Anger Management and Counselling in Summerland, BC.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

Sometimes our emotions seem uncontrollable. Even though you do not mean to, anger outbursts or physical violence can leave those we love the most hurt and scarred. Anger management is about learning about emotions. By understanding the root of our anger, and specifically what "triggers" you have, you can come up with a unique plan. By stopping the anger cycle before you explode, or finding better ways to cool off, you can live better with others.

Anger issues can both result from distress in relationships and precipitate distress. Support in addressing anger issues can have a signifiacant positive impact on overall relationship functioning. The fact that relationships are one of our primary coping mechanisms multiplies the potential distress when anger is present as it impacts the very mechanisms we use to cope.

Anger is a healthy and natural emotion. There is a time and place for anger (victimization); however, when we use anger to try to control our environment, it causes us problems in our personal and professional lives. Anger will control the way you think and distorted thinking affects behaviour in negative ways. Our counsellors will help you learn what is in your control to change and help you let go of the rest. For many, the anger response is as natural as needing to scratch when we have an itch. Clients will learn the skills and tools necessary to clean up their distorted thinking and beliefs and learn to improve their overall happiness.

My approach to anger management focuses on understanding the deeper emotions and unmet needs behind anger, while teaching healthy coping strategies. I help clients recognize triggers, process underlying pain (often tied to trauma or invalidation), and develop skills for emotional regulation—drawing from DBT, CBT, and somatic techniques. Together, we’ll practice communication tools, boundary-setting, and nervous system regulation to transform anger into constructive action. The goal isn’t to suppress emotions, but to cultivate self-awareness, assertive expression, and relational healing.

In anger management counselling, we work together to understand the underlying triggers and patterns of anger in a supportive and nonjudgmental environment. My approach combines Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness techniques to help you identify and challenge unhelpful thought patterns and develop healthier responses to anger. We’ll focus on building practical skills for emotional regulation, effective communication, and stress management. Addressing these areas allows you to control your emotions, improve relationships, and create a more balanced and peaceful life.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

As a counsellor I have been helping people understand and manage anger for 25 yrs. My approach includes family of origin work, exploring the way we think and how this impacts our feelings and actions as well as understanding the goal of our anger. We would identify your history around expression of feelings/correction, triggers and raw spots in relationships in order to find new ways of coping and expressing our needs and wants. I want to be able to provide a safe, non-judgenmental approach that will also help you to be more gentle with yourself and others.

I believe that anger, as an emotion, is often misunderstood; and because of this, feared. Pushed to our limits, we might say or do things that hurt others or the ones we love, adding shame and loss right into the mix. Because of this, we might work hard to avoid it, push it away, or appease it - feeding into a cycle, keeping us stuck. I help clients to make sense of their experience, in a new, non-judgemental way in order to regain a sense of control, de-escalate and self-regulate, and to use anger effectively, as it was intended.

Different people have different problems with anger. The most common is when angry behaviour hurts others, damages relationships, and threatens work. However, others feel it but are afraid to express it, and others are so good at suppressing it they insist they never feel. Whichever problem you have, anger is a healthy protective emotion that can improve relationships if expressed effectively. Anger is there to warn you about a threat and give you the energy to deal with it. It is an important tool in setting boundaries and being assertive. I can help you explore your anger and what is causing it, then learn to express it so others will be open to your concerns.

Acquiring support for Anger Management helps you move through life's challenges and also helps create better relationships in your life. Together we dig a little deeper to find out what's the root cause of your anger and then apply a variety of tools to your toolbox to cope day by day. A straight forward approach is what I strive for. No sugar coating.

Anger is a natural emotion, but when it feels overwhelming or leads to conflict, it can leave you feeling out of control or disconnected from the people who matter most. I offer a supportive, non-judgmental space to understand the deeper causes of anger and to learn adaptive ways of expressing it. My approach combines nervous system regulation techniques to calm the body’s stress response, an attachment-focused lens to explore how past experiences shape current reactions, and practical strategies to improve communication and manage triggers. When anger is linked to unresolved trauma, I may also integrate EMDR to process those memories and reduce reactivity.

