Grief and Loss Counseling in Palisades Park, NJ.

Experiencing loss can be one of the most devastating parts of the human experience . Pain, shock, denial, anger, depression, rage, and acceptance are some emotions you may experience. I am here to sit with you and hold your sadness, as you process whatever it is that you are mourning; the death of a loved on, the end of a love relationship, position or change in family. Grieving is a necessary step in processing what has just happened, in effectively processing, understanding and slowly rebuilding your life, adjusted to the changes. It would be my honor to join you on your journey in healing and rebuilding your new reality, with inner strength, health and courage.

Grief counseling helps people cope with grief and mourning following the loss of a loved one or due to major life changes that trigger feelings of grief (i.e. job loss or divorce). It provides a space for individuals to work through and process the complex emotions surrounding loss. Healthy grieving results in remembering the loss with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain.

Grieving the loss of loved one can be complicated if our valued identity and/or our equanimity was tied to that person given diffuse boundaries. When we overly depend on people regulate our emotions, self esteem or self confidence, then being without them can leave us angry, bereft, empty, etc. In psychotherapy we can rewrite the specious narrative that you were joined at the hip because you could not survive without that person. By internalizing what is offered by the therapist to enhance your self-reliance, you are then free to come to terms with the reality of loss of your loved one and internalize the relationship that is over. That person can now live on inside of you.

Grief and loss can be triggered by many things; the death of a loved one, the loss of a beloved mate, being let go at a valued job, and many others. When we cannot get over the loss by ourselves, a therapist point us down new roads. Suddenly vistas of possibility begin to open up, and what once seemed hopelessly sad begins to take on its proper importance.

Loss of a loved one is an unbearable pain. Therapy can help you process your emotional pain and reduce the time it takes to heal rather than burying the pain only to come out years later. Sometimes letter writing, art therapy, talk therapy, play therapy assist in the grieving process. the heart has a natural process of grieving. Therapy can assist in this natural process.

We all experience grief & loss from time to time. However, there are some losses that are simply too big to get through in the usual ways. At times like this we need additional support. Successful grieving entails coming to terms with the enormity of the loss and making tough decisions about how to meaningfully proceed with living in a world that no longer feels the same.

Have you recently experienced the loss of a loved one ? Regardless of how prepared one is the loss of a dear family member or friend can be a devastating and paralyzing experience. When there is attachment to a person over many years they become a part of our being. Their loss diminishes us and a part of us is forever changed. Experiencing the feelings of grief and loss alone can be overwhelming. Psychotherapy can ameliorate pain associated with deep grief and sorrow at the loss of a loved one.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Not one of us in life will ever escape the saddening loss of a loved one, home, job, pet or something. So unfortunately it is inevitable. Grief is a process with different stages as is loss. Sometimes we need assistance in learning about those stages, other times we are aware of them, but simply get stuck in trying to find some form of acceptance or "closure." Personally, I do not believe in "closure," but more realistic is learning how to live and go forward after our loss. Supportive, caring and realistic therapy is needed at a time when sadness and wonder of how one can go on after a tremendous loss occurs in our life. There are no "magic words" to make it all go away. But I will help.

Did you suffer a sudden or expected loss of a love one? Did you sustain a body injury or did you loss a body function that drastically affect your ability to fulfill daily activities? Did you lose your job, had to change geographic location, loss your home or experience downward social mobility? Grief and bereavement are the natural emotional responses to any of these types of losses. It involves experiencing intense feelings, many of them unexpectedly and overwhelmingly. Loss is a personal journey; while grieving can often foster compassion and connection among family and friends, it is also common for the griever to experience difficulties identifying or expressing emotions.

When we experience the death of a loved one many types of overwhelming feelings occur. As a therapist, it is my belief that It is important for you to discover your ability to experience, understand and share such feelings. As you explore your relationship with the person who has passed and see what gifts you gave one another, and what lessons have been learned, you can put things in a larger perspective. Allowing yourself to find meaning in the relationship and see how it still lives within you is very important. Among other things, it is what I help my clients focus on.

We treat grief and loss holistically. We infuse breathing techniques, guided imagery, and meditation with Art Therapy and evidence-based talk therapy modalities to help you regain inner safety and connection. We will help you create new avenues to regain inner-calm, understanding and acceptance through self-expression. Everyone responds uniquely to traumatic events and loss. You may have an immediate or delayed response with mental, emotional, and/or physical symptoms. Your symptoms may subside as time passes or you may have lasting issues stemming from your trauma. We help children, adolescents and adults process grief.

