Grief and Loss Counselling in Richmond Hill, ON.

I have personally suffered a great loss in my life, as a result, I feel that I am uniquely qualified to work with clients who have also suffered similar tragedies. Textbook grief therapy is not enough. My experience has helped me formulate a deep understanding of the particular fears, sadness, and problems one faces while dealing with a profound loss.

Processing loss is painful, confusing and often isolating. This is not something that is as simple as progressing through "stages" in order and typically involves emotions that we have been taught to avoid or suppress. Working with a therapist to unpack and go through grief and loss can offer some space and perspective that is not there when we talk with friends and family. Here you can have a non-judgmental space to take the time to work this out in the way that you need. This is not always easy, but we can navigate this together.

Unfortunately grief is an inescapable part of life. When we lose someone or something in our life dealing with the void can be an uphill battle. Grief isn’t always necessarily only a feeling that we have, more importantly it is a process we must go through to heal. Using a variety and tailored approach to therapy, I am committed to all of my clients to ensure that we walk the path to rebuilding yourselves together. Whether the process is long or short, my clients know that I will always be there for them. Many think of grief in terms of death but the truth is there are many different types of grief examples may be loss of relationship, loss of job, divorce, grieve the way things used to be.

Grief and loss are significant life experiences that can be difficult to manage. I have heard from many that sometimes it seems like the extreme sadness will not leave them. I work with such clients to try and make space in their life to experience positive emotions along with the sadness. Grief is very individual and some clients desire help to "move past the grief", while others do not agree with this. I work to meet clients where they are, to optimize their day to day life experiences according to their own individual hopes. In addition, I help clients to find meaning in their experience of grief and loss, honour the life of their lost loved one, and manage the related difficult emotions.

Individual therapy is focused on your unique needs and goals. Individual therapy includes learning about your history and life experiences then establishing goals to accomplish in counselling. Our histories are the roots that provide us with a foundation of strength and resilience. But, our histories can also hold the stories that cause pain, insecurity and doubt. It is our belief that the best therapy comes from helping to heal the roots that cause those stuck points. Through this we can create lasting change.

When we lose someone we love, our relationship with them doesn’t need to end. Your loved one is still very much a part of life. Grief counselling can give you a safe place to talk about your loved one, any regrets you are holding on to and resolve any guilt you may be feeling. Grief counseling can help you with “stuck points” and help you oscillate between sorrow and function.

I walk with my clients in their journey of grieving, through their difficult time as they try to understand their loss and their feelings. I offer them a safe space and time to understand their feelings for their losses. There are many other kinds of losses in our lives. We may lose our loved ones, our health, our physical mobility, our relationships with others, our dreams or our jobs. These are losses which we may not realize that we need to grieve. We may feel that something is not quite right.

If you are dealing with the loss of a loved one, whether it be from death, divorce, or other circumstances, you are on a very painful journey, one that takes some time to traverse and is not easy. It can be helpful to have someone like myself walk with you on that journey and honour your feelings of loss and sadness and, when you are ready, to help pick up the pieces and continue to live a productive and satisfying life. That does not mean you leave the past behind but that you find a way of integrating a new life with the old. Reaching out is a sign of courage and strength.

There are many forms of loss we encounter in life - relationships, places, work, meaningful engagements, roles at work or at home, etc. The deeper any of these mean to us, the harder it can be to process the loss. I offer a place to sit with loss, to explore what's going on with it, to learn what's normal & what to expect in this type of journey. Grief has it's own schedule, it's important to honour this, and to grieve well.

Having practiced for 20 years, and spent 6 years in a Trauma Centre in Ontario, I have gained a great deal of experience in working with Grief & Loss. The griefwork I have done has been with adolescents, adults and families. I allow my clients to work through their traumatic issues, loss, and grief in a compassionate, gentle, safe manner while assisting them to achieve greater relief from pain over time.

Are you using alcohol, substances, or addictive behaviors to cope with grief and loss? Although they provide relief in the short term, their long-term effects on your relationships and health can make it even more difficult to cope. Through a compassionate non-judgmental approach, I help clients explore their relationship to grief and loss so that they can overcome addictive coping strategies. If you're looking for another way forward, feel free to reach out and we can set up a free consultation to discuss further.

Every loss changes your personal puzzle. Re-integrating that loss into your life and challenging yourself to move forward can be a very daunting and difficult experience. Processing the loss, forgiveness, mindfulness, and healing are major components to my work in this area. You can move forward. It just takes time, effort, and re-integration. There are no quick fixes--just meaningful changes and transformations.

With Gestalt therapy the five tasks of mourning, are supported: (1) To accept the reality of the loss, (2) To experience the pain of grief, (3) To adjust to the environment in which the deceased is missing, (4) To withdraw (some) emotional energy and reinvest it in another relationship, and (5) To find a place for and maintain a continuing bond with what we lose, however not in any specific order. A gestalt therapist supports the bereaved with an emphasis on a "loving authentic presence and communication that allows expression of EACH other’s personhood" so that feelings are honored and explored at the clients own pace. The here and now is emphasized and that is what leads to support/change

Have you found yourself in deep sadness from a recent loss or that may be many years old and perhaps you are only recently recognizing? People were designed to reach out to someone when they are grieving and have had a loss. Unfortunately in our modern world, we are expected to be brief about our losses, to shrug them off and move on. You don't have to suffer alone. I will support you to more fully allow yourself to experience this loss and sadness in safety so that you can truly process the pain. Please contact me for help.