Great Couples Counseling in Palmdale, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

I work with couples who are having relationship problems, wish to improve an already well-functioning relationship, and those seeking pre-marital or co-parenting (raising a child/children when divorced or separated) counseling. The couples I see might be married, separated/divorced, co-habitating, or seriously dating with plans for a more committed relationship. My non-judgmental approach allows for each partner to fully express their needs and desires in a partner. I am experienced with working with straight ( heterosexual), gay, and lesbian couples. My clients benefit from learning to understand their relationships within a family systems framework. The insights learned from understan

You may be experiencing difficulties in your relationship which are causing you to evaluate whether you want to continue it, such as a breach of trust, infidelity, addiction, or abuse. Or maybe you feel that you and your partner are living like roommates and you are longing for a more intimate and loving connection. These are common reasons why couples seek therapy. As your therapist, I will make your partnership my number one priority, providing a fair, objective, supportive, and non-judgmental environment. A successful relationship does not hinge on who is right, but on how the couple navigates and recovers from ruptures and repairs within the relationship.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.

Without conflict, couples do not achieve intimacy. The challenge is helping you and your partner learn how to have healthy conflict that leads to intimacy, rather than destructive conflict that destroys the relationship. While I work with all couples, I specialize in working with neuro-diverse couples. I usually start with helping you learn ground rules for being able to have safe, constructive, healthy conflict to reduce and eliminate destructive relational patterns. I also use Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you reconnect, learn healthy communication skills, rekindle the flame that you once had, and start talking to each other again. If you are willing to work, I am here for you!