Anger Management and Counseling in Topanga, CA.

If you and your partner are feeling emotionally disconnected, you may find yourself drawn into repeated arguments with each other about seemingly unrelated issues -- such as money, parenting, chores, and sex. Hiding within these disagreements are painful questions: Can I reach you? Do I matter to you? Can I count on you if I need you? Once these deep, hidden questions are calmed, and you both feel safe and loved, you and your partner will find it much easier to resolve other issues.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Do you find that you are prone to angry outbursts in your relationships? Do you have a hard time with frustration tolerance? Through an empathic and collaborative approach, you will learn how to identify and understand your feelings and triggers, develop the capacity for frustration tolerance, and strengthen your coping skills so that your anger is no longer a destructive force in your life.

Here at My True Temperament Christian Counseling, LLC, we teach anger management skills through the lens of the Bible and also teach better communication skills and relaxation techniques. Anger is a natural emotion which more often than not is a signal that something in the client's environment isn't working. We discuss with the client what upsets him/her and we try and eliminate it. During the anger management therapeutic process, we remind all our clients about the importance of keeping a sense of humor.

Frustration can sometimes lead to aggression. Cognitive-behavior therapy, as practiced by Dr. Levine, is a valuable tool in reducing the impact of frustration and reducing the resulting degree of anger. He will work with you to help you alter your reaction to frustration and develop alternative mechanisms to react to these events. Once your anger response is reduced your relationships with your family and friends are also likely to change in a much more positive direction.

Anger is a normal response when we feel unjustly, unfairly or poorly treated. Anger towards ourselves is also a normal response, but comes with it a different consequence. It is what we do with the anger and how we act when angered that makes the most difference. Anger should not be something that weighs on you or the ones that you love. I will help you identify how to monitor your body and mind for what angers you. Then, we will work together to take control of your anger so that you and the people you love will no longer let harmful anger have a place in your life. You will live without the burden of being "pissed off" all the time, your loved ones will get a happier and freer you.

Sometimes unresolved issues with a partner or family member turn to resentment. As resentment builds up, you can become filled with anger and rage. This is when people tend to "lose control" and blame others for inappropriate behaviors. Some people even get into trouble with the law. Learn appropriate ways to express your feelings of anger, and see how it benefits your relationships.

Anger when used appropriately can be a useful tool to give us the aggressive energy we need to take action when we are feeling helpless or victimized. Unfortunately, it is often misused and becomes abusive, creating whole new problems for relationships and careers. I work with clients to first learn to control their emotional expressions, define the underlying feelings creating the hostility, and learn new skills to better utilize their feelings to resolve conflict in more adult ways.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

We can retrain ourselves react differently to challenging situations that spawn angry reactions. With a little time and practice, we can learn to regulate our distress by tuning into the cues when we are on overload. Bringing mindfulness to our triggers and our reactions, while slowing down our thoughts, can give us more choice in how we react. Mindfulness can teach us to be the observer to our own inner dialogue and can make room for little shifts that make gradual differences. I work from a somatic place first, giving attention to the indicators of distress. Each person manifests distress differently. Does your face get hot? Does your throat feel tight? We will begin here.

I have witnessed first hand the radical transformation that comes with anger management counseling. So many men come into my office suffering from anger issues. Through working together collaboratively the anger dissipates, and what is underneath is usually much more nuanced then originally thought. Men and women suffer from anger differently. Anger Management counseling is a transformative process which creates space for ones' preferred identity to emerge.

In many cases, anger is ignited when a person perceives rejection or invalidation. Where or not that is the message intended by the speaker, the angry person feels that his or her dignity has been demeaned, a loss of respect is perceived, or not being heard. A high percent of rage occurs when you don’t perceive you are getting what you want. Often times anger is a cover for insecurity, powerlessness from childhood, relational emptiness, a craving to be loved. We all have an intricate system of needs that must be satisfactorily addressed if we are to have emotional well-being. When our essential needs are not addressed or when they are invalidated, the result is emotional turmoil. We feel hurt and angry. When we compare our list of personal needs with...(view profile to read more)

