Find a Therapist in Loma Linda, California.

We cannot underestimate the impact our families of origin have on our personal development. Mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers all play an enormous role in how we view ourselves and the world around us. Psychotherapy is a thorough exploration into the causes for many of our dysfunctional behaviors. You will gain insight into how your early life relationships are impacting you current relationships. I provide a supportive and compassionate counseling experience making objective observations throughout the process. Psychotherapy can provide clarity that facilitates positive change. It aims to put to bed old resentments and hurts leaving clients free to pursue healthy relationships.

Alexandra is collaborative and integrates mindfulness, somatic therapy, family systems, solution-focused, behavioral therapy, and existential techniques. Alexandra is experienced in working with clients who are neurodivergent, and supporting with sexuality and gender identity, attachments, relationships, trauma, open and consensual non-monogamy, kink, trust and self-esteem, life transitions, depression, anxiety, and stress.

The types of counseling are various. Some are short, some are insightful, some focus only on thoughts, some strive to get the heart of emotions, some work with minor problems, some work with more severe psychological struggles. Psychotherapy can cover all of these types of counseling, but the main focus is on helping a person with a troubled mind. The trouble in your mind may be minor or complex, but in either situation you can find relief as you connect with a psychotherapist to gain therapy for your mind. Like an onion being peeled, you may find more and more relief as you experience therapy that gets to know you and provides the compassion you need.

Psychotherapy is not anything to be scared of, or intimidated about. Seeking out a therapist or being in therapy isn't an admission of weakness or some kind of character flaw. Therapy is a collaborative process and a partnership with someone who is trained in and experienced with facilitating personal growth. And in this process, you are in the driver's seat. Our minds and emotions and relationships involve complicated machinery just like our bodies do and in the same way a medical doctor helps you stay physically healthy, Psychotherapy is designed to help you be and stay mentally and socially strong, and continually in a position to take on life's many challenges as your best self.

I have 20 years of diverse professional experiences and extensive training. I am a published writer, lecturer and passionate about my field. I specialize working with Individual Adults and Teens. My style is conversational, and I strive for a collaborative and compassionate practice with my clients. Though, I am trained in a variety of therapies, I primarily work in narrative and psychodynamic theory. Additionally, I may draw upon other similar or complimentary theoretical approaches to create a highly personalized treatment plan based on your needs and goals.

Therapy is not a one size fits all experience. Though I extensively trained to understand specific theories of practice, I utilize a "prescriptive" approach. This means I will adapt to your needs in treatment. Therapy is co-created, it is relational, and it is in the therapeutic relationship where we seek personal growth to apply outside the therapy room. I work with adult individual clients who are grieving a significant loss, LGBTIQ+ adults, adults with creative blocks, neurodivergent adults, people pleasers, those recovering from trauma, and adults burnt out about their work.

Today we want so much from life and from love. Finally we have tools to help us grow out of issues that keep us stuck! Tools can be used to release buried feelings that keep us wound up, anxious and too compulsive (or addictive) to really connect and feel nourished. Using tools helps us regain our center and overcome the wounds from our childhood that hold us back. Depression, anxiety and old anger can restrict our capacity to really live a full life. Tools give us a way to have healthy boundaries, to manage our moods better, to be more sensual and passionate and to make life feel like an adventure, not a endurance test! We don't have to be perfect but we can reach our potential!

James Hillman once said, "We've had a hundred years of psychotherapy and the world is getting worse." While there are many occasions where the validation and listening endemic to psychotherapy makes sense, there are times where we over assume that "feeling better" and "changing behavior" are the same. Grey Matters International, Inc. goes after the forgotten brain laws to behavior change that therapists miss when processing hours and hours of dialogues with people. Utilizing a cutting edge technology to facilitate the emotional process of change, we can make the therapy process way more effective, faster, and with less money spent. Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

While I am technically a psychotherapist, I do not like the word "psychotherapy" for two reasons. First, when people hear the word, they usually think of a troubled person reclining on a couch. I like to think of myself as an advanced coach because I can help people regardless of the severity of their challenges, but we can get deep into the nitty-gritty emotional content of a relationship if we need to. Second, I work with more than one person, because I help improve relationships, which *may* involve two or more people in the room.

My approach to therapy is grounded in the belief that by uncovering the source of our problems, we can work together to heal and find a sense of confidence and clarity. I provide unique and tailored psychoanalytic therapies to help my clients make sense of their lives and better understand the source of their issues. When the source is identified, a path to wellness can be established. My goal is to provide a safe and supportive environment, free of judgment and pressure, where my clients can look into their emotions, experiences, and behaviors to gain insight and clarity. I believe that understanding our emotions is the key to unlocking our potential and finding relief and healing.