If you or your child has experienced a significant loss, you know how difficult it can be to get back into the rhythm of life, and to find joy and hope once again. Perhaps you or your child are full of sadness, anger or fear... or simply confused and overwhelmed... As a parent, you may find yourself withdrawn or over-reactive, and then feel guilty about how this effects your child's moods. You may also find yourself at a loss as to how to help your child process his or her grief, talk about feelings in a helpful way, and yet also find happiness in daily activities. I can help you through the many facets of grieving, so that you and your child can create a positive future...

The pain you experience after losing a loved one is an intense human experience that could make you feel abandoned, hopeless, and incapable of moving forward in life. In addition, sometimes there is grief connected to losing something: a job, an opportunity, a past that will not come back, a country you left behind. I can offer an empathic ear and listening to you as you ponder important questions at this point in your life: What does your grief say? What are the fears that accompany your grief and loss? Is there a way to move forward in life knowing that the present and future will be different because someone or something won't be there with you?

If you're suffering from the loss of a friend, relative or loved one, remember the quote that "We are the strongest in the broken places". Sometimes such a loss can hobble us and leave us feeling despairing, sad, depressed or anxious. I can help you (as I've helped so many others over time) to heal your pain and find your way through this rough patch to a new day.

Grief in and of itself is not a diagnosis. However, many people find themselves seeking out professional help following the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or the loss of financial means. In grief and loss therapy you will benefit from a compassionate and warm environment where you can explore your grief with out judgement or fear. Grief is often isolating in our sessions not only will you be given the space to process and remember your loss, but also the tools and guidance necessary to eventually continue a fulfilling life.

Grief counseling helps people cope with grief and mourning following the loss of a loved one or due to major life changes that trigger feelings of grief (i.e. job loss or divorce). It provides a space for individuals to work through and process the complex emotions surrounding loss. Healthy grieving results in remembering the loss with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain.

A unique aspect of my psychotherapy practice is my readiness and willingness to discuss the issues of death and mortality. Life is precious and we deserve to live our lives fully, but death is an unavoidable fact of our lives. Many people can recall when they first learned about the fact of mortality in their childhood -- perhaps when a pet died, or we lost a grandparent or family member, or when some tragedy occurred. Witnessing a death or suffering the loss of a loved one can change some people's lives forever. In my practice I support my clients to come to terms with painful losses in their lives, and to regain their ability to live life fully, even in the face of their own mortality.

Grief and loss are powerful emotions that can cause daily emotional pain and negative thinking. Grief and loss can inhibit people from taking action and getting what they want out of life. Grief and loss can be short term due to a death, divorce, or loss of a job, friendship, etc. Sometimes these feelings are chronic and began in childhood due to growing up in a dysfunctional family. In Psychotherapy we work on effective tools to help people mourn, let go of the pain and find ways to move on in their lives.

I use CPT (Cognitive Processing Therapy) approach to work with the grief and loss that you might be going through. As a part of that approach you might be asked to think, talk, sometimes write at home some thoughts and memories that I will ask you about. It will give you a chance to slow down and give attention to grieving the loss of the loved ones. I use specific manual to walk you through this process.

Times of loss and grief are extremely sad and often people have trouble coping after the loss of a loved one. Dr. Peter Berzins helps individuals with grief and loss by discussing the loss in a safe environment, where people feel free to discuss not only thier sad memories but positive ones as well. Therapy has been proven to help minimize the stress associated with loss.

Each individual copes with grief in their own way and in their own time. I support clients at all stages of their grief. Some clients are anticipating a death in the family or experiencing a loved one being very ill. Others may have recently experienced a death in the family and there are clients who are coming to therapy due to re-experiencing triggers from a past chiildhood loss. Wherever you are in your life, I provide a non judgmental, safe space for you to talk, experience your array of feelings and to be heard. Our work is collaborative and I will be guided by where you are in your grief and what you are most needing from me and work together.

Suffering with grief and loss is often a lonely place. Others may try to comfort you, offering sympathy which is well-intended but often doesn’t help you heal. Talking to an experience therapist can help you move through the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. The stages are normal, and although the process may be painful, reaching acceptance is the stage where you realize that although you may miss the person, your life is still worth living and can be productive and happy.

When you suffer a significant loss it can be one of the most devastating experiences of your life. My approach to grief counseling begins with providing sensitive and supportive therapy to enable you to mourn your loss and slowly being the transition to moving forward without your loved one. If your pain is so overwhelming that you find it difficult to successfully function after you have had a period of time to recover, we will explore the obstacles that interfere with you moving ahead and implement practical strategies to assist you with improving your quality of life.

A loss can stop you in your tracks or some people report that they feel like they are "a witness" to their life and not a participant. We will work together on grieving your loss while also working on allowing you to become a participant in your life again. Having a dedicated space in your week to allow you to express your grief can allow you function at a higher level. Grieving does not have a timetable and it is not the same for everyone. Everyone grieves at their own pace and in their own way and we will work together at your speed and in the way that makes you most comfortable.