Great Couples Counselling in Kent, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Carey will help you learn to communicate in ways intended to promote change and growth in any of your relationships. You can hope to gain understanding of yourself and your relationships, develop perspective and enhance your interactions. Couples are welcome to attend with their partner or come independently for discussions on how to manage difficulties, gain intimacy and make healthy choices. Approaches include Gottman's research on what helps couples succeed, aspects of emotionally focused work and communication skill building.

Maybe you still love each other, but your relationship doesn’t feel the way it used to. You may be stuck in the same arguments, struggling to communicate, feeling emotionally distant, or more like roommates than partners. Perhaps affection or sexual intimacy has faded, or trust has been hurt by an affair or betrayal. I provide couples counselling and marriage counselling to help you understand the patterns keeping you disconnected and find a different way forward. My approach is warm, down-to-earth and practical, drawing from Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and Gottman-informed work. Together, we work toward better communication, greater intimacy, repaired trust and feeling like partners again.

I am committed to helping you enact positive changes in your lives. According to Pearson et all, there are 5 basic principles of effective couples therapy. Here are 3 of them 1. Changing the views of the relationship: Throughout the therapeutic process, I work with you to help both of you see the relationship in a more objective manner. 2. Modifying dysfunctional behaviour: Together we attempt to change the way you actually behave with each other. I also make sure that you are not engaging in behaviours that can cause physical, psychological or economic hurts. 3. Decreasing emotional avoidance: I work with you to bring out the emotions and thoughts that you hesitate to express...

Healing and growing in our sexuality & eroticism can help us understand ourselves and our partners in ways we may have never been privileged to before. It opens us to the appreciation of the full depth and breadth of human erotic expression. I work with individuals and couples. My approach is informed by training as an Erotic Blueprint Coach, somatic attachment and conscious kink. All forms of love, relationship structures, and sexual expression welcome. I offer EMDR and other trauma processing approaches to support you in your healing when appropriate.

Emotionally focused therapy is based on the connections of childhood attachment theory(John Bowlby). Inconsistent care in childhood can lead to difficult patterns into adulthood and, more specifically, in intimate partner relationships. These patterns are modifiable through EFT counselling support; understanding them is key to the development of more secure and fulfilling adult relationships.

When involved in a therapeutic relationship with couples I encourage them to seek individual counseling before or at the same time they are focused on counseling for their relationship. When an individual can understand themselves more clearly and begin to take ownership of their own process their relationship and healing becomes possible. Its always so rewarding helping couples learn the tools necessary to help facilitate a deeper, richer more meaningful relationship connection. The greatest reward is when the couple feels empowered to handle the ebbs and flows of their relationship with more confidence, heart, passion, intimacy and love.

I have been in practise for a long time and much of my training and experience is in couples counselling. It is a privilege and opportunity to work with couples and more often than not we see successful outcomes. There is never a more satisfying feeling than seeing couples making important decisions for their future while keeping a priority of each person's own emotional well being!

Couples counselling focuses on developing strong communication skills, conflict resolution techniques, forgiveness, and effective dialogue. Many couples experience frustration at some point in their relationship where they feel they are not heard, valued or even loved any more. A toxic cycle of blaming, fighting and pulling away begins to form, creating distance and fatigue. For others an affair has shaken the very core of the safety and love they once felt in their relationship. It can be an agonizing and terrifying discovery for the partner who has been betrayed, and strong feelings of guilt, shame and a lack of understanding to how it even happened for the offending partner. Whether you are looking for a tune up to build back the excitement and...(view profile to read more)

If you're looking to improve your relationship, we'd work together to create a supportive environment for discussion, allowing each of you to share your perspective and experience. With important conversations and empathetic questions, there's opportunity to truly see each other and to collaborate to resolve the issues rather than engaging in blame. Together, we'd uncover experiences that promote mutual understanding, empathy and appreciation. Through this process you'll gain insights, develop new ways of communicating, strengthen your connection and establish a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.