Anger Management and Counselling in West Point Grey, BC.

If you're finding it difficult to control your anger I can help you by getting to the root of the issue. Underneath anger lies a whole host of emotions that you may not be consciously aware of. In therapy I'll help you dig underneath the surface, identify those emotions and meet the corresponding needs they're associated with. I'll also give you practical tools to calm yourself down when you get triggered and communicate with others in an assertive way that respects both your rights and theirs. I'd be honoured to travel with you on your journey.

Have you found that anger has started to ruin relationships, interfere with your job, and negatively impact your life? Anger has a way of spreading and infecting day-to-day interactions. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. I work with many people who are controlled by their anger. Typically, anger is influenced by other underlying causes. In counselling, we will work together to learn new coping mechanisms to limit anger while also looking at what is causing anger. If you want to take the next step, reach out to me, and we can begin to change how you react to anger.

Expression of healthy anger is important for emotional well-being. The question frequently asked is "What is the difference between expression of healthy anger/frustration versus hurtful behaviour?" Concepts such as these are dealt with during the counselling session. It is important to help the client understands that repressed anger only leads to further health-related challenges. Opening up through writing and/or compassionate dialogue helps the client learn to mange and process his/her/they emotions in a constructive manner. Graphic organizers depicting Anger Mountain and the 5 Point scale help the client begin to notice when his/her/they emotions are escalating.

People often confuse anger management with the impossible task of eliminating anger. Anger is a feeling, and, like all feelings, demands to be felt. My favourite line about this is, "Feelings are like sh--. They have to come out eventually." The key to anger management is to feel the anger, recognize it, and find ways to express and release it safely.

Anger is not an emotion....did you now that?? It came as a surprise to me, since my whole life I just assumed it was. However, instead, anger is a type of communication we choose to use when we are hurt or feel that we are being treated unfairly or taken advantage of. Now this is good news! Methods of communication are a lot easier to change than are the feelings we encounter - although even feelings can be changed. Don't let your ANGER communication style- cramp your relationships or prevent you from getting want you need out of life and from your loved ones. If you want to change, help is a close as a phone call away. Marriage-Works, is focused on helping you find the peace you want

Anger counselling at Teo Counselling focuses on helping clients better understand the emotions, triggers, and underlying needs that contribute to anger responses. We use evidence-based, skill-building approaches to support clients in identifying early warning signs, regulating emotional intensity, and developing healthier ways of expressing frustration and setting boundaries. Clients often benefit from improved emotional control, clearer communication, and reduced conflict in relationships, work, and daily life. Our approach emphasizes that anger itself is not the problem, but how it is understood and managed. The goal is to support clients in responding more intentionally and effectively rather than reacting impulsively.

Anger is a healthy emotion. It is an important part of our human experience in certain instances where our boundaries have been violated, or some injustice has impacted us, for example. Anger becomes destructive (to ourselves and others) when it is expressed in dysregulated ways such as angry outbursts, abusive speech, violent acts, feeling overwhelmed and out of control, etc. Dysregulated anger was at one point a quiet, subtle regulated feeling, but was either overlooked or avoided and, just like any boiling pot of water that has been left unattended, it bubbles over and burns whatever it touches. In therapy, I help clients slow down their experience of anger so they can learn to give proper attention to the subtle nudges – the early bodily experiences of anger – rendering the escalation

I work closely with my clients to become aware of how anger affects them and help identify what their triggers are. We will work together at finding better coping strategies to help them manage their behaviour before it escalates, as well as work through several mindful relaxation techniques to help them achieve inner peace and a greater sense of calm.

While anger is a natural human response to frustration or upset it needs to be managed appropriately. In counselling, I help clients of all ages identify and understand their anger "triggers." We then process together appropriate responses to such triggers and practice such reactions. Over time, the goal is for clients to use the tools and strategies learned in counselling and apply them in their everyday lives at home with family, at school with peers and in the work place with colleagues. I look forward to working with you to make positive life changes.

If anger is damaging your relationships or controlling your life, it’s time to take back your power. Anger isn’t the enemy—it's a signal that something needs attention. I help individuals understand their triggers, regulate intense emotions, and develop healthier responses so they can feel heard without hurting themselves or others. Imagine handling conflict with confidence instead of regret. Change starts now, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

Therapy with me offers a safe, supportive space to understand and manage anger. We'll explore your triggers, build healthy coping tools, and uncover what's beneath the surface. You'll learn to express yourself clearly without losing control, strengthen relationships, and feel more grounded and in control of your emotions.

I focus on what the underlying cause of your anger is. I can help you identify the emotions that you may not have expressed. You can choose how to express your anger and learn how to more effectively communicate your feelings. Understanding what your triggers are helps you manage the anger so that you can feel more in control and more confident about yourself.

I use cognitive therapy to help people overcome their anger issues. Thoughts create feelings which create behavior. If a person feels angry while driving in the car and cannot control his temper vis a vis the driver he is angry at, identifying the irrational thought at the root of it is often helpful. Usually I find the clients having such thoughts as, "He cut me off on purpose" or "Who does he think he is driving like that?" These types of thoughts can and do create anger. But if the client changes his thoughts for more rational ones such as, "Wow he must really be in a rush to be driving that way, perhaps there is an emergency", the client finds that he is less angry and less reactive!