Family Counselling Services in Shawnigan Lake, BC.

Dr Sloat’s counselling approach re: Family Therapy includes emphases on identifying individual needs both within and outside of family relationships, and on learning how we can best negotiate and reconcile these needs with the needs of others. Included will be skills and strategies that will help you to better communicate, set boundaries, resolve conflicts, and understand relationship dynamics.

The narcissism-co-dependency (or self-love deficit as described by Ross Rosenberg) pattern begins for many of us in the family unit. Relationships we form early in life shape our templates for relationships later in life. Learning to understand our own patterns of problem behaviours helps us develop self-awareness and opens the door to change. Is there a pattern of power imbalances, control issues, manipulation or even abuse in your family? Learn to see where things are going wrong and develop new coping techniques that help you navigate troubling relationships and build healthy new relationships.

Family counselling can assist you to better understand your personal challenges, enhance your self awareness and these lead to improved relationships. Laurie believes that how you make sense of your childhood experiences has a profound effect on how you parent your own children. Therefore, having a deeper understanding of yourself can help you to create more effective and pleasurable relationships with your children, partner and with yourself.

Each family is as unique, as are all relationships. Today, families are not only made up of the traditional two parent same sex couple; but are blended, same sex, single parented, having children raised by grandparents and extended family and friends-more than ever in our history. There are times when all types of families experience difficulties that we can not resolve on our own. As your counsellor, I can provide you with a neutral perspective and provide suggestions and strategies to cope. I can provide a safe environment and provide mediation. All parties will be given an opportunity to express themselves openly, with the benefit of finding a resolution, clarity and peace.

The troubles of individuals and couples can affect whole families. Though I do not invite families in as a group I often work one-on-one with the children, parents and siblings of clients. Also, I might meet with combinations such as a mother and daughter or maybe brothers and sisters. Parenting and blending families are big challenges for many. Some people are upset by financial or trust issues or want to improve communication skills. Counseling helps you gain insight and understanding into how families function. You will learn new skills and increase in self esteem and confidence. You can achieve the goal of making the changes you need to make your family life more satisfying.

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Are you struggling to communicate with your family members or navigate the complexities of your relationships? Family and dynamic relationship counselling can provide the support and guidance you need to foster stronger connections and develop healthy communication patterns. Our experienced counsellors are trained to help you understand underlying issues, manage conflict, and work towards resolution. Don't let the strain of broken relationships hold you back.

As children or adults it can be really challenging to just plain get along with brothers, sisters, children and parents! Who else knows how to push our buttons better? Conflict in families is to some extent normal and necessary. Find out how to have healthy conflict management skills to be able to elicit the love and care you need from your family to offer it in return. Families of all types of configurations will learn about being an ally for each other as we work towards respect, love, collaborative problem solving and mutual understanding.

Today family can mean different things to different people. Each family structure is challenged with their own set of difficulties and problems. Whether you are a blended family, single parent family due to divorce or loss, adoptive family, same sex parents, or traditional, we recognize family dynamics can be complicated. Together we will work to develop strong communication skills between each family member, while nurturing and solidifying the family unit. We will work to overcome conflict, heal the wounds of the past, build parenting skills and create a safe environment where all family members can be heard.

Family counselling is an approach that places relationships, rather than any single person, at the centre of the work. It rests on the idea that a family is more than a collection of individuals, it is a living system, with its own rhythms, roles, and ways of relating that develop over time. Each member shapes and is shaped by the others, and the connection between people holds something that none of them carries alone. Because of this, family counselling looks less at who is struggling and more at the patterns that move between people such as how conversations tend to unfold, how closeness and distance get negotiated, how stress ripples through a household, and how care is expressed and re

Family systems can be very complex and difficult to navigate. Through individual and group sessions, we will work to untangle each issue at its core and process sometimes deep-rooted issues that manifest in present-day relational dynamics with your loved ones. I also provide unique support to members of diverse cultural backgrounds; understanding and adapting counselling modalities is necessary to uphold collective family dynamics, intergenerational trauma, gender roles and their significance in resolving challenges, internal family conflicts and high expectations to succeed.

Family relationships can be complicated, and problems with parents, adult children, in-laws, blended families or other family members can create significant stress in your life and your relationship. While I don’t provide family therapy with multiple family members together, I do help individuals and couples work through difficult family relationships. Together, we can understand the patterns and emotions underneath conflict, strengthen boundaries, improve communication and explore how family experiences may be affecting you or your partnership. My approach is warm, practical and emotion-focused, with the goal of helping you navigate family challenges while protecting the relationships that matter most.

I guide families using the information and insights from extensive studies and my own experience. If your family is hurting and whatever you have been trying doesn’t help, if it feels like you can’t win, respect has disappeared, understanding and patience are gone; your family will benefit from bringing in a professional outsider. A family is a dynamic system. Being busy with our day to day struggles, it is easy to miss what another person needs. Timing and taking into account each members' experience is crucial to reconnect. With patience and tenacity, and taking the time to clarify and learn, you can resolve what may seem a hopeless situation.