Grief and Loss Counselling in Baldonnel, BC.

Grief is usually a difficult, but natural healing process where we rework a lot of our personal perspectives. It is always helpful to have a listening and validating ear for this process. Grief becomes much more complex when it triggers past issues or buried grief. Often in this case, we find ourselves again dealing with issues we possibly never wanted to surface again. As a specialist in trauma, I understand a lot about how memories are stored and connected in the brain, and how to work with them so that they no longer hold power over us and our lives. I would love to work with you in helping you move on so that you can enjoy life more fully.

My approach when working with grief and loss is to honour the relationship with your lost loved one. We have this idea that when someone dies that we are not supposed to talk about them anymore as if they never existed and that you are supposed to mourn and move on. I do not believe that is helpful. Instead, I believe there is a way to grieve that honours the person who no longer walks the earth and keeps the relationship alive. Death is the end of their physical presence but not their influence on your life.

Trobak Holistic Counselling's approach to grief and loss is: 1. Understand why a person is struggling with the loss. Are there unresolved issues around the loss and if so, working through these issues. 2. Exploring the possibility of unresolved past issues that may be triggered by the current loss. Rarely is a person's emotional reaction based on the one event; it is usually a build up of other unresolved issues that compound the current loss.

There is no one "right way" to experience and process grief and loss. You might be feeling unrelenting pain, or as if you are numb, or even rage. You might want to cry all the time, or to escape or withdraw from those around you. Everyone's journey is unique. I can offer you the space and empathy you need to feel, process, and move through the intense emotions and sensations that come alongside difficult life transitions or the loss of loved ones.

When losing someone or something important to us, it can take lots time to adjust and learn to live our life without that person, thing or way of life. Either it is the death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of a pet, loss of a job or important possessions, change to your way of life, grieving is a normal response to a life event and bottling it up can create damage or even harm to a person. It can take time to adjust and accept to learn to live life without that person, thing or way of life. When it gets too challenging or overwhelming, or if it gets in a way of living a healthy life, sometimes turning to professional support can help getting through this challenging event.

The loss of a loved one, family member, or friend, or the stillbirth of a child can bring forth intense grief, sadness and despair. We grieve for other losses in our life. Losing a beloved pet, a broken or damaged relationship, a change in the family structure due to separation or divorce, experiencing tragedy/trauma, medical diagnosis or a change in physical abilities or health bring forward a sense of loss for who they or their child may have become. These debilitating emotions can keep us from participating in activities we enjoy, doing well at school/work or interacting with friends and family. Counselling addresses personal loss in a caring, compassionate manner to re-build a foundation of hopefulness. 250.793.7676 finding.balance.counselling@gmail.com