Great Couples Counselling in Harrison Hot Springs, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

I am committed to helping you enact positive changes in your lives. According to Pearson et all, there are 5 basic principles of effective couples therapy. Here are 3 of them 1. Changing the views of the relationship: Throughout the therapeutic process, I work with you to help both of you see the relationship in a more objective manner. 2. Modifying dysfunctional behaviour: Together we attempt to change the way you actually behave with each other. I also make sure that you are not engaging in behaviours that can cause physical, psychological or economic hurts. 3. Decreasing emotional avoidance: I work with you to bring out the emotions and thoughts that you hesitate to express...

I work with couples using Gottman Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Attachment Therapy. I will help you identify your maladaptive patterns of behaviour and improve your communication skills. There is no shame in getting some coaching in how we connect with each other and how we can better meet each others needs. I use a strengths based approach to help you see the positives and remember why you fell in love.

Are you and your partner stuck in unsolvable arguments? Does one of you tend to ‘demand’ more while the other shuts down and withdraws? Are you feeling less connected and actually adding stress to each other’s lives instead of reducing it? While frustrating, these are perfectly normal patterns of partnership and there is hope. I would be glad to help you untangle the knots, learning to team up together instead of entering battles over who is right. In doing so, we will unpack past traumas and patterns of behaviour, learning to better communicate and to be safely vulnerable in a way that stands your relationship on solid ground.

If you're looking to improve your relationship, we'd work together to create a supportive environment for discussion, allowing each of you to share your perspective and experience. With important conversations and empathetic questions, there's opportunity to truly see each other and to collaborate to resolve the issues rather than engaging in blame. Together, we'd uncover experiences that promote mutual understanding, empathy and appreciation. Through this process you'll gain insights, develop new ways of communicating, strengthen your connection and establish a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.

When involved in a therapeutic relationship with couples I encourage them to seek individual counseling before or at the same time they are focused on counseling for their relationship. When an individual can understand themselves more clearly and begin to take ownership of their own process their relationship and healing becomes possible. Its always so rewarding helping couples learn the tools necessary to help facilitate a deeper, richer more meaningful relationship connection. The greatest reward is when the couple feels empowered to handle the ebbs and flows of their relationship with more confidence, heart, passion, intimacy and love.

Carey will help you learn to communicate in ways intended to promote change and growth in any of your relationships. You can hope to gain understanding of yourself and your relationships, develop perspective and enhance your interactions. Couples are welcome to attend with their partner or come independently for discussions on how to manage difficulties, gain intimacy and make healthy choices. Approaches include Gottman's research on what helps couples succeed, aspects of emotionally focused work and communication skill building.

“From the cradle to the grave, humans desire a certain someone who will look out for them, notice and value them...” -Susan Johnson Living alongside another human being can be difficult. Couples can fall into patterns - arguments that play out the same way - that leave each partner feeling misunderstood and alone. Counselling helps couples get "unstuck." It helps them unlearn familiar ways of reacting, and try out responding in new ways. Relationships shift in surprising ways when each partner is able to both speak to, and hear the other partner authentically.

I have been in practise for a long time and much of my training and experience is in couples counselling. It is a privilege and opportunity to work with couples and more often than not we see successful outcomes. There is never a more satisfying feeling than seeing couples making important decisions for their future while keeping a priority of each person's own emotional well being!

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Many couples struggle with communication and "feeling heard". Over time a once happy and vibrant relationship can begin to decay through hurt feelings, anger, lack of attention, feeling valued, infidelity, the strain of children, childhood issues, and much more. We focus to heal the wounds of the past and rebuild the love and trust within the relationship. We work to equip both partners with a voice and ability to effectively listen and hear one another. We will work together to establish individual boundaries within the relationship, while creating a stronger and healthier connection. Our goal is to equip each couple with the tools they require for success, independent of counselling