Grief and Loss Counseling in Rosemead, CA.

We all experience grief in our lives. And when someone is in deep grief, as friends and family, we often struggle to know what to say or do to make them feel better. Over the past 15 years in practice, it has become so clear to me that what we need when in grief is compassion and empathy. We don't need pity or even sympathy. We don't need to hear that it will get better or an attempt to persuade us out of pain. We need to know someone is there, that they get it, and that they can simply hold space for us. Sometimes, the best medicine is just pure compassion and loving kindness.

When someone is grieving, it is sometimes difficult to know what to say. People feel awkward and often are reduced to well-meaning platitudes. There is no magic wand to take away the feelings experienced in grief but having a place of safety and honesty can be an important step on the road to restoration. Being able to talk, weep, get angry and feel the feelings is often present in the early stages. The purpose of grief work is not about forgetting remembering with love in spite of the wounds it leaves behind.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Are you grieving or experiencing a loss? Do you feel like the sadness will never let up? Most people associate grief with the death of a loved one. However, any loss can cause grief. The loss of: relationships, health, jobs or a goal. Experiencing a loss may result in many difficult & surprising emotions; shock, anger, even guilt. Together we’ll resolve your grief & lessen the painful emotions you’re experiencing; accepting them as part of the grieving process & developing some healthy, productive ways to cope with your sadness. Everyone grieves differently. There’s no order or timetable for grief. In session I’ll help you find the best way to resolve your grief & heal from your loss.

We have all experienced loss in our lives, whether we lose a pet as a child or a parent, spouse or someone close to us. Loss is part of being human and with loss comes grief. Many physicians and other professionals minimize the impact of loss and grief but it is one of the most important human emotions and must be allowed to exist for as long as necessary. The 5 stages of depression come into play with grief and loss: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. When grief becomes depression, additional support is necessary. My work with grief and loss normalizes the impact of this powerful emotion and supports the person who struggles with this most human of feelings.

My approach to Grief & Loss is for the client to be aware of the 7 stages of grief and to have them understand that their feelings about their loss are normal. Many times when someone close to us dies, we question whether not crying, crying too much, or perhaps feeling angry at the world is OK. These are all normal feelings and reactions people have to loss. Once a client understands this, they can continue to grieve without having any questions about their own actions or feelings.

Grief & Loss are normal experiences in life. Yet, they are often overwhelming - combining experiences of sadness, fear, anxiety, surprise & disorientation, frustration, worry, loneliness, confusion & more. Grief is truly not meant to be experienced alone. The guidance of a caring therapist as well as the support of loving, friends, family & community is invaluable and truly needed. Grief takes time, comes in waves and needs expression in multiple ways, through tears, writing, talking and the help of a grief counselor.

The sudden or eventual loss of a loved one can cause feelings of emptiness, uncertainty, and long-lasting depression. While death, dying, and loss are inevitable events in life, it does not lessen the mental toll it can take on individuals. Through intervention, people learn how to process grief, prepare for events that trigger depressed or anxious feelings surrounding death, dying, and loss, and learn how to reflect on the positive times one had experienced with their loved ones.

Losing someone significant in your life can turn your world upside down. Sometimes we need a space to pause, reflect, regroup, and express the often-conflicting thoughts and feelings that have become overwhelming. In order to make sense of loss and move forward, we must "grieve well" by honoring our own very real and difficult feelings, as well as who or what we have lost. I will join you as you process your experience and assist in integrating the past, present and future during this very difficult time.

We provide individual and group therapy for those struggling to come to terms with major life losses, such as the death of a significant other, relationship, career, or health. If you are grieving any loss, do not suffer alone. Our therapists are experienced and/or certified with the skills to help you through your journey to healing and reconciliation.

Dr. Eris Huemer is has created a seven step system to heal your heart after the loss of someone you love. Dr. Eris gives you hope and growth in the face of death and loss. She will help you construct possibilities rather than limitations, and provides hope and comfort in a time of despair. Once you go through the grief process, you will expand your ability to a life trasformative experience.

Loss can take different forms, and going through loss is one of life's biggest challenges. I understand this and believe it is essential for those going through a loss to talk about it, feel it, and grieve it. In time, healing will occur but time itself does not heal. I will provide a safe place for you to explore how your loss affects your life and help you to use the resources, time, and tools necessary to not only get through it -- but grow through it -- and survive.

