Great Couples Counseling in Philadelphia, PA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Anger is not an aphrodisiac nor is it helpful in getting more of what you want. Couples in conflict often focus too much energy on changing their partner. The problem is that each partner does not have direct control over the other. The way out is of this dilemma is to learn how to not get so upset over what you dislike in your partner. I teach each partner how to improve their relationship by first modifying their own behavior. By having better control over your emotional and behavioral reactions you can more constructively communicate, negotiate and influence your partner. I teach you how to get your message across and positively influence your partner so that you can enjoy the results!

Couples therapy can be like inviting someone into your “home,” the special relational zone that you share with your significant other. Teletherapy can offer further enrichment to the therapeutic process, in addition to convenience factors. I strive to maintain a neutral and gentle perspective, helping you each observe and better manage your relational patterns of communion or disconnect. I can adapt my style to help you learn and practice new ways to empathize with your partner’s perspective, communicate effectively, resolve conflict and enjoy healthy connected-ness. I use tools such as the Myers-Briggs temperament styles, IMAGO techniques, and the Prepare-Enrich assessment survey.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

How to Get the Love You Want Take a minute to think about what you expect from a loving relationship with a partner. Does your list contain any of the following common expectations? o Healing past wounds o Meeting all of your current emotional needs o Fulfilling fantasies and idealizations of how life should be o Making up for other less rewarding aspects of life / making your life "whole" Any one of these expectations alone can be a very tall order! Not surprisingly, relationships often buckle under these kinds of pressures. So, what to do? Learn to take care of and give to the relationship; in other words, give instead of trying to get the love you want. Take care of the rel....

A relationship requires work but it doesn't have to feel painful and exhausting along the way. Couples therapy focuses on helping partners form positive and meaningful interactions, develop relational goals, and build on communication skills in order to feel heard, understood, and deeply loved by your significant other. I use Emotion Focused Therapy to help partners label and understand each other's underlying feelings and to develop more affect and compassion for one another. I also offer couples yoga to work on intimacy and trust issues.

Couples Therapy focuses on improving the relationship between two or more people. It makes no judgments about relationships and can be used widely through all shapes and sizes of relationships. This includes monogamous, polyamorous, LGBTQIA+, interracial, age difference, and other relationships. Improving the relationship can include addressing things like recurring conflicts, feelings of disconnection, affairs, issues related to sex, or issues that come from external stressors. As couples therapists, we intimately understand how talking about this intimate relationship is daunting. We approach all our clients with empathy, kindness, and understanding.