Anger Management and Counselling in Vancouver, BC.

Anger is a normal human emotion, but when it becomes chronic and explosive, it is a destructive force in every area of a person's life. At Valiant Recovery, we equip our clients with anger and stress management tools through individual counseling, group sessions and different forms of therapy. We teach clients the healthy way to manage anger, by being in touch with their feelings, counteracting their negative thoughts with positive ones, identifying their anger triggers, thinking critically about the situation, setting realistic goals, and putting positive action into effect.

Anger is an important and value emotion when harnessed in a way that leaves the owner of the anger in the driver's seat. When anger comes in uncontrollable and scary waves, it is likely necessary to learn strategies to cope with the strong emotions and understand its origins. Tiffani fosters a space to explore and express ranges of emotions without judgement, and helps clients to better know themselves, make sense of their experiences and ultimately gain new coping strategies to harness and manage strong emotions.

I help clients to distinguish their racket (unauthentic, manipulative) feelings from their genuine feelings of anger. I teach them the meaning/role of anger as well as other three basic feelings: sadness, fear and happiness. Together we explore if there is another feeling covered by the feeling of anger and in the case of authentic anger, what did the client need at the time. The clients also learn a number of coping strategies.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Many people struggle with anger and don't have effective strategies to help them manage this anger. I work with clients to identify what makes them most angry and to teach ways to self-soothe, gain acceptance, communicate, and get their needs met in a more productive way. The strategies I choose for each client will depend on the client's unique personality requirements and past experiences of success.

Real Solutions to Real Challenges. Common Sense Techniques. Anger can be helpful or it can be destructive. Anger unchecked and not understood can consume a persons attention and energy and keep them stuck. Anger can be hepful in that it is telling us that something is wrong. We may feel unfairly treated, overpowered, and hurt. As a result individuals may become defensive, withdrwan/silent, or even aggresive if they sense injustice and then go the attack. Quite often if the intensity of the anger response seems out of proportion to the current incident then this is most likely due to a cumulative history that comes rushing in to the present and hence the over reaction.

Anger is often an expression of unhealed loss and pain. I will guide you to finding healthy ways of expressing anger and explore with you the underlying issues which may be fuelling the anger. Often we respond in the way we observed others express anger and other emotions. The important thing to know is that there are other options to use in expressing anger and we will find those ways together.

We are all thoroughly emotional beings. We were not all fortunate enough to be coached from birth on how to handle our emotions, especially the big ones, like anger. My role is in helping you learn to regulate your feelings in order for those spikes of anger to become less overwhelming. It is never too late to integrate these skills.

As a couples and marriage counsellor, I help partners slow down the negative dance that takes over their relationship. Anger in relationship is often like a suit of armor meant to keep the person safe from feeling underlying pain. I help couples create the safety they need to begin to investigate the pain that lies beneath the shield of anger. The healing is transformative and couples find connections with themselves and each other that restores safety and confidence and brings love back.

If you struggle with uncontrollable anger I can teach you healthier ways of managing and expressing it. Strategies that you would learn in therapy include discovering the origins of anger in your life, identifying your current triggers, recognizing early physical sensations that are warning signs of rising anger, and connecting with and expressing your primary emotions of hurt or fear that your anger is a reaction to.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

We will support you in acknowledging, accepting and expressing your feelings in a safe way. Together, let's develop a plan to help you move forward and start on your healing path. Through Mindfulness, CBT, and clinically proven, anger management strategies, we will support you through this process. Let's move through this together. **Please note that working with us will not provide a course certification, but a letter will be provided for court purposes if required.**

If you're seeking out therapy to help you with anger management, you have likely experienced yourself losing control, only to feel racked with guilt later on. Or, perhaps you simmer with resentment, and your anger comes out in passive aggressive slights. My approach to anger is to explore it fully, so that we can understand its source, and figure out a constructive and healthy way to manage this important emotion. I work collaboratively and actively with my clients to use mindfulness, self-compassion, and emotional awareness to learn about the roots of their anger, and intercept it before it hijacks them.