Great Couples Counselling in Richmond, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Fay offers help for relationship issues such as trust, commitment, conflicts or frequent fighting, betrayal, addictions, or feeling like roommates. Fay is well trained in the most effective relationship therapies and she will provide non-judgmental and fair counselling for you and your partner, or for you alone (if your partner will not come). You will learn skills to communicate better, reduce fighting, feel closer, increase affection and intimacy, and solve problems. Fay offers Sat and evening appts. She's been happily married for over 35 years. All welcome regardless of age, gender, faith, race, or culture.

Loving, successful relationships need to be carefully and skillfully nurtured in the following five areas: Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Financial. Couples who are ready to do ongoing work on their relationships are richly rewarded with a loving, meaningful and joyful life together. Committed relationships that have the possibility of morphing into long term relationships benefit greatly by being guided by the Gottman research on relationships as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

Intimate relationships often challenge us in ways few other relationships or experiences do. Whether you are starting a new relationship or struggling as a couple, I can help you address issues such as trust, intimacy, communication, conflict, and distance that might be preventing you from finding harmony in your relationship. In our work together, you can gain insight into how to improve patterns of relating to one another, learn about the possible origins of these patterns, find ways to de-escalate conflict, and move toward building trust, intimacy, and a sense of greater connection.

I have extensive experience in marriage and couple therapy. In any relationship, both people play a role in the problems and concerns, and it take two to find solutions. I work with couple dealing with communication issues, fidelity, divorce and separation, co-parenting and commitment issues. I promote mutual support, and a collaborative approach to problem solving which builds trust in the couple and the counselling process. I help couples move through the old, repetitive cycles of arguing towards new and healthier communication and connection.

Are you experiencing a strained relationship with your partner? Do you feel stuck in an endless cycle of fighting? Relationship breakdown can make you feel like you are walking on eggshells, frustrated that your partner doesn't hear your concerns and leave you so alone, heartbroken and scared for what the future may hold. If this sounds familiar to you, we can help! We help you break free from unhealthy patterns by giving you tools to effectively communicate, increase closeness & intimacy, address conflict, problem-solve effectively and build a more loving relationship with your partner. Contact us to schedule a free 15-minute consultation so that we can help you bring the spark back.

The first step with my approach to couples therapy is for us to establish rapport as you inform me of the problem that has brought you to therapy. I use a Choice Theory approach which includes defining more closely what each of you want for yourselves as individuals and the relationship as a whole. From there, we get to work on rebuilding trust in the relationship by enhancing communication skills so each of you feel listened to, heard, and respected. Then we can build on trust to establish the changes needed to restore the happiness that brought you together in the first place.

My work with couples is founded in attachment theory. Our romantic relationships mimic our first relationships as infants. I will help you to understand your individual attachment styles (ways of relating) and how these may be currently working against you. With this new understanding of your partner, you can begin to work together as a team.