Great Couples Counselling in Stouffville, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Taking time with your loved one can be a beautiful and fulfilling experience. However, it can feel challenging when you and your partner are stuck in previous patterns of behaviour, communication, and interaction. As a couple therapist, I will support you in better understanding yourself, your loved one, and your relationship to navigate challenges (e.g., communication, attachment, trust, etc.). I seek to enable you and your partner to work as a team in navigating whatever struggles come your way and developing your own unique toolkit. Speak with me today for a free consultation to begin your journey.

I use both Gottman method and Emotional Focused Therapy in supporting couples in the sessions. We will learn to spot and recognize the blind spots and patterns in their communications. We will work on sorting out and express feelings and needs between couples. We will address trauma and hardship in the relationships and heal as a couple before building on mutual goals for you.

You can have an even better relationship! I work with you to identify what your issues are. We learn what your communication issues are, what is working and what is not in your relationship and implement practical action plans to improve this. Further, we identify your negative patterns of relating to each other and how this is a habit that hurts the relationship, and we learn how to get out of that pattern, shift behaviors, and relate in the most respectful, loving, kind manner which ultimately often improves your sex life, your happiness, and your fulfillment.

In couples counseling with me, the focus is on enhancing the relationship dynamics and communication patterns between partners, regardless of marital status. By providing a safe and supportive space, I facilitate open dialogue, empathy-building exercises, and conflict resolution techniques tailored to the unique needs and goals of each couple. Whether navigating challenges related to intimacy, trust, or life transitions, couples counseling offers an opportunity for couples to deepen their connection, strengthen their bond, and cultivate a more fulfilling partnership. Through collaborative exploration and skill-building, couples can gain insight into their relationship dynamics and heal.

If you are reading this profile, you are probably concerned about your relationship and want to seek help. You and your partner may be arguing all the time. You likely feel you are no longer connected and feel supported in your relationship. You may feel you are losing trust in your partner and in the relationship. Relationship, like everything else, requires a great deal of effort to build and cultivate. Rupture are inevitable but can be repaired/restored through the help of couple therapy. With over 12 years of clinical experience, I humbly want to support you to repair or restore your relationship. Please don't hesitate to reach out and get the help you need at this moment.

Couples counseling with me focuses on improving communication, increasing intimacy, and building a strong, lasting relationship. I use the Gottman method, which is an evidence-based approach that has been proven to be effective in helping couples work through issues and strengthen their connection. This approach emphasizes the importance of building a strong foundation of friendship, managing conflict effectively, and creating shared meaning in the relationship. Through counseling, couples can learn new skills to help them navigate challenges and deepen their bond. By working together, couples can improve their relationship satisfaction and build a fulfilling life together.

When a couple is in trouble, the act of seeking out a counsellor has to be motivated by the desire to stay together through hard work. Therapy is not for those who need it but for those who want it. This is even more true when it comes to working with couples. The journey is one of finding once more what brought them together in the first place. We work with forgiveness and building trust. We find ways for the couple to once again feel a sense of warmth and compassion as we break down the walls of resentment. We look at what is triggering the couple to fight. We go through the anatomy of a common and repetitive fight. i also teach the couple some body centered techniques.

With the fast pace and challenges of life, you do not have to face them alone. Sometimes you need a helping hand and a friendly ear to talk to. It's my passion to help people. I offer counselling and psychotherapy for individuals, couples and families. I work with clients to improve their resiliency, and uncover their strengths using a client centered approach and different modalities to meet needs .

If you are finding yourselves stuck in the same 'merry-go-round' (although not so merry!) of poor communication and accusation/defensiveness, winners and losers, your marriage probably feels like you're going nowhere fast! You think you've married the wrong person and feel that you've tried everything in your 'tool-bag' to do. If you don't have 'win-win', what you essentially have is 'lose-lose'.. I will advocate for your marriage...I will be your cheerleader and your coach combined, showing you how to get out of this destructive cycle and move forward to something much more satisfying. I will help you rebuild when hurts have been deep. Don't delay on this...sooner is better!

If you are reading this page you are provably feeling that things are not going in the direction you want with your partner and you are starting to feel that your love for each other is not enough to make it work as you expected. Relationships are very complex and there are many conscious and unconscious dynamics we bring to our relationships which are very hard to objectively identify on ourselves even if you are a professional in this field. If you resonate with the situation I am describing I encourage you to contact me. I can support you on discovering how you two could be contributing to it and to gain the awareness and tools to make it better for the present situation and the future.

A satisfying relationship is one of life's greatest pleasures. The good news is we have the research available to know the predictors of relationship success and demise. Let me work with you to gain insight into the strengths in your relationship and provide you with the skills to overcome the challenges to create the relationship experience you each desire.

In 2015, I began studying the PACT (Psychobiological) Model for Couples Therapy. Using this model, I am passionate about working with couples. Based on "secure-functioning", you discover exactly, what you wanted but didn't know how to get there. Increasing your awareness on many levels gives you many more options. Discover how you and your partner can feel the way you long to feel and experience a warm safe loving relationship. Rediscover the promise held within the love and attraction that brought you together.

