Anger Management and Counselling in Peachland, BC.

I would like Clients to understand that anger is an emotion. Most have been discouraged to feel anger. I get Clients to recognise, rather than supress, anger. I hope to inform how a Client behaves when feeling angry is most important. Communication is essential with the other individual is important, but not while still anger. Leaving the situation is advisable until tempers have lessened. Then I encourage communication. For example, feeling inadequate, useless, betrayed or put down. These, in their own right, can be the beginning of anger. Sort out "what is really going on" then, when ready, try to discuss your real feelings. Anger "acted out" I discourage.

Maybe you're not an angry person, maybe you're just exhausted, overwhelmed and overstimulated. You've been carrying too much, giving too much, and running on empty for too long. Now you find yourself snapping at your partner, getting irritated with your kids, feeling easily frustrated, or becoming short-tempered over things that appear silly or unnecessary. The aftermath of that is guilt and shame, and not liking the person you've become. Well, I see the person underneath the anger. In our work together, we'll look beyond the reaction to understand what's leaving you so drained, what your anger is trying to communicate, and how you can respond differently without constantly feeling bad

If you find yourself snapping at loved ones and feeling awful afterward, I help you step back, understand what’s underneath your reactions, and respond with greater clarity and control. When you keep telling yourself, "I should be able to handle this," but things aren't getting better, I help you figure out what's going on and what to do about it. And if your relationships feel like walking on eggshells, I guide you toward deeper trust, safer communication, and genuine connection.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.