Anger Management and Counseling in Topanga, CA.

Anger Management = dealing with unexpressed feelings that are buried, such as shame, grief, or fear, in a way that is acceptable to yourself and the world. I have worked with many individuals on anger relief - from perpetrators to people who feel victimized. I help you unearth the root of the anger/pain, and teach you coping tools to improve your life.

In many cases, anger is ignited when a person perceives rejection or invalidation. Where or not that is the message intended by the speaker, the angry person feels that his or her dignity has been demeaned, a loss of respect is perceived, or not being heard. A high percent of rage occurs when you don’t perceive you are getting what you want. Often times anger is a cover for insecurity, powerlessness from childhood, relational emptiness, a craving to be loved. We all have an intricate system of needs that must be satisfactorily addressed if we are to have emotional well-being. When our essential needs are not addressed or when they are invalidated, the result is emotional turmoil. We feel hurt and angry. When we compare our list of personal needs with...(view profile to read more)

I have witnessed first hand the radical transformation that comes with anger management counseling. So many men come into my office suffering from anger issues. Through working together collaboratively the anger dissipates, and what is underneath is usually much more nuanced then originally thought. Men and women suffer from anger differently. Anger Management counseling is a transformative process which creates space for ones' preferred identity to emerge.

Anger is a normal feeling but sometimes it can be so extreme or out of our control that it starts to affect our relationships and our own sense of self. There are ways to manage anger by learning coping skills, such as relaxation techniques, changing the way we perceive the situation, and logging our thoughts/feelings/actions. Sometimes we may go back to your past to see the source of your anger or we may just stick to how to manage it here and now. By working together as a team and by you trusting the process, we can help you manage your anger thus improving relationships and your life.

Anger is a legitimate emotion in response to injury or for self-defense. But if survival defenses are out of conscious control, it is then considered lack of impulse control. Your anger by passes the rational part of your brain and you react instantly without thinking or choosing how to react. In order to interrupt that automatic reaction, you must slow it down. Do that by taking deep breaths until you have calmed down and are able to make a rational decision of how to react.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Understanding the source of one's anger is the first step in learning how to control it and communicate feelings instead of reacting negatively to those feelings. Working from a perspective of understanding the underlining needs of you an an individual will help us figure out what technique will work best for your personal situation and therefore result in stronger and appropriate expression of your anger.

We all get angry sometimes. The issue is what you do with your anger. If you act it out in ways that hurt yourself or other people, that’s where the problems lie. You may express you anger physically by hitting people, hurting yourself, or breaking things. You may also express your anger by saying things that get you in trouble or damage your relationships. Sometimes it’s what you say, and sometimes it’s how you say it. Together, we can sort it out. We’ll see what triggers the anger and how you express it. We’ll work to undo the triggers and find other ways of dealing with the anger when it arises.

Anger management treatment helps you regain control of your emotions. Different types of anger management programs are available to address the issues related to different types of anger management issues and to help those who struggle with anger due to a range of underlying causes. Ultimately, learning how to break the cycle of aggression and violence can not only save the life of the person living with anger management issues but increase the safety of those around them. Friends and family can breathe easier knowing that you are getting the treatment you need to live a healthy and balanced life. Contact me today at (818)448-2753 to get the anger management treatment you need to turn your life around.

I have a great deal of experience working with anger issues and domestic violence situations. DV is especially important to address because of the reaction of the children pulled into this dynamic. Cognitive Behavioral methods are taught which are easy to implement. We will look for the source of anger and find different redirected behaviors to replace anger. Mindfullness and various relaxation methods will be discussed. However, you will have input and final say in setting goals and in laying out our approaches to dealing with anger. We work together as equals, without judment.

I have worked with clients who have had a difficult relationship with anger throughout their lives and have found that it is often accompanied by shame, blame, judgement, or guilt. These problems have a powerful voice that works to drown out a person's preferences and unique outcomes, placing them far into the background, and deeming them unimportant. It is remarkable to find out what values clients have managed to hold onto despite anger's seemingly all consuming presence. The excavation of moments of holding onto values in the face of adversity is an opportunity to approach anger from a place of agency and empowerment versus blame or shame.

Anger is a kind of energy, a fuel that can be used for the benefit of yourself and others. But sometimes it can be too much of a good thing. It can morph into something destructive. Excessive anger can also be a mask for feelings of pain, helplessness and being out of control. We would explore what's going on, and I would offer you tools to help bring your anger under control.