Anger Management and Counseling in Boulder, CO.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is one of the most challenging emotions to face in oneself and others. It can be the source of great shame, violence, and pain & yet it is valid and important. In working with your anger, we will let it express itself SAFELY and at a pace that feels appropriate for you. I utilize expressive therapy, breath work, talking self-inquiry, and EMDR to help you get to the root of your anger so that it can find completion without harming yourself or others any longer. Thoughts & behaviors that stem from envy, revenge and aggression STOP & a MORE COMPASSIONATE YOU takes the wheel. Old resentments & hurts will dissipate and you will find yourself freed up to feel relief and peace instead.

Through Non-Violent Communication you will learn ways to understand what emotions reside under your anger. You will learn what ignites your anger and how to act instead of react. You will learn compassionate communication skills to help you build empathy for yourself and others in order to communicate your needs in a healthy manner. I provide an individualized and integrative approach through body-oriented and mindfulness practices, to support you and your journey to connect more fully and deeply to your fullest potential.

Anger issues are complex. Anger management may need to address a combination of struggles with anxiety, impulse control, social anxiety, relationship issues, and social skills. There is often much more to contend with. I do not believe in short-term anger management in most cases, given these complexities. To be free of the loss of control that can come with anger issues, the client needs to leave therapy being able to see the world as a safer and more manageable place.

I don't offer traditional anger management therapy, but believe that by using mindfulness tools, practicing meditation, learning how to regulate emotions and accepting what is out of our control one can overcome issues with not being able to manage their anger. If we don't properly process and deal with what's bothering us it is going to end up coming out sideways. This make take the form of depression or anxiety or anger, but that energy will seek an outlet somewhere. I believe we can work together to learn to process these difficult emotions so that you don't have to act out in anger.

Anger management is about impulse control. I can help you learn to experience and explore your angry and violent impulses without ACTING off of them. Angry feelings flow naturally from a great many life situations (e.g. competition, losses, personal violations, insults, dismissals, etc.). We usually do not recognize that our old unfinished business is behind our aggressive temper and behavior. I can help you identify your personal triggers, move away from the person who is setting you off in the moment, and work on your infinished business in private healthy ways.

My work in the area of anger management spans a number of clinical settings, from a trauma-focused community clinic to a student counseling center and work with inmates at Boulder County Jail. Clients tell me my approach is gentle, insightful and effective. We begin with an understanding of the specific reasons anger has developed into a strategy for each individual, its benefits and consequences. I offer insights and approaches from neuroscience, mindfulness-based and cognitive approaches in anger management, but we will always use what works for you. To learn more about the possibility for a new relationship with anger in your life, reach out to me here on Theravive or at (720) 204-8484.

Anger is often the result of feeling that our boundaries have been crossed and that we haven’t been able to say no when we needed to. I can help you safely release old anger, and to repair and reestablish your ability to say no and make it stick. You'll also be able to practice saying yes to the nourishment and healing that is available in healthy relationships.

Anger is a natural and necessary component of being human. Anger is appropriate in responding to violation; through establishing boundaries, righting a wrong, standing up for self/other, etc. Anger is destructive when it turns to aggression. Healthy anger is done in relationship, aggression occurs in isolation/separation from other. In my work with anger, I seek to explore the healthy aspect of your anger, what violation is it seeking to remedy? I will also explore when anger has moved out of relationship into aggression and no longer serves a healthy purpose.