Anger Management and Counselling in Summerland, BC.

As a counsellor I have been helping people understand and manage anger for 25 yrs. My approach includes family of origin work, exploring the way we think and how this impacts our feelings and actions as well as understanding the goal of our anger. We would identify your history around expression of feelings/correction, triggers and raw spots in relationships in order to find new ways of coping and expressing our needs and wants. I want to be able to provide a safe, non-judgenmental approach that will also help you to be more gentle with yourself and others.

Anger is just the tip of the ice-berg--the part that we see. Below the surface can be a number of things, such as guilt, frustration, overwhelm, insecurity, hunger or lack of sleep, sadness and others. Together we can explore what lies beneath the anger and focus on tools and strategies to deal with it. You can control your anger so it no longer controls you.

In anger management, we start with your story: understanding your concerns, what triggers your anger, and how it's impacting you and your loved ones. Often anger affects relationships, work, or your wellbeing in ways that feel out of control. Together we'll build awareness about the patterns and underlying emotions driving your anger. Sometimes it masks hurt, frustration, or feeling unheard. Then we work on practical strategies: recognizing early warning signs, reframing triggering situations, and developing healthier ways to express feelings. Our therapeutic relationship provides the foundation where you bring knowledge of yourself and I bring clinical perspective. You'll learn to respond rather than react, communicate more effectively, and regain control of your emotions.

Clients will benefit from the counseling for anger management I offer. Anger is a powerful emotion that can often disrupt personal relationships, affect mental well-being, and hinder overall life satisfaction. In therapy I equipped with the knowledge and tools to help clients navigate through their anger-related challenges. Clients will gain a deeper understanding of their triggers, learn effective coping mechanisms, and develop healthy communication skills. By addressing the underlying causes of anger and developing constructive strategies for managing it, my counseling services empower clients to regain control over their emotions, enhance their self-awareness, and ultimately improve their quality of life.

It sucks to be angry and loose control of our emotions. Anger can have a devastating impact on the people we love the most. I will support you in addressing the emotions, trauma and pain underneath anger and learn to identify your triggers and patterns. I will teach you tools to address your stress and help you learn to better deal with your emotions. Learning to communicate our needs in a way that will be received is also a part of how I address anger issues.

If you find yourself snapping at loved ones and feeling awful afterward, I help you step back, understand what’s underneath your reactions, and respond with greater clarity and control. When you keep saying, “I should be able to handle this,” but can’t, I help you stop hiding and start healing. And if your relationships feel like walking on eggshells, I guide you toward deeper trust, safer communication, and genuine connection. Real change begins here.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Many people are stuck in highly activated states such as anxiety, anger or tension in the body. This is due to the fact that the parasympathetic part of your nervous system is not functioning as well as it could. Using somatic experiencing therapy, Robin can effectively help you to build more capacity so that your body can return to a more settled state and sense of well being. You will learn the tools to quickly deescalate your anger and gain the ability to make healthier choices on how to express that anger.

Anger issues can both result from distress in relationships and precipitate distress. Support in addressing anger issues can have a signifiacant positive impact on overall relationship functioning. The fact that relationships are one of our primary coping mechanisms multiplies the potential distress when anger is present as it impacts the very mechanisms we use to cope.

Olivia is skilled in helping clients work through anger issues, guiding them to understand the underlying causes and triggers behind their emotions. She uses a cognitive behavioural approach to help clients manage their anger in the immediate moment, offering practical strategies to respond constructively. Olivia collaborates with clients to identify support networks that can provide ongoing care. Her compassionate and non-judgmental approach fosters self-awareness and empowers clients to channel their anger in healthier ways, promoting personal growth and stronger relationships. Through her guidance, clients develop tools to manage their emotions and build a foundation for lasting change.

Acquiring support for Anger Management helps you move through life's challenges and also helps create better relationships in your life. Together we dig a little deeper to find out what's the root cause of your anger and then apply a variety of tools to your toolbox to cope day by day. A straight forward approach is what I strive for. No sugar coating.

