Great Couples Counseling in Ione, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

In Couple's therapy your relationship is our focus. I work from an Attachment perspective to help you and your partner develop better communication skills, trust, and a secure bond with one another so that you can get your needs met. I am comfortable working with a wide range of couple's experiences, including: conflict, communication problems, affairs, sex life or sexuality, parenting, separation or divorce. This is not an exhaustive list, but some examples.

The “mechanics” of healthy healing relationships is often easier said than done. We all need a valuing mirror to validate our core experience, and this is where the healing work of therapy comes in. I emphasize a valuing approach to each person’s experience as a foundation for assisting couples in strengthening the “mechanics” of what we know facilitates healthy satisfying relationships. I am repeatedly impressed to the power of Compassion for supercharging the many brilliant tools made available to us by the likes of Harville Hendrix, John Gottman to get relationships back on track to promote the healing and growth are meant to fulfill in our personal and interpersonal relationships.

Are you experiencing distress in your relationship? Are you and your partner drifting further apart? Do you want to get back the love and trust you once had? Do you have recurring arguments that never get better? Marriage and intimate relationships have the potential for either great joy or great pain. Prolonged difficulties are not inevitable and not unsolvable. Contrary to appearances distress in relationships are often not caused by stressful issues, but by the way couples react to and deal with these issues. The process I use focuses on gently guiding your relationship towards greater joy, compassion and understanding. There is significant research on this approach and it has been found th....

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

“I work to help couples understand and communicate with each other better. I help them uncover the complex and varied realities that impact them while moving them to a better and healthier relationship.” I have a passion for working with all ages, races, cultures and orientations. I incorporate mindfulness techniques, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and methods by Satir and Minuchin into my sessions. My goal is to help couples to regain healthier ways of communicating and the ability to live with themselves as well as each other.

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and have many years experience working with couples (married, unmarried, LGBT) and the following couples issues: trust, infidelity, high conflict, intimacy issues, financial abuse, emotional/psychological abuse, spiritual/religious differences, cultural differences, parenting issues, extended and blended family issues, and communication. If you and your partner both want to share a more fulfilling, satisfying relationship, give yourselves the opportunity to reestablish your connection in couples counseling.

Often, it's not that couples don't love each other. It's that they can't FIND each other. Emotions and life get in the way. If you are struggling with relationship concerns similar to these I can help: • You want to make it work, but don't know how. • Can't talk to each other; argue and insult each other. • Struggle with physical and emotional intimacy. • Feel alone or disconnected in your relationship. • Struggle with the decision of whether to stay or leave. • Are unsure if you can trust your partner/infidelity. • Want greater connection and direction as a couple. I work with married, dating, and premarital couples. Please allow me to help you find each other again.

Couples therapy is my area of specialization and I love this part of my work. Many couples I see are in significant distress in their relationship and we work toward understanding what is causing and maintaining the distress. We will identify and explore the relationship patterns that lead to disconnection as the first step toward positive change and then work toward the development of greater intimacy, trust, safety and emotional connection. I have helped many couples who are on the brink of separation and divorce, as well as couples who are recovering from affairs, betrayals, and addiction.

You are unhappy in your relationship and would really like there to be a change. You are frustrated with your relationship and do not know what to do anymore. You feel like you have tried everything and you are still unhappy. There is hope and help for your problem. So many marriages end in divorce and committed relationships end and this does not have to be you. I have been a counselor for over 20 years and I have worked with many couples who were struggling and did not know what to do. Give your relationship a chance to get better. Give me a call at 916-847-8053 to see how my services can help you.

Couples counseling can help when your are having difficulties in your relationship. Whether you are in a relationship, looking for pre-marital counseling, living together, or married, therapy can help you with your connection, communication, your ability to reduce conflicts, reduce resentments, and restore passion and intimacy. It can help your relationship if even just one of you come without your partner. When one person makes shifts in the relationship it can make positive changes as well. Many couples wait longer than necessary hoping the problems will just go away. Don't wait until it's too late. Get help and change the course of your relationship.

In my work with couples I focus on helping the couple create a safe and secure connection to one another. The couple will become aware of: 1. The pattern of communication between them that disrupts connection. 2. The underlying often vulnerable feelings that are not expressed. 3. What it is that triggers each person's fear, anger or hurt. 4. Learn patterns of communication that create a safe and secure connection. Conflict will always be a part of relationships. What is key to creating a nurturing safe connection with one another is how we handle these conflicts when they occur.

When working with couples, I take a very attachment based approach. We all seek to feel loved, supported, and secure in our relationships. Couples develop problems when something happens to damage this or threatens to damage this. Often times couples get into negative cycles or have been hurt by each other in the past and so come to expect to be hurt by one another. When working with couples it is my job to help each individual express their underlying emotions, fears, and insecurities, while also helping to grow empathy for one another. This ultimately helps couples to understand how their negative interactions are mostly the result of fear of getting hurt or abandoned.

I use a combination of tried and true couples communication techniques to help couples create and build effective communication into their relationship. I also spend time on exploring sexual compatability and communication, when the couple wants their sexual lintimacy enhanced. IF there is lack of desire or an imbalance of desires, we address the roots of this.With couples who come for pre-marital counseling, we focus on communication skills and on common needs and wants the couple have for their impending marriage and family unit. We also look at any red flags that are showing up in the relationship.