Anger Management and Counselling in Kent, BC.

Uncontrolled anger destroys lives. You may say “I can’t help myself, or anger isn’t something you can control.” Yes you can’t always control the situation when you are angry or how it makes you feel, but you can control how you express your anger. Anger can be expressed without being verbally, physically or emotionally abusive. Even if you are being pushed to it, you always have a choice about how to respond; it is wise to seek a professional help to find best choices. First we explore the reasons behind your anger; because if you don’t know why you are getting angry, it is difficult to control it. I provide you skills you can learn in a safe environment and practice in your daily life...

Maybe you're not an angry person, maybe you're just exhausted, overwhelmed and overstimulated. You've been carrying too much, giving too much, and running on empty for too long. Now you find yourself snapping at your partner, getting irritated with your kids, feeling easily frustrated, or becoming short-tempered over things that appear silly or unnecessary. The aftermath of that is guilt and shame, and not liking the person you've become. Well, I see the person underneath the anger. In our work together, we'll look beyond the reaction to understand what's leaving you so drained, what your anger is trying to communicate, and how you can respond differently without constantly feeling bad

Anger is a healthy emotion and can be expressed as such if expressed appropriately. Anger can be internalized and go unexpressed and come out other ways or it can be externalized and become problematic or therapeutic. There is a balance, a more appropriate way to express anger. A healthier expression of anger can both define a healthier balanced self and improve your relationships.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

In anger management, we start with your story: understanding your concerns, what triggers your anger, and how it's impacting you and your loved ones. Often anger affects relationships, work, or your wellbeing in ways that feel out of control. Together we'll build awareness about the patterns and underlying emotions driving your anger. Sometimes it masks hurt, frustration, or feeling unheard. Then we work on practical strategies: recognizing early warning signs, reframing triggering situations, and developing healthier ways to express feelings. Our therapeutic relationship provides the foundation where you bring knowledge of yourself and I bring clinical perspective. You'll learn to respond rather than react, communicate more effectively, and regain control of your emotions.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

I have successfully helped many clients over the years with anger management. The reality is we all have anger that sometimes becomes just too much to contain! This obviously could quickly cause us serious ramifications! If you ever get to that point, anger management can be incredibly helpful in many ways. We all have anger but sometimes it increases in intensity which can result in very serious ramifications! Always remember it is very treatable.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Becoming self reflective and mindful of our behavior toward others is a goal worth realizing. Carey can help you to calm your emotions and express your thoughts that are maintaining anger. Through respectful and caring dialogue, you will notice changes of habitual thoughts and impulsive actions. You can hope to develop an understanding of self that is mindful and emotionally stable. Providing a trusting relationship for honesty in conversation, counselling for anger management can be an avenue for greater well-being in all areas of your life.