We look at the family of origin and how expressions of anger were assimilated by the client. I explore a client's style of expressing anger and teach appropriate methods of assertiveness rather than passive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive methods. I explore and heal the shame and negative core beliefs that lead to unhealthy expressions of anger.

By learning to recognize and understand your anger you will take back control of both your emotions and your actions. Anger will no longer take over your relationships, and you will be able to focus on being the person you want to be. Without the burden of unhelpful emotions you will create space for more enjoyable and helpful experiences. The first step is recognizing your anger-- the next step is addressing it.

Anger is one of the most valuable emotions that we have but it is also the most misunderstood. There is sometimes a false sense of power generated with anger, however speaking or acting from a place of anger will often almost guarantee our needs with respect to anger will not be met.. Often in an attempt to "manage' anger we are actually either trying to suppress it or to vent it. Either of these options are usually counter productive. Instead if we see anger as a warning light on the 'dashboard', alerting us to deeper emotions at the root of anger we can transform it and use it in a productive and helpful way.

When anger gets the best of us, we can say and/or do things that we later wish we could change or take back. Anger is an instinctive universal emotion, one in which we all have, but not all expressions of anger have to be hurt. In fact, anger works as a great informant and can motivate us to take action to improve our own lives and the lives of people that we care about.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Did you know that anger is the healthy response to injustice? & That it is there for a very valuable purpose? & That if unexpressed, it can actually result in anxiety, depression, & even physical illness? This is called "anger turned inward, & it causes havoc inside of us. Ever feel yourself going from "0 to 100" at something someone says or does, & it shocks even you? This is "anger turned outward" & is also a result of unexpressed anger. Anger has a way of "leaking out" at unexpected moments & with unexpected intensity, hurting our relationships. If you have found yourself experiencing either of these, please contact me. You can be free from these forces that seem to control you!

Anger is just the tip of the ice-berg--the part that we see. Below the surface can be a number of things, such as guilt, frustration, overwhelm, insecurity, hunger or lack of sleep, sadness and others. Together we can explore what lies beneath the anger and focus on tools and strategies to deal with it. You can control your anger so it no longer controls you.

Many people are stuck in highly activated states such as anxiety, anger or tension in the body. This is due to the fact that the parasympathetic part of your nervous system is not functioning as well as it could. Using somatic experiencing therapy, Robin can effectively help you to build more capacity so that your body can return to a more settled state and sense of well being. You will learn the tools to quickly deescalate your anger and gain the ability to make healthier choices on how to express that anger.

Olivia is skilled in helping clients work through anger issues, guiding them to understand the underlying causes and triggers behind their emotions. She uses a cognitive behavioural approach to help clients manage their anger in the immediate moment, offering practical strategies to respond constructively. Olivia collaborates with clients to identify support networks that can provide ongoing care. Her compassionate and non-judgmental approach fosters self-awareness and empowers clients to channel their anger in healthier ways, promoting personal growth and stronger relationships. Through her guidance, clients develop tools to manage their emotions and build a foundation for lasting change.

I view anger as a natural, neutral emotion with an important purpose—it signals deeper needs, boundaries, or unresolved feelings. In a supportive, nonjudgmental space, I help clients explore what their anger is communicating without shaming or pathologizing it. Together, we uncover its meaning and develop constructive ways to respond. This approach helps clients increase emotional awareness, strengthen relationships, and use anger as a guide toward growth, self-understanding, and healing.

Clients will benefit from the counseling for anger management I offer. Anger is a powerful emotion that can often disrupt personal relationships, affect mental well-being, and hinder overall life satisfaction. In therapy I equipped with the knowledge and tools to help clients navigate through their anger-related challenges. Clients will gain a deeper understanding of their triggers, learn effective coping mechanisms, and develop healthy communication skills. By addressing the underlying causes of anger and developing constructive strategies for managing it, my counseling services empower clients to regain control over their emotions, enhance their self-awareness, and ultimately improve their quality of life.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.