Great Couples Counselling in Kent, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

When involved in a therapeutic relationship with couples I encourage them to seek individual counseling before or at the same time they are focused on counseling for their relationship. When an individual can understand themselves more clearly and begin to take ownership of their own process their relationship and healing becomes possible. Its always so rewarding helping couples learn the tools necessary to help facilitate a deeper, richer more meaningful relationship connection. The greatest reward is when the couple feels empowered to handle the ebbs and flows of their relationship with more confidence, heart, passion, intimacy and love.

I work with couples using Gottman Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Attachment Therapy. I will help you identify your maladaptive patterns of behaviour and improve your communication skills. There is no shame in getting some coaching in how we connect with each other and how we can better meet each others needs. I use a strengths based approach to help you see the positives and remember why you fell in love.

Are you and your partner stuck in unsolvable arguments? Does one of you tend to ‘demand’ more while the other shuts down and withdraws? Are you feeling less connected and actually adding stress to each other’s lives instead of reducing it? While frustrating, these are perfectly normal patterns of partnership and there is hope. I would be glad to help you untangle the knots, learning to team up together instead of entering battles over who is right. In doing so, we will unpack past traumas and patterns of behaviour, learning to better communicate and to be safely vulnerable in a way that stands your relationship on solid ground.

Healing and growing in our sexuality & eroticism can help us understand ourselves and our partners in ways we may have never been privileged to before. It opens us to the appreciation of the full depth and breadth of human erotic expression. I work with individuals and couples. My approach is informed by training as an Erotic Blueprint Coach, somatic attachment and conscious kink. All forms of love, relationship structures, and sexual expression (from the most sensual "vanilla" to the raunchiest kink) welcome.

I am committed to helping couples find happiness and respect in hitter relationships. By using empathy, I counsel couples who desire to work on their relationship so they can find healing and mutual support. My approach is built on Gottman's couples therapy, Emotion Focused therapy, including solution focused therapy and CBT modalities. We work on building healthy boundaries, establishing healthy communication within the couple unit, as well as strengthening respect and finding healing if there's been trauma

The first step with my approach to couples therapy is for us to establish rapport as you inform me of the problem that has brought you to therapy. I use a Choice Theory approach which includes defining more closely what each of you want for yourselves as individuals and the relationship as a whole. From there, we get to work on rebuilding trust in the relationship by enhancing communication skills so each of you feel listened to, heard, and respected. Then we can build on trust to establish the changes needed to restore the happiness that brought you together in the first place.

I am committed to helping you enact positive changes in your lives. According to Pearson et all, there are 5 basic principles of effective couples therapy. Here are 3 of them 1. Changing the views of the relationship: Throughout the therapeutic process, I work with you to help both of you see the relationship in a more objective manner. 2. Modifying dysfunctional behaviour: Together we attempt to change the way you actually behave with each other. I also make sure that you are not engaging in behaviours that can cause physical, psychological or economic hurts. 3. Decreasing emotional avoidance: I work with you to bring out the emotions and thoughts that you hesitate to express...

Carey will help you learn to communicate in ways intended to promote change and growth in any of your relationships. You can hope to gain understanding of yourself and your relationships, develop perspective and enhance your interactions. Couples are welcome to attend with their partner or come independently for discussions on how to manage difficulties, gain intimacy and make healthy choices. Approaches include Gottman's research on what helps couples succeed, aspects of emotionally focused work and communication skill building.

Loving, successful relationships need to be carefully and skillfully nurtured in the following five areas: Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Financial. Couples who are ready to do ongoing work on their relationships are richly rewarded with a loving, meaningful and joyful life together. Committed relationships that have the possibility of morphing into long term relationships benefit greatly by being guided by the Gottman research on relationships as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Premarital Counselling prepares a couple for a new stage in their relationship by identifying potential areas of conflict and strength and developing tools to create a strong foundation.