I have worked with clients who have had a difficult relationship with anger throughout their lives and have found that it is often accompanied by shame, blame, judgement, or guilt. These problems have a powerful voice that works to drown out a person's preferences and unique outcomes, placing them far into the background, and deeming them unimportant. It is remarkable to find out what values clients have managed to hold onto despite anger's seemingly all consuming presence. The excavation of moments of holding onto values in the face of adversity is an opportunity to approach anger from a place of agency and empowerment versus blame or shame.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Most people affected by problem anger spend their time trying to control it and make promises to themselves and others about not getting angry again. Instead of struggling to control anger, there is a way to learn how to accept and observe angry feelings without having to act out in anger. Problem anger is usually a message that something needs to be changed or be released. I use the concepts of Acceptance Commitment Therapy and Narrative Therapy to help clients let go of anger and move towards their preferred way of acting.

Anger is a kind of energy, a fuel that can be used for the benefit of yourself and others. But sometimes it can be too much of a good thing. It can morph into something destructive. Excessive anger can also be a mask for feelings of pain, helplessness and being out of control. We would explore what's going on, and I would offer you tools to help bring your anger under control.

Is your anger ruining your relationships? Are yo struggling at work because you get inpatient and have outbursts? Underneath anger is pain. Identify the pain, heal it and your anger will come under control. Group therapy offers a safe space for you to learn how to manage your anger. In group therapy, you have the opportunity to understand where your anger comes from and how it affects others.

Anger management counseling is often court-ordered, in which case specially certified programs are required. If you are wanting to change how you deal with anger on your own, in individual therapy, then please call or email. My approach is to help you identify triggers, both present and past, and to help you find ways to slow the anger process down so that you can feel in control again. When you contact me, we will discuss what approaches might work best for you.

Anger is a normal human emotion. When expressed appropriately anger can be both adaptive and helpful. However, when anger is expressed with inappropriate frequency or intensity or without appropriate controls it can become very destructive to one's relationships or one's self. When this happens it may be very helpful to consult a therapist with skill in dealing with anger management problems. Together we can identify the triggers to anger arousal. We can identify anger maintaining patterns of thought and learn proven methods for stress reduction and respectful assertiveness. You can learn to recognize and use your angry emotions to enhance and deepen your most meaning relationships.

When having feelings of anger, it can come in all different forms depending on the individual. Therapy can help with managing that anger in order to maintain healthy relationships within ones self and with others around you. Therapy will help with providing ways to identity where the anger is stemmed from and how to decrease and eliminate it from your life in order to live a healthy and happy life.

Anger is a normal emotion, but is problematic when it interferes with your relationships, your job, or your ability to cope. In a supportive, environment, I will help you to decrease the frequency and intensity of your angry feelings and outbursts, and to implement alternative behaviors. Our work together may involve identifying the underlying feelings associated with your anger, recognizing triggers and connecting them to past experiences, developing somatic (bodily) awareness of feelings to awaken your ability to monitor your anger, and learning how to communicate with others so that you can feel more in control of your anger.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Does your spouse or child get angry easily? Are you frustrated because you can't talk to your spouse? I help people identify what triggers their anger and look at how they can express their anger in a healthy way. Working with adults and children, my goal is to help them communicate in a way that is open and honest but not hurtful or offensive. If you are looking to improve your relationships, I can help you.

Anger can be a scary emotion. It can be frightening for the person expressing it and frightening for the person receiving it. Anger is a healthy emotion when used appropriately but sometimes, a person's anger feels out of control. That is when help is needed to look at ways of controlling the anger and perhaps, why such anger exists. When a person comes to see me with issues of anger management, we look ways to improve impulse control and look at why the anger is occurring in the first place. Hopefully, the client will get some insight and understanding into his/her issues, anger management skills will be taught, and, as a result, the anger be decreased and expressed appropriately.

We all get angry sometimes. The issue is what you do with your anger. If you act it out in ways that hurt yourself or other people, that’s where the problems lie. You may express you anger physically by hitting people, hurting yourself, or breaking things. You may also express your anger by saying things that get you in trouble or damage your relationships. Sometimes it’s what you say, and sometimes it’s how you say it. Together, we can sort it out. We’ll see what triggers the anger and how you express it. We’ll work to undo the triggers and find other ways of dealing with the anger when it arises.