James Christensen, LMFT

About me:

• Retired Air Force pilot
• Husband and father of four
• Trauma therapist
• Marriage therapist
• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #142990

⠀ My passion:

• Helping people grow stronger & more capable of love
• Helping couples create peaceful & passionate marriages
• Healing trauma in individuals, couples, and families
• Serving Military & first responder Communities
• Bringing more courage and kindness into the world

⠀ What kind of therapist am I?

• Candid, direct, assertive, compassionate
• Responsibility, accountability, and growth
• Results, results, results. I want you to feel better ASAP. 
• I love my job. I'm passionate about what I do, and I take it seriously.

⠀ My approach to marriage therapy:

• All sessions involve both partners.
• I'll talk to you about you. I won't talk to you about your partner. 
• The focus is on growth, change, courage, and kindness. This is not easy work. 
• There is no assigning of blame or determining who is at fault
• We talk about the future, not the past. The future is the thing we can change. 
• I don't allow couples to argue in session.
• Every second counts — we are here to make things better.
• You can only change yourself, not your partner.
• You have more power than you think you do.
• I want you to leave every session inspired, challenged, and reassured. 
• Rebuilding love is hard, but it's not impossible. 

⠀ What is Differentiation Counseling?

• Differentiation is the ability to hold onto yourself in tough situations (like marriage)
• Differentiation the key to creating thriving relationships at work and at home
• Differentiation is what separates adults from children
• Differentiation is the only way to create a happy marriage

⠀ My wish for the couples I work with:

• You will become more capable of love.
• You will leave every session feeling challenged and inspired
• You will know exactly what you can do to strengthen your marriage
• You will become a better lover.
• You will have a clear understanding of what is in your control, and what is not in your control
• You will learn to feel safe in your home and in your marriage.
• Make marriage fun again!

⠀ Benefits of Couples Therapy:

• Better sex, connection, communication
• Less Anxiety
• No more walking on eggshells
• Less arguing, stonewalling, and resentment

Benefits of Individual Therapy:

• Regain focus, ambition, and determination
• Learn to stand up for yourself
• Regain your lost confidence

I use these methods:

• EMDR, IFS, and ART to heal trauma
• Differentiation Counseling to help couples
• Somatic Therapy to handle anxiety

I specialize in serving:

• Military & first responder couples
• High-achieving couples
• High-conflict couples
• Entrepreneurs
• Christian couples

Trauma therapy can help with

• childhood sexual abuse
• childhood wounds
• combat trauma
• first responder trauma
• relationship trauma

Cost

• $160 per 50-minute sessio, increasing to $200 per session in January 2024
• I can provide a bill for you to submit to your insurance
• Sliding scale is available on a case-by-case basis.

Location

• 300 Harding Blvd Suite 108, Roseville CA 95678
• Online in California
• Phone:  916-292-8920
• Web:  jamesmchristensen.com

Education & Training

• Master’s degree in Psychology from Western Institute for Social Research
• EMDR training with Philip Mansfield
• ART Training with Kathy Long
• Gottman Method Level Two Training with the Gottman Institute

Favorite Books

• Already Free by Tift
• Passionate Marriage by Schnarch
• The Courage to Be Happy by Kishimi

Favorite Therapists

• Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
• David Schnarch
• Esther Perel
• Terry Real
• Bruce Tift