Great Couples Counselling in Courtenay, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples counselling tends to focus on relationship issues between the couple. Types of issues range from enhancing relationships, seeking deeper connection, improving communications, preparing for marriage or living together, areas of disagreement, values, expectations, infidelity, pregnancy issues, family related issues, and joint decision making. My person-centered approach and solution focused therapy tends to be effective for most couples. The benefits to the couple can be wide ranging and include enhanced communications, greater intimacy and higher relationship satisfaction.

Couples are the shuffling of two different sets of life experiences and expectations, and two different family cultures. Mix in a few kids and the normal stressors of life and the differences can become stark sometimes necessitating a little outside insight. My approach tends to be a narrative therapy one. Each of us has a story we tell ourselves about our relationship and my job is to help bring those narratives closer together.

Many couples struggle with communication and "feeling heard". Over time a once happy and vibrant relationship can begin to decay through hurt feelings, anger, lack of attention, feeling valued, infidelity, the strain of children, childhood issues, and much more. We focus to heal the wounds of the past and rebuild the love and trust within the relationship. We work to equip both partners with a voice and ability to effectively listen and hear one another. We will work together to establish individual boundaries within the relationship, while creating a stronger and healthier connection. Our goal is to equip each couple with the tools they require for success, independent of counselling

Couples counselling focuses on developing strong communication skills, conflict resolution techniques, forgiveness, and effective dialogue. Many couples experience frustration at some point in their relationship where they feel they are not heard, valued or even loved any more. A toxic cycle of blaming, fighting and pulling away begins to form, creating distance and fatigue. For others an affair has shaken the very core of the safety and love they once felt in their relationship. It can be an agonizing and terrifying discovery for the partner who has been betrayed, and strong feelings of guilt, shame and a lack of understanding to how it even happened for the offending partner. Whether you are looking for a tune up to build back the excitement and...(view profile to read more)

Real intimacy is being vulnerable with your partner and communicating with honesty and openness. Most couples strive for this level of intimacy, but many worry about being hurt or getting into an argument. When we feel like we are being attacked, we put up barriers and become defensive. Intimacy becomes harder and harder to achieve. But, when we do not feel like we have to protect ourselves, it becomes easy to communicate and get intimacy back. Using Lisa's ground breaking techniques, we let go of the need to protect and defend ourselves. Communication becomes easy and intimacy flourishes. When you are ready to make real change, contact Lisa and improve your relationships.