Anger Management and Counseling in Topanga, CA.

Anger is a normal emotion, but is problematic when it interferes with your relationships, your job, or your ability to cope. In a supportive, environment, I will help you to decrease the frequency and intensity of your angry feelings and outbursts, and to implement alternative behaviors. Our work together may involve identifying the underlying feelings associated with your anger, recognizing triggers and connecting them to past experiences, developing somatic (bodily) awareness of feelings to awaken your ability to monitor your anger, and learning how to communicate with others so that you can feel more in control of your anger.

I have helped many clients with anger issues, by helping them to see--and work through--the deep sadness that lies underneath chronic excessive anger. Rage can arise from humiliations, from feeling cheated by others, from shame, and from loss. Whatever the main source, anger can be a less-unpleasant substitute for the helplessness that these experiences bring with them. Clients benefit when they are able to replace the move-into-rage with a sober curiosity about just what is going on inside and outside at that moment.

Does your spouse or child get angry easily? Are you frustrated because you can't talk to your spouse? I help people identify what triggers their anger and look at how they can express their anger in a healthy way. Working with adults and children, my goal is to help them communicate in a way that is open and honest but not hurtful or offensive. If you are looking to improve your relationships, I can help you.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

Your anger turned towards yourself creates depression, but your anger towards others creates resentment. Do you find yourself vacillating between feeling depressed and resentful towards yourself or others in your life? Learning how to deal with your anger is the first step to get you out of that cycle. Counseling along with Mindfulness Meditation are great tools to help you manage anger and find more peace.

Do you find that you are prone to angry outbursts in your relationships? Do you have a hard time with frustration tolerance? Through an empathic and collaborative approach, you will learn how to identify and understand your feelings and triggers, develop the capacity for frustration tolerance, and strengthen your coping skills so that your anger is no longer a destructive force in your life.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger comes in many forms. Some of us default to frequent anger towards others, which can damage meaningful relationships and work opportunities. We can also direct anger inward towards ourselves in the form of recurrent self-criticism, negative judgment, and self-destructive behaviors. Anger is an important and healthy emotion that can bring attention to other more difficult underlying emotions and unmet needs. Such as feeling ashamed, sad, invalidated, or lonely. My approach to helping others more effectively manage anger is to better identify and understand emotions in general. Then learn to respond to difficult experiences with intentional, skillful action vs. emotional reactivity.

We can retrain ourselves react differently to challenging situations that spawn angry reactions. With a little time and practice, we can learn to regulate our distress by tuning into the cues when we are on overload. Bringing mindfulness to our triggers and our reactions, while slowing down our thoughts, can give us more choice in how we react. Mindfulness can teach us to be the observer to our own inner dialogue and can make room for little shifts that make gradual differences. I work from a somatic place first, giving attention to the indicators of distress. Each person manifests distress differently. Does your face get hot? Does your throat feel tight? We will begin here.

Is your anger out of control? Is anger getting in the way of your relationships and stopping you from getting everything you want? How do you manage anger? What are those triggers that set you off? There are many tools that can be gained from treatment. These tools can help you find your way through anger learn as you learn effective ways to respond when activated.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger can be a scary emotion. It can be frightening for the person expressing it and frightening for the person receiving it. Anger is a healthy emotion when used appropriately but sometimes, a person's anger feels out of control. That is when help is needed to look at ways of controlling the anger and perhaps, why such anger exists. When a person comes to see me with issues of anger management, we look ways to improve impulse control and look at why the anger is occurring in the first place. Hopefully, the client will get some insight and understanding into his/her issues, anger management skills will be taught, and, as a result, the anger be decreased and expressed appropriately.

Anger is a normal feeling but sometimes it can be so extreme or out of our control that it starts to affect our relationships and our own sense of self. There are ways to manage anger by learning coping skills, such as relaxation techniques, changing the way we perceive the situation, and logging our thoughts/feelings/actions. Sometimes we may go back to your past to see the source of your anger or we may just stick to how to manage it here and now. By working together as a team and by you trusting the process, we can help you manage your anger thus improving relationships and your life.

Anger Management = dealing with unexpressed feelings that are buried, such as shame, grief, or fear, in a way that is acceptable to yourself and the world. I have worked with many individuals on anger relief - from perpetrators to people who feel victimized. I help you unearth the root of the anger/pain, and teach you coping tools to improve your life.

I have extensive experience treating anger management issues. I have conducted anger management groups that teach and reinforce skills for managing anger. My approach to the treatment of anger issues consists of: assisting client's in understanding the Nonproductive Anger Cycle that perpetuates destructive behavior, educating about the different types of anger, teaching anger management skills, and helping clients explore pain and fear that perpetuates their ineffective expression of anger. Anger management treatment includes helping clients learn to accept their emotions and learn how to tolerate and express their emotions more effectively.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Most people affected by problem anger spend their time trying to control it and make promises to themselves and others about not getting angry again. Instead of struggling to control anger, there is a way to learn how to accept and observe angry feelings without having to act out in anger. Problem anger is usually a message that something needs to be changed or be released. I use the concepts of Acceptance Commitment Therapy and Narrative Therapy to help clients let go of anger and move towards their preferred way of acting.

Anger management counseling is often court-ordered, in which case specially certified programs are required. If you are wanting to change how you deal with anger on your own, in individual therapy, then please call or email. My approach is to help you identify triggers, both present and past, and to help you find ways to slow the anger process down so that you can feel in control again. When you contact me, we will discuss what approaches might work best for you.

I use Trauma Therapy and Communication tools to find new ways of awareness to express oneself appropriately. I have been trained to find the "triggers" that mean someone may go "ballistic" because of these triggers, then find a way to change the way this energy is expressed. In my over twenty years of training I have a great many tools in my tool box. I know I can help!

If you and your partner are feeling emotionally disconnected, you may find yourself drawn into repeated arguments with each other about seemingly unrelated issues -- such as money, parenting, chores, and sex. Hiding within these disagreements are painful questions: Can I reach you? Do I matter to you? Can I count on you if I need you? Once these deep, hidden questions are calmed, and you both feel safe and loved, you and your partner will find it much easier to resolve other issues.

Anger is a normal response when we feel unjustly, unfairly or poorly treated. Anger towards ourselves is also a normal response, but comes with it a different consequence. It is what we do with the anger and how we act when angered that makes the most difference. Anger should not be something that weighs on you or the ones that you love. I will help you identify how to monitor your body and mind for what angers you. Then, we will work together to take control of your anger so that you and the people you love will no longer let harmful anger have a place in your life. You will live without the burden of being "pissed off" all the time, your loved ones will get a happier and freer you.

Anger is a feeling that carries information. Anger alerts us to the awareness that we feel threatened in some way. People often get angry because they are in emotional pain. However, showing someone that you are in pain is a more effective way to help others feel remorse for what they did than raging at them. Emotionally intense young adults do not have to destroy any more relationships with "over the top" reactions! There are more effective ways of responding. I can teach these young people simple relaxation and awareness exercises that allow them to tame their anger.

In many cases, anger is ignited when a person perceives rejection or invalidation. Where or not that is the message intended by the speaker, the angry person feels that his or her dignity has been demeaned, a loss of respect is perceived, or not being heard. A high percent of rage occurs when you don’t perceive you are getting what you want. Often times anger is a cover for insecurity, powerlessness from childhood, relational emptiness, a craving to be loved. We all have an intricate system of needs that must be satisfactorily addressed if we are to have emotional well-being. When our essential needs are not addressed or when they are invalidated, the result is emotional turmoil. We feel hurt and angry. When we compare our list of personal needs with...(view profile to read more)