Anger Management and Counselling in Central Saanich, BC.

I am honoured that you are interested in my services and I would like to tell you a little bit about myself. I have been described as slightly non-conventional in the counselling world, which suits me perfectly, and also tends to suit youth who are trying to stand up to the force of the problems in their life. I am very comfortable working with this population, and I feel fortunate that I can connect with teens the way I do, conventionally or in a way that makes sense to them.

Do you feel angry a lot of the time? Are you worried you will lose relationships or jobs because your anger is not under control? Do you wonder if there's a better way to handle the challenges of life, but are not sure how to do it? I would love to work with you! I will listen carefully to your concerns, and together we will come up with a plan to get your anger under control. Let me offer you some tools that will help you. I will do this with kindness and respect, and without judgement.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Do you ever feeling like a pot of water, simmering away, or close to boiling over? Like your feelings are all balled up inside you and you just don't know how to get them out? Frightened of the intensity and the potential damage they could cause, to yourself, your loved ones, or your lifestyle? Learning to regulate your emotions is possible when you have a safe place to express yourself and your needs, and the support to learn new perspectives and strategies to manage your anger in a constructive way.

Anger is not an abnormal reaction, but did you know that it is most often not your first response? In other words, it's what is generated when your first emotional reaction to something or someone isn't identified and dealt with. I help people to understand their primary emotions and then find ways to express them with greater clarity and healthier actions. We'll also explore when anger is appropriate and how you can use that energy to confront whatever you see as the cause in a safer, more effective way. You will never look at anger the same way again.