Great Couples Counselling in Fort St John, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Trobak Holistic Counselling's approach to couples therapy is: 1. Understand why a the couple is struggling. 2. Often people bring in their own baggage into a relationship. These unresolved issues can cause tension, frustration, lack of trust, abuse, disrespect etc in a relaitonship. 3. Working with individuals to work through their own personal stuff and then bringing the individuals together as a couple to work through issues with being a couple.

My approach to couples counselling integrates Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method principles to create a balanced, supportive, and practical path toward change. I help partners slow down, understand the emotions and attachment needs driving their conflict, and reshape negative cycles into moments of connection. At the same time, I offer clear, evidence-based tools for communication, repair, and strengthening of your relationship. Clients benefit from a space that feels structured yet compassionate—where they can safely explore their patterns, learn new skills, and build a more secure, intimate, and resilient bond.

I understand that navigating relationship issues can be incredibly challenging, affecting both your emotional health and the quality of your partnership. In our couples counselling sessions, we'll establish a safe environment for open dialogue, employing the Gottman Method to identify and address the root causes of your conflicts. This evidence-based approach focuses on improving communication, building empathy, and fostering mutual respect. While the journey to a healthier relationship may take time and commitment from both sides, there's genuine hope for renewal and happiness. Together, we can work towards a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

Emotionally focused therapy is based on the connections of childhood attachment theory(John Bowlby). Inconsistent care in childhood can lead to difficult patterns into adulthood and, more specifically, in intimate partner relationships. These patterns are modifiable through EFT counselling support; understanding them is key to the development of more secure and fulfilling adult relationships.

Couples counselling with us provides a structured, supportive space for partners to improve communication, resolve recurring conflicts, and deepen emotional understanding. Our approach is collaborative and evidence-based, helping both partners feel heard while identifying unhelpful patterns that may be impacting the relationship. Together, we focus on rebuilding trust, strengthening connection, and developing practical tools for navigating challenges more effectively. Couples often find that therapy helps them move from reactive cycles into more intentional, respectful, and connected ways of relating to one another.

Maybe you still love each other, but your relationship doesn’t feel the way it used to. You may be stuck in the same arguments, struggling to communicate, feeling emotionally distant, or more like roommates than partners. Perhaps affection or sexual intimacy has faded, or trust has been hurt by an affair or betrayal. I provide couples counselling and marriage counselling to help you understand the patterns keeping you disconnected and find a different way forward. My approach is warm, down-to-earth and practical, drawing from Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and Gottman-informed work. Together, we work toward better communication, greater intimacy, repaired trust and feeling like partners again.