Do you or your partner suffer from social anxiety and it's affecting your relationship? Social anxiety is a fear of negative judgment from others and it can lead to reduced levels of intimacy, suppressed emotions, feelings of isolation and loneliness and lack of communication. If one or both of you feels anxious socially, your relationship may be suffering too. Contact me for ways in which you can move past social anxiety to a fuller, intimate, richer, relaxed more authentic relationship.

My specialized practice is prioritizes couples. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, the gold-standard of evidence based treatment for couples. When you invest in couples therapy, my guess is that you want to know your therapist is experienced and can fully focus on your journey together. All of my energy, time, and continued training is focused on supporting people to organize, understandm and deepen emotions internally and in their most intimate relationships. I not only believe in this approach to therapy, but I also live it in my daily life and relationships. EFT truly gets the heart of our adult attachment needs, and helps us to chart a path forward for a preferred future.

As human beings we are hard wired for connection, yet many of us struggle in our most meaningful relationships for many reasons including betrayal, infidelity, blended families and other conflicts. Through 30 years of work we have recognized that often couples leave their relationship at the time they have the most to learn. Our team of therapists are trained to implement a variety of skills and techniques when working with couples, such as active listening skills, Imago, Gottman’s principals, managing emotions, and positive communication skills.

I use 9 steps of Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples identify their negative interaction cycle and each partner's role in that cycle. Steps 1-4 entails empowering the couples to access unacknowledged emotions underlying the interactional positions and to reframe the challenges in terms of underlying feelings and attachment needs. Steps 5-7 entails supporting and mediating couples to change interactional positions and creating new bonding experiences. Steps 8-9 entails encouraging the couples to integrate new solutions to old relational problems.

The majority of couples seeking the intervention of a therapist for their relationship are motivated by emotional pain and frustration. They describe themselves as feeling disconnected from each other, or being on the defensive. They may no longer feel safe, and may be looking to therapy as a means of assessing where they stand with each other. My role in couples’ therapy is to help the two individuals to understand, resolve and move past the issues on which they have become stuck, and establish a positive atmosphere for healthy, ongoing dialogue.

Couples therapy is a collaborative approach and a safe space to communicate how you feel. Marriage and couples counseling tends to deal with present-day events rather than the past. It focuses on the 'now' and the challenges of married life so that you can get your relationship back on track. Couples therapy deals with the present day but also any history that causes unhealthy patterns of relating. Using the Gottman Method, I focus on communication and conflict resolution and what areas need improvement where we will then learn about creating new connections and rituals. We will also focus on building new meanings and shared value systems that will help you strengthen your relationshi

Therapy with couples is amongst the most rewarding aspects of my work as a therapist. Not much gives me greater pleasure than helping couples develop a deeper understanding of both their situation and of one another that leads to a more meaningful and enjoyable shared life. In my experience, couples can make incredible progress when both parties are motivated to improve the quality of their relationship and learn to love one another in healthier, more fulfilling ways.

Relationships are very complex. They have the potential to enrich our lives if we let them. They require flexibility and compromise, good communication skills, and an awareness of ourselves as individuals. A couple is made up of two unique individuals who come from very different family backgrounds and who bring diverse beliefs and perspectives into the relationship. It's no wonder that difficulties arise. It is common for partners to get caught up in negative, destructive cycles that unless stopped, can propel the relationship into greater disharmony. Couples therapy can lead to a deeper and more meaningful relationship.

I often hear 'Why would I go to a couples counselor? I know the problem and will figure out how to solve it.' This is logical but does not work. Why? A lot of the information you need is in the unconscious and unavailable to you. As an example, you do not realize that when your parents did not respond to your emotional needs you decided, at a young age, not to let anyone know those needs as you would only be disappointed and hurt. This negatively effects your relationships. Since I offer a free consultation I suggest we meet to help you see areas, that you ae unaware of, that need to be worked on for the kind of relationship you deserve.

In working with couples, the relationship is my client. My goal is to ensure that both partners feel heard and validated. I support the couple in creating space to have conversations that might otherwise be difficult to have. In working with me, couples will learn improved ways of communicating and being there for one another. They will also learn how to manage conflict in a way that is supportive of relationship growth. Further, the couples' strengths will be highlighted and accessed to continue to grow the relationship bond.

Relationships can be both satisfying, and frustrating. Although we can get along with some people some of the time, in close relationships we can sometimes get stuck, over-reactive, or even too distant. In couple counselling we can explore what's not working in your relationship, what your individual and 'couple' ideals and dreams are, and then strategize and work together on getting your relationship to a better place.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

If your relationship is struggling, I can help you both to view it in a different way, and to learn new skills to re-connect and recover the intimacy that can sometimes go missing. Most people will experience emotional problems at some point in their life, and all relationships can have conflict creep in and cause disconnection and distance. Despite theses difficulties, I can help you bring vitality back into your life, and build a deeper connection between you and your partner.