Anger Management and Counselling in Niagara Falls, ON.

Your goal with other people is to interact effectively. Does anger do that? We know it does not, but we develop habitual trigger responses that can escalate conflict. We need ways to slow down our words and actions until we can focus on our real goal and the best way to reach it. In counselling we take time to explore your thoughts and feelings so that you can figure yourself out to find the right techniques and strategies. Sometimes it can be a matter of trial and error. I help you explore the options and you find what is effective for you.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is probably the most misunderstood emotions and also one of our most valuable tools. Many of us have expereinced anger as abusive, brutal or scary. But don't confuse the feeling of anger with it's expression. The flip side of anger is passion. When we are really anger we are very passionate! We care deeply about something. Regardless of how it looks, anger is always a call for change. If we understand it and use anger to work for us, it never has to become large or mean. Instead it is like an inner advocate working for us with clarity and firmness createing the changes we need. I will work with you to harness your anger and get it working for you rather than against you!

We offer court approved individual and group programs for anger management. The counselling for anger control is designed to help you to better understand your inner process, the emotional triggers that lead to anger, and provide you with effective coping strategies to help you navigate through difficult situations in a peaceful manner. Contact us today to know how we can help you.

Chronic anger has become a reality for many in our society today. Often times, anger can be traced back to earlier times where individual's experience hurt, pain, abuse and neglect within the family of origin. The first step to changing unwanted anger reactions is by understanding the emotional response cycle of your anger itself. Our one hour sessions will concentrate on raising awareness to costs of anger; understanding anger responses; identified trigger thoughts, feelings and behaviours; anger distortions; advanced relaxation skills; problem-solving communication skills; getting unstuck and finally developing a plan for real life coping.

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

Anger is one of people’s common emotions, Our expression of anger sometimes is not healthy and can be hurtful to our loved ones. We can work together toward gaining an understanding the source of your stress. We can also work on making adjustments to your expectations, and moving from reaction to response bringing health to your relationships.

Learning to manage your anger and express it in a healthy and positive way is a process. This process, through therapy or counselling, involves becoming self-aware - or learning where the anger really comes from. And also acquiring the skills or tools to express in a way that is healthy and constructive. I have been doing this work for nearly 30 years and is one of my specialty areas.