Losing a loved one, including a pet can cause severe pain and suffering. We need to grieve. Sometimes, we need permission or help to allow us to grieve. Therapy gives us the opportunity to share our experiences, remember our loved ones, express our emotions and allow us to let the loved one rest in peace.

According to the Kubler-Ross model, there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. I believe that the grieving process is different for everyone. I think the most important thing for people who are dealing with loss is to accept that what they are feeling is normal for their process. My goal is to help people to grieve in a healthy way that identifies coping skills and support systems.

How we grieve depends deeply upon our own personal experiences and pain. I work to assist each individual to grasp the depth and poignancy of this ended relationship and give them the tools that they need to live without this person/creature. Once this is completed, I help them to embrace the qualities that they can make part of their own legacy.

Grief and Loss are some of the most real and difficult emotions and feelings to deal with and to cope and live with. Loss of a beloved family relationship, dear friend, mentor, as well as a beloved pet can cause a shock and vast loss that is seemingly impossible to overcome. Grief and loss therapy is very important to me and has been a major part of my decades of counseling. Grief and loss therapy is not a band aid to the pain. It is a process for working to create closure and a continued internal relationship which can still sustain life after loss. When relationships are important, grief and loss are a process of dealing with the depths of love and attachment which are key to being human.

People come and go in our lives and many times the emotions related to people leaving our lives is sometimes more than we can handle. The sadness and feelings of loss or separation is often disabling and we feel like we cannot move forward. Grief, loss and separation from someone can even be physically debilitating. Through grief and loss counseling, we will work with your emotional distress while we discover new paths to act in response to your emotional pain.

Loss can be experienced in many different ways - death (expected or sudden), ending of a relationship, and/or life transitions. Well meaning friends and family can try to get us to "move past it" faster than we are ready to. These interactions can be hurtful and sometimes add to our pain. Working through issues of grief and loss can give you a safe place to express your feelings so that you can work through your disbelief, pain, and anger to a place of healing.

I address grief and loss issues with understanding, validation, and empathy. My deep respect for the fact that it takes time to sufficiently mourn and grieve the loss of what once was is key in working with clients who experience grief and loss. We are all unique, and we grieve in ways that may look different than other's ways. There is no wrong way to experience loss! I model compassion and patience, hoping that in time my clients can experience self-compassion and allow themselves to feel the depths of their feelings without excess shame or self-judgment. I believe that social and cultural factors may also play a role in our grieving process, so I explore those factors in therapy as well.

The goal of grief and loss therapy is to help you identifying the emotions connected to the loss, and express feelings related to the loss, i.e. guilt, blame, shame, anger, anxiety, helplessness and sadness.To address ways in which you can stay healthy and keep functioning. To help you understand your method of coping and what works best for you.

Grief and Loss is painful and it brings up so many different feelings and emotions. Working through the stages of Grief will help you better cope and navigate your life, your relationships, and it brings awareness and healing. I offer a supportive environment for you to work through your grief or loss. I can help you to find support systems and create a safe space to work through the pain. You don't have to go through a loss alone.

Grief & Loss is a part of every human beings' life. Grief & Loss Therapy is an intrinsic part of moving forward. The benefits of Grief & Loss Therapy is that it allows people to plunge forward in their lives. Tragedy is a part of human existence, but how and what we do with it, determines who we are. I work with people to process & metabolize grief, to leave what they don't want behind, and to keep with them that which benefits, nourishes, and enhances their life!

Are you experiencing grief or loss of some kind? Are you stuck in the negative thoughts and emotions that can feel overwhelming at times? You are not alone in this. It is normal and common to go through certain stages of grief, but everyone grieves in their own unique way. Having someone to walk you through this process as well as help you take care of yourself and begin the journey of recovery can be a very helpful resource. If you are ready to begin the healing journey, I am here to help.

My years of experience as a psychologist has confirmed that there is no particular timetable for overcoming grief whether from a death of relative, partner, friend, pet or the more symbolic losses of empty nest, end of career, decisions not to have children or marry. I provide a safe environment for patients to explore the many feelings associated with grieving on their own terms and timetable.

My goal is to create a warm and inviting space of radical acceptance and empathy, where you can express your deepest thoughts, suppressed feelings, pain and true desires . My goal is to facilitate growth beyond your past and beyond your pain. My goal is to offer fresh, new perspectives and support change within you. My aim is to help you overcome all of your challenges and become resilient, plus happy.