectations causes constant arguments between couples. Therefore, couples seek outside help when they are unable to resolve the conflict between themselves due to other issues or underlying conflict. In therapy discussing each other’s thoughts and feelings about the issues helps couples to get to know each other once again and also help them to better understand their spouse as well as themselves. As a result, the couple may acknowledge the root of the disruption and the changes needed to mend the relationship.

When working with couples, I use several approaches to treatment including PACT and RLT. You may find that out work together is different than previous experiences you have had in couples therapy. Through our work together, you and your partner will discover how to stay connected, help each other feel safe and secure, manage each other’s emotional highs and lows, fight well and minimize each other’s stress. Longer sessions allow us to go deeper, getting to the heart of the issues you are facing and allowing time for repair to occur in session. Learn to have a secure relationship where both partner’s needs are met.

Intimate relationships are complex and have many moving parts. That’s why it’s common for couples to participate in counselling separately to get to know themselves better outside their romantic partnerships. Investing in your own mental wellness enables you to put your best foot forward in your relationships and ensure you're coming from a place of authenticity and honesty.

As human beings we are hard wired for connection, yet many of us struggle in our most meaningful relationships for many reasons including betrayal, infidelity, blended families and other conflicts. Through 30 years of work we have recognized that often couples leave their relationship at the time they have the most to learn. Our team of therapists are trained to implement a variety of skills and techniques when working with couples, such as active listening skills, Imago, Gottman’s principals, managing emotions, and positive communication skills.

Dr. Van Blyderveen offers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples. This approach is evidence based and has a greater success rate than traditional couple's therapy. Therapy will focus on improving communication through creating and strengthening your emotional bond with one another. During therapy sessions Dr. Van Blyderveen will guide you and your partner through emotional conversations with one another with the goal of improving closeness, connection, and acceptance of one another.

Relationships are very complex. They have the potential to enrich our lives if we let them. They require flexibility and compromise, good communication skills, and an awareness of ourselves as individuals. A couple is made up of two unique individuals who come from very different family backgrounds and who bring diverse beliefs and perspectives into the relationship. It's no wonder that difficulties arise. It is common for partners to get caught up in negative, destructive cycles that unless stopped, can propel the relationship into greater disharmony. Couples therapy can lead to a deeper and more meaningful relationship.

In 2015, I began studying the PACT (Psychobiological) Model for Couples Therapy. Using this model, I am passionate about working with couples. Based on "secure-functioning", you discover exactly, what you wanted but didn't know how to get there. Increasing your awareness on many levels gives you many more options. Discover how you and your partner can feel the way you long to feel and experience a warm safe loving relationship. Rediscover the promise held within the love and attraction that brought you together.

My approach is to help people recognize that relationships are two-sided and understand how each individual contributes to the couple’s dynamic. With that understanding, we work toward reaching a win-win situation, aiming to restore the satisfaction of the relationship. Together, we create a safe space for you to grow past the areas of “stuckness” -- that is, the old patterns that are learned when we are young and are brought to our current relationships. This is true for all of us. Therapy enables us to form new and healthy attachment patterns that are nourishing and nurturing, providing opportunities for new growth and satisfaction.

Our team specializes is in working with couple relationships. We practice Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples; one of the most researched and effective ways to treat couple distress. Our goal is to help couples create secure and meaningful connections so that they no longer need the assistance of a couples therapist and are able to work through life's challenges on their own.

We all want to be loved and feel connected to our partners. The reality is that relationships are nuanced and complicated and can often touch on our deepest wounds and insecurities. Couples therapy is a wonderful tool to aid in building a healthy and fulfilling relationship. We will work to identify helpful and harmful patterns, create space for open and honest communication, and learn how to love one another more effectively. In couples therapy your relationship is at the centre and together we will work to strengthen and maintain your connection. Please contact me for a free consultation to determine if I am the right fit for you.

Couples therapy helps in addressing issues related to relationships, marriage, parenting, communication and/or other issues faced by couples. I practice couples therapy from an emotion focused lens, which allows couples to express and feel emotions, while creating a space to effectively communicate with each other, and develop better understandings and dynamics between the two individuals.

Intimate relationships are an integral part of our lives, and the quality of those relationships has a considerable impact on us. However, relationships can be difficult. Couples therapy helps people to improve communication, develop new ways of solving problems, and increase emotional and physical intimacy. If there has been a significant breach of trust or marital infidelity, therapy focuses on coping with the event, increasing understanding of the factors that contributed to it, and if required, helping the couple decide whether to remain in the marriage or end it. When the couple desires to remain together, the focus is on helping the couple to heal and repair their relationship.

One of the biggest decisions we make in life is choosing our partner. And then the real work begins. Divorce rates speak to how difficult sustaining a healthy marriage can be. Evidence-based studies have shown essential elements to a healthy and nourishing relationship. Couples counselling focuses on a variety of these areas including, communication, conflict management/resolution, and connection. Presenting issues include communication, conflict, infidelity, parenting issues, separation and divorce.

All relationships go through ups and downs but seeing a trained and experienced therapist can make a big difference in how situations get resolved. We have over a decade of experience helping couples improve their communication, find healthy ways to manage conflict, go through life transitions together, get their parenting styles on the same page, address trust issues, deal with lack of intimacy or sexual issues, recover from extra marital affairs, manage the division of labor for household responsibilities and many many other issues. We approach each situation uncovering and building on peoples’ strengths, helping them to reach successful resolutions.

In couples counselling, I focus on helping partners improve communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their emotional connection. I use a combination of the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to guide couples in understanding each other’s needs and developing healthier patterns of interaction. My approach is non-judgmental and empathetic, allowing couples to feel safe as they explore their challenges. Through our work together, clients develop practical tools to enhance intimacy, rebuild trust, and foster a deeper sense of understanding and support within their relationship.

I provide a supportive space for you and your partner to strengthen your relationship, improve communication, and work through challenges together. Whether you’re dealing with conflict, trust issues, or feeling disconnected, I help you better understand each other’s needs and rebuild closeness. Together, we explore healthier ways to resolve differences, deepen intimacy, and create a stronger, more fulfilling partnership that supports both of you and your relationship.

A loving relationship can be a source of profound connecting and security, and as with many aspects of life worth pursuing, it requires nurturing. As a therapist, I am deeply committed to creating a warm, safe, and inclusive environment where clients feel heard, understood, and empowered to create meaningful growth and change in their lives. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if I am the right fit for you.