Anger Management and Counselling in Thorold, ON.

Working with emotions is a central feature of my therapy practice. I believe that all emotions serve a purpose and that none are essentially bad. However, that said, what we do with our emotions matters very much and learning to recognize, experience, and accept feelings is an important part of learning how to express them effectively. Understanding that anger is often connected to other foundational emotions such as fear or shame is an important part of the process.

Anger is a normal emotion, but it becomes a problem when one is unable to express her or his anger in a balanced way. When it gets out of control, it turns destructive and affects work, family and other relationships. Mastora works with the individual to find more effective ways to solve problems, develop coping strategies and express their anger in a balanced and positive way.

Your goal with other people is to interact effectively. Does anger do that? We know it does not, but we develop habitual trigger responses that can escalate conflict. We need ways to slow down our words and actions until we can focus on our real goal and the best way to reach it. In counselling we take time to explore your thoughts and feelings so that you can figure yourself out to find the right techniques and strategies. Sometimes it can be a matter of trial and error. I help you explore the options and you find what is effective for you.

There are 3 phases in working with Anger 1.Prevention- Attempts to forestall the very onset of anger. 2. Intervention- Aims to reduce the intensity or the duration of anger that has already ignited. 3. Postvention- Aims to discharge any residual anger. Emotions are regulated by re-experiencing, releasing, or converting them into a safe form. We will not only focus on your cognitions and behaviors as entry points but also focus on the modification of affect (your emotions). Anger is an emotion. To have no room in therapy for the feeling component of this emotion is to deny its very essence, your existence. Gestalt perspective- Expression of anger can be very productive. Let out!

Anger, frustration, rage, and reactivity overall, can make a person feel frustrated and powerless; when we have emotional outbursts of any kind they can feel so all-encompassing and make us feel like we are not in control of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. In working with clients on their emotions I aim to primarily promote an understanding of why our emotional outbursts occur; once this has been established we begin to work on how to manage, mitigate, or change how these outbursts occur, or why we feel the way that we feel in the first place.

Anger can feel overwhelming, unpredictable, or difficult to control. It often masks deeper emotions like hurt, fear, or powerlessness. If anger is straining your relationships or impacting your wellbeing, we can work together to explore its root causes, understand what it’s trying to communicate, and develop healthier, more constructive ways to manage and express intense emotions.

Anger is one of people’s common emotions, Our expression of anger sometimes is not healthy and can be hurtful to our loved ones. We can work together toward gaining an understanding the source of your stress. We can also work on making adjustments to your expectations, and moving from reaction to response bringing health to your relationships.

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

I have spent hundreds of hours working with clients who struggle with managing anger/rage. There are specific, step-by-step techniques that can be taught, that are very effective at helping people deal with this issue. Based on reports from clients I have worked with, I have found that if clients are committed to their process, most people make significant improvement within 6-12 sessions. Drawing from polyvagal theory, AEDP and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn healthy ways to manage and experience their anger.

Anger is an emotion that all of us experience. But when it goes out of control it can damage you and people around you. Through psychotherapy, we can see what needs and emotions lie beneath the anger so that you can learn to manage your anger better and express yourself in an assertive and confident way. Please reach out today to learn how I can support you.

My approach to anger management focuses on helping clients understand the deeper emotions and triggers behind their anger, while also learning healthier ways to cope and respond. Together, we explore patterns, stressors, and underlying feelings such as hurt, fear, or frustration that may fuel anger. I integrate evidence-based tools like CBT, mindfulness, and emotion regulation strategies to build awareness and self-control. Clients benefit by developing practical skills to manage reactions, improve communication, and foster healthier relationships.