Anger Management and Counselling in Vancouver, BC.

I help clients to distinguish their racket (unauthentic, manipulative) feelings from their genuine feelings of anger. I teach them the meaning/role of anger as well as other three basic feelings: sadness, fear and happiness. Together we explore if there is another feeling covered by the feeling of anger and in the case of authentic anger, what did the client need at the time. The clients also learn a number of coping strategies.

Anger can become emotionally addictive and yet this may not be obvious to a client. They may have many reasons for being angry and may feel very justified in their anger. Anger can jeopardize meaningful relationships. I help clients get to the core of their anger and give them new tools and methods to handle these explosive feelings. I will also help my client uncover the underlying beliefs and sources of their anger. There is no need for them to continue to suffer.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is often an expression of unhealed loss and pain. I will guide you to finding healthy ways of expressing anger and explore with you the underlying issues which may be fuelling the anger. Often we respond in the way we observed others express anger and other emotions. The important thing to know is that there are other options to use in expressing anger and we will find those ways together.

If you're seeking out therapy to help you with anger management, you have likely experienced yourself losing control, only to feel racked with guilt later on. Or, perhaps you simmer with resentment, and your anger comes out in passive aggressive slights. My approach to anger is to explore it fully, so that we can understand its source, and figure out a constructive and healthy way to manage this important emotion. I work collaboratively and actively with my clients to use mindfulness, self-compassion, and emotional awareness to learn about the roots of their anger, and intercept it before it hijacks them.

Anger is a normal feeling that we all experience. It is an instinctive response when feeling threatened. When we become angry our bodies change to meet the threat. Physically or emotionally, anger can let you know that you are being hurt. Anger can also tell you that your needs are not being met. You may feel angry if something is wrong. But being angry is just an emotion which is neither good nor bad. It is what you do with it that counts. Anger Management Counselling aims to help you deal with anger. It also helps to overcome issues that are causing emotional pain. It can also help you deal with the things that are making you feel uncomfortable.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Improving our relationship with others is important. But so is getting our needs met! Learning more positive and effective ways to express our anger is the first step. But understanding what our anger is all about is also necessary in order to have long term improvement in our lives and positive relationships with others. I can help you find more effective ways of communicating with others and setting boundaries to get your needs met. Plus, by discovering how this pattern has developed, you can learn how to undo the hold that this behavior has on you. Anger management will improve your self-respect and relationships with others, as well.

You anger easily. After you lose it, you feel ashamed. Anger has cost you relationships and maybe work. You know you can be scary and hurtful, but you don’t know how to fix it. Maybe it’s time to talk to a professional. Dealing effectively with anger means learning to: assess things more accurately, developing a greater ability to communicate, having a better understanding of yours and other people's emotions, and creating the confidence to experience yourself more authentically. Working together, our goal will be to help you transform DESTRUCTIVE behaviours into CONSTRUCTIVE ones. Call Vancouver Psychotherapist Joseph Eliezer today for your free no obligation. phone consultation.

Using CBT and mindfulness skills, will help clients dealing with anger to recognize choice. We may not be able to control the events from happening but we can choose what to do in response to them. Techniques such as cost-benefits analysis will be very useful in recognizing such choice. Another important step is to learn how respond to the anger driven/reactive thoughts with cooler, healthier, and reflective thoughts.

Do you find yourself yelling at your partner, losing your temper at your children, storming out of the office in a fury of frustration and anger? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that sometimes gets away on a person. Feeling disappointed in yourself when you 'lose your cool' is information that there may be better ways to handle a situation. Together we will work to help you develop the skills to communicate effectively, maintain your authenticity and foster strong, positive relationships.

We will support you in acknowledging, accepting and expressing your feelings in a safe way. Together, let's develop a plan to help you move forward and start on your healing path. Through Mindfulness, CBT, and clinically proven, anger management strategies, we will support you through this process. Let's move through this together. **Please note that working with us will not provide a course certification, but a letter will be provided for court purposes if required.**

One of the greatest detriments of anger is that it makes us feel helpless and out of control. Anger management techniques aren't meant to eliminate your anger. Anger management techniques put you in charge of the situation and teach you how to make your anger work for you. Resolve conflict creatively, calm yourself before you hit the red zone, recognize the early warning signs of anger…so that you’ll stay in control of your emotions, offer and respond to criticism with confidence and react to a crisis calmly and confidently...so that you will be powerful instead of overpowering.

Anger is a healthy and normal emotion. It is only when it is acted out in inappropriate ways that it becomes unhealthy and socially "unacceptable". The key to getting a handle on anger is to learn mindful awareness of what you are actually experiencing in the moment - particularly what you are experiencing physically in your body. That moment to moment awareness shows you the truth of your experience and slows your reaction time, giving you a chance to take a breath, evaluate, and assess how you might want to RESPOND, rather than simply REACT, in a given situation. It is equally important to discover underlying anxiety or depression that might be contributing to unwanted anger.

Anger is an important and value emotion when harnessed in a way that leaves the owner of the anger in the driver's seat. When anger comes in uncontrollable and scary waves, it is likely necessary to learn strategies to cope with the strong emotions and understand its origins. Tiffani fosters a space to explore and express ranges of emotions without judgement, and helps clients to better know themselves, make sense of their experiences and ultimately gain new coping strategies to harness and manage strong emotions.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Does your anger feel explosive or unmanageable? Are you troubled or overwhelmed by another negative emotion like guilt, shame, fear, or jealousy? Generally speaking, our emotions are healthy and normal, but the way we react to them can cause real problems our lives and relationships. I can share skills to help you understand your emotions, what’s causing them, and how to react to them in a helpful way. When we can work with our emotions, rather than fight against them, we are healthier and happier.

As a couples and marriage counsellor, I help partners slow down the negative dance that takes over their relationship. Anger in relationship is often like a suit of armor meant to keep the person safe from feeling underlying pain. I help couples create the safety they need to begin to investigate the pain that lies beneath the shield of anger. The healing is transformative and couples find connections with themselves and each other that restores safety and confidence and brings love back.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Real Solutions to Real Challenges. Common Sense Techniques. Anger can be helpful or it can be destructive. Anger unchecked and not understood can consume a persons attention and energy and keep them stuck. Anger can be hepful in that it is telling us that something is wrong. We may feel unfairly treated, overpowered, and hurt. As a result individuals may become defensive, withdrwan/silent, or even aggresive if they sense injustice and then go the attack. Quite often if the intensity of the anger response seems out of proportion to the current incident then this is most likely due to a cumulative history that comes rushing in to the present and hence the over reaction.

Anger is a normal human emotion, but when it becomes chronic and explosive, it is a destructive force in every area of a person's life. At Valiant Recovery, we equip our clients with anger and stress management tools through individual counseling, group sessions and different forms of therapy. We teach clients the healthy way to manage anger, by being in touch with their feelings, counteracting their negative thoughts with positive ones, identifying their anger triggers, thinking critically about the situation, setting realistic goals, and putting positive action into effect.

We are all thoroughly emotional beings. We were not all fortunate enough to be coached from birth on how to handle our emotions, especially the big ones, like anger. My role is in helping you learn to regulate your feelings in order for those spikes of anger to become less overwhelming. It is never too late to integrate these skills.

Many people struggle with anger and don't have effective strategies to help them manage this anger. I work with clients to identify what makes them most angry and to teach ways to self-soothe, gain acceptance, communicate, and get their needs met in a more productive way. The strategies I choose for each client will depend on the client's unique personality requirements and past experiences of success.