Grief and Loss Counselling in Shawnigan Lake, BC.

Grief is a deeply personal experience, and there is no single right way to move through it. In my work with clients, I provide a compassionate and supportive space to process the emotions that can arise following a loss. I offer education about grief, including common emotional, cognitive, and physical responses, and the impact grief can have on the body and brain. Through attunement, empathy, and holding space, I support clients in exploring their unique experience of loss. I am familiar with a variety of grief experiences, including anticipatory grief, such as when a loved one has been diagnosed with dementia or another serious illness; ambiguous loss, such as when a loved one or beloved pet is missing; and disenfranchised grief, where a loss may not...(view profile to read more)

Experiencing a loss goes beyond the loss of the family, friend, pet, or child to be. Not only have you lost the loved one physically; you lose what your life was with them; and what your future with them would have been. Overcoming such loss can feel overwhelming and impossible to heal. Counselling can make a significant difference in getting through this difficult period. Family members who may mean well may not understand the loss and inadvertently cause us pain: by expecting us to ‘get over it’, and by impatient and unsympathetic. Counselling offers a compassionate sounding board that is sympathetic and non-judgemental. We are able to heal at our own pace in a supportive environment.

Did you know that grief, loss, and trauma can have a significant impact on our mental and emotional well-being? It is important to understand the different ways these experiences can affect us and seek support when needed. Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something important to us. It can manifest in various ways, such as sadness, anger, and confusion. The grieving process is unique to each individual and may take time to heal. Loss can come in different forms, including the loss of a job, a relationship, or a pet. It is essential to acknowledge and validate our feelings during these times and find healthy ways to cope. Together, we can overcome these challenges.

At Seasons Family Centre, we provide compassionate and connected grief and loss support for youth and adults, honouring the deeply personal and often complex nature of this experience. Grounded in attachment principles, our approach fosters safe, trusting relationships as the foundation for healing. We understand that grief is not only an emotional process but one that is felt in the body, and we thoughtfully explore the somatic experiences of loss with care and sensitivity. Recognizing that grief is shaped by cultural, familial, and individual contexts, we bring a cross-cultural lens to our work, ensuring that each person's unique story and traditions are held with respect.

If you have lost someone, I offer a compassionate and supportive space to explore your unique experience of loss. Listening carefully to your story, there's an opportunity to identify and honour your feelings, your memories and your relationship. Through gentle conversation and questions, there's a chance to rewrite your grief story, discover strengths, attend to resilience and find meaning amidst your pain. You can begin to acknowledge what you've been through while promoting healing, growth, a continued bond with the one who has passed and learning to live with loss

Did you know that the "stages of grief" were actually developed for those facing death, NOT for those who have lost a loved one? Unfortunately, this leads many to feel they MUST grief in a certain order of stages. -And that if they don't, that they are somehow doing it wrong. NOT TRUE! Grief looks different for everyone and happens at it's own pace. I offer non-judgemental support and guidance to those who have suffered a significant loss. This includes the complicated grief of losing a living family member to addiction, mental illness or brain disease such as dementia.

Do you feel as if your energy is consumed by grief? Grief and loss are an inevitable part of life, such as with : a relationship breakdown, divorce, loss of a loved one, infertility, miscarriage ,the loss of a child, loss of a beloved pet, abortion, illness and other significant changes in your life. As your therapist, Laurie can help you learn to cope with your grief and begin to more fully come to terms with your loss. Laurie can help you transition through the pain to resiliency and healing.

In grief and loss counseling, I create a flexible space that adapts to your needs. Whether you need patient listening or feel stuck and need guidance through open-ended questions, I meet you where you are. I'm genuinely curious about understanding you as a whole person and your unique loss—there's no shallow or rushed approach here, no platitudes or quick fixes. Something resourceful I offer is a therapeutic goodbye letter adapted from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's work, helping you express complex, contradictory emotions—what you regret and don't regret, miss and don't miss. What makes this different is it honors the fullness of ambivalent feelings. Clients report feeling truly heard, not judged or rushed, as they move forward in their own time.

The grief process is different for everyone yet also flows through some universal patterns. Grief largely relates to themes such as acceptance of the loss, the processing of emotions, and learning to live life in the light of the loss. Rituals and ceremonies often support grief and loss work, as well as making peace with the past. Other approaches include journaling, connecting through visualization, going to meaningful spaces, and continuing your connection in practical or spiritual ways. Together we can work to support the often times painful transitions related to grief and loss.

I use my own experience of loss and relevant therapeutic insights to guide you through the grieving process. When your grief hurts those closest to you or interferes with your day to day functioning, you need to give attention to your hurt. This is where a trained outsider can be of help. We all go through similar stages of grief when faced with a significant loss, but in our own unique way. We need to take the time and address what is possible at each moment. By making sense of where you are in the grieving process, clarifying your beliefs and expectations of how much time grieving should take and what the end result should be, you will be able to integrate your experience.

Major loss and grief effects many of us to some extent in our lives. I believe in the value of the grieving process and the importance of not rushing through it or cutting it off. Grief can be unpredictable and needs to be honored as we move through life’s most difficult challenge. I can work with you through the full range of feelings—anger, fear, gratitude, love, despair – whatever is coming up for you on a given day.

Grief can change everything. It can leave you feeling lost, exhausted, angry, numb, or wondering how you're supposed to move forward when a part of your life has changed forever. You don't have to have the right words or know what you need before you reach out. Together, we can make sense of what you're carrying, find ways to cope with the moments that feel hardest, and help you move forward without feeling like you have to leave your memories, or the person you've lost, behind. My goal is to help you feel more grounded, supported, and able to find your footing again, one step at a time.

What Grief Actually Asks of You Grief doesn't move in a straight line. One week you're functioning, the next you're undone by a smell, a song, or an empty chair. The aim isn't to shrink the person or what they meant to you. It's to honour the loss while you slowly build a life that expands around it. Over time, the loss doesn't get smaller. Your life gets larger. The pain stops being the whole room and becomes one part of a wider room you've built around it. Grief work helps you carry the person with you in a way that lets you keep living.