Couples Counsellor
Lincoln Stoller, PhD, CHt, CCPCPr
Registered Clinical Counsellor
In V8Z 5C8 - Nearby to Shawnigan Lake.
I am ambivalent about the term "couples counseling" because it elevates a concept and deprecates the individuals. All counseling is individual counseling; couples counseling is counseling two individuals together. The first thing an insightful counselor learns is that the presenting story is never true, it's just the advertisement. Beneath is a complex story, and, with a struggling couple, the plot is no longer following the story line. We will birth the new story. Counseling two people who are enmeshed is the crafting of three stories: what each person needs, and what is the best that can be done together. This is the realm of thoughts and dreams. Truth is the first medicine we take.
Couples Counsellor
Geoff Williams, MA MSW RCSW RCC
Registered Clinical Counsellor & Registered Clinical Social Worker
In V8Z 1J6 - Nearby to Shawnigan Lake.
The first step with my approach to couples therapy is for us to establish rapport as you inform me of the problem that has brought you to therapy. I use a Choice Theory approach which includes defining more closely what each of you want for yourselves as individuals and the relationship as a whole. From there, we get to work on rebuilding trust in the relationship by enhancing communication skills so each of you feel listened to, heard, and respected. Then we can build on trust to establish the changes needed to restore the happiness that brought you together in the first place.
Couples Counsellor
Alan Caplan, MA, CCC
CCC
In V9A 7M7 - Nearby to Shawnigan Lake.
i have over 30 years dealing with couples issues and have facilitated many healing relationships. The focus of this work is on recognizing some of the communications that create distance and resentments because members of a couple resort to protecting themselves from fear or pain rather than opening to the truth of what they are experiencing. Once a couple recognizes the value of sharing what is really going on and exploring their differences the intimacy and love returns. I also facilitate an active listening process where each person really listens to the other person without interupting or contradicting. After a bit of practise many couples report that this promotes postive changes.
Couples Counsellor
Michelle Gay, M.A., RCC, CCC
Registered Clinical Counsellor, Canadian Certified Counsellor, EMDR Certified Therapist and EMDRIA Certified Consultant, Teacher (BC and TESL Canada)
In V8V 3K8 - Nearby to Shawnigan Lake.
Seeking counselling for your relationship can bring you more clarity about habitual patterns, about your individual self and about your direction to move forward. I provide a safe and confidential place for you and your partner to talk to each other, explore your concerns and to be understood by each other. Sometimes this can involve learning communication skills to help you navigate conversations, tools to manage strong emotions and setting goals.
Couples Counsellor
Cally Farr, MA, RCC
Registered Clinical Counsellor
In V8V 3K8 - Nearby to Shawnigan Lake.
Couples can get into cycles of negative interaction which lead to more and more pain and hurt. Through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy couples learn to recognize their feelings and patterns of interaction, and to become more resilient and more empathic to themselves and their partner. With gentle challenge I will help you examine your own stuck places, and then to discover new ways of relating to your partner. Thus you will both shift to more positive patterns of interaction.
Couples Counsellor
Marilyn Sundeen, M.C., R.C.C.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
In V9B 3S6 - Nearby to Shawnigan Lake.
My experience is that we all have a deep and powerful urge to bond emotionally with another who will offer us safety and acceptance. Our first experiences of love and attachment in our families set the scene and form our future expectations and sense of deserving (or not) of care and care-taking. Our Couples and Relationship work will be informed by Sue Johnson's "Emotionally Focused Therapy". We will explore each partner's early experiences of attachment. Slowly and gently we will work toward how to re-capture and ignite the flame of love, care and wonder that first drew you to the other.
Couples Counsellor
Erin Laird, Erin Laird
Registered Clinical Counsellor
In V8P 1X4 - Nearby to Shawnigan Lake.
Thinking about getting married? Not the marriage type? Together learn more about yourself and the other you want to be with as we explore hopes, dreams, values, and beliefs. Master the art of negotiation and compromise in conflict, as well as the maintenance of healthy boundaries around those "big deal-breaker" issues. Couples of all types of configurations will learn about being an ally for each other as we work towards respect, love, collaborative problem solving and mutual understanding.
Shawnigan Lake is located in British Columbia, Canada. Shawnigan Lake therapists serve postal code: V0R.