Anger is a natural emotion, but when it feels overwhelming or leads to conflict, it can leave you feeling out of control or disconnected from the people who matter most. I offer a supportive, non-judgmental space to understand the deeper causes of anger and to learn adaptive ways of expressing it. My approach combines nervous system regulation techniques to calm the body’s stress response, an attachment-focused lens to explore how past experiences shape current reactions, and practical strategies to improve communication and manage triggers. When anger is linked to unresolved trauma, I may also integrate EMDR to process those memories and reduce reactivity.

I would like Clients to understand that anger is an emotion. Most have been discouraged to feel anger. I get Clients to recognise, rather than supress, anger. I hope to inform how a Client behaves when feeling angry is most important. Communication is essential with the other individual is important, but not while still anger. Leaving the situation is advisable until tempers have lessened. Then I encourage communication. For example, feeling inadequate, useless, betrayed or put down. These, in their own right, can be the beginning of anger. Sort out "what is really going on" then, when ready, try to discuss your real feelings. Anger "acted out" I discourage.

Anger is one of the most valuable emotions that we have but it is also the most misunderstood. There is sometimes a false sense of power generated with anger, however speaking or acting from a place of anger will often almost guarantee our needs with respect to anger will not be met.. Often in an attempt to "manage' anger we are actually either trying to suppress it or to vent it. Either of these options are usually counter productive. Instead if we see anger as a warning light on the 'dashboard', alerting us to deeper emotions at the root of anger we can transform it and use it in a productive and helpful way.

Anger is a healthy and natural emotion. There is a time and place for anger (victimization); however, when we use anger to try to control our environment, it causes us problems in our personal and professional lives. Anger will control the way you think and distorted thinking affects behaviour in negative ways. Our counsellors will help you learn what is in your control to change and help you let go of the rest. For many, the anger response is as natural as needing to scratch when we have an itch. Clients will learn the skills and tools necessary to clean up their distorted thinking and beliefs and learn to improve their overall happiness.

We look at the family of origin and how expressions of anger were assimilated by the client. I explore a client's style of expressing anger and teach appropriate methods of assertiveness rather than passive, aggressive, or passive-aggressive methods. I explore and heal the shame and negative core beliefs that lead to unhealthy expressions of anger.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is a very necessary emotion for life, but many of us have not had a healthy anger management modelled to us so we may be unable to access or regulate our anger in a healthy way. Often Anger is a secondary emotion, driven by a primary emotion we may not be aware of, so the focus of management becomes understanding and regulation, and we can work on both.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

By learning to recognize and understand your anger you will take back control of both your emotions and your actions. Anger will no longer take over your relationships, and you will be able to focus on being the person you want to be. Without the burden of unhelpful emotions you will create space for more enjoyable and helpful experiences. The first step is recognizing your anger-- the next step is addressing it.

Sometimes our emotions seem uncontrollable. Even though you do not mean to, anger outbursts or physical violence can leave those we love the most hurt and scarred. Anger management is about learning about emotions. By understanding the root of our anger, and specifically what "triggers" you have, you can come up with a unique plan. By stopping the anger cycle before you explode, or finding better ways to cool off, you can live better with others.

Different people have different problems with anger. The most common is when angry behaviour hurts others, damages relationships, and threatens work. However, others feel it but are afraid to express it, and others are so good at suppressing it they insist they never feel. Whichever problem you have, anger is a healthy protective emotion that can improve relationships if expressed effectively. Anger is there to warn you about a threat and give you the energy to deal with it. It is an important tool in setting boundaries and being assertive. I can help you explore your anger and what is causing it, then learn to express it so others will be open to your concerns.

In anger management counselling, we work together to understand the underlying triggers and patterns of anger in a supportive and nonjudgmental environment. My approach combines Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness techniques to help you identify and challenge unhelpful thought patterns and develop healthier responses to anger. We’ll focus on building practical skills for emotional regulation, effective communication, and stress management. Addressing these areas allows you to control your emotions, improve relationships, and create a more balanced and peaceful life.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.