Anger Management and Counselling in Baldonnel, BC.

Intense anger strips away the ability to self-regulate, make rational decisions and think clearly about the implications of behaviour. Often, anger is an emotional REACTION and not a thoughtful RESPONSE to a situation. Recognizing patterns of escalating anger creates the opportunity to practice calm down strategies, internal dialogue, and practiced problem solving skills. Anger can be a natural response to not getting our own way, grow in response to frustration or fear, or a fight-or-flight response. It can also be managed. We are responsible for our behaviour and choices. Supportive counselling helps provide strategies and develop self-control, which preserves personal dignity and provides alternative options for expressing emotions. 250.793.7676 finding.balance.counselling@gmail.com

Trobak Holistic Counselling's approach to anger management is: 1. Understand why a person is struggling with the anger. Anger is usually not the problem but a symptom of something else; usually an unresolved issue from the past. 2. Exploring what is under the anger. Anger is usually not a stand alone emotion. There is usually other feelings under the anger; feelings like rejection, abandonment, disrespect, fear, feeling unloved, unappreciated, not important, not good enough etc.

Anger is a powerful emotion that many of us learn to suppress in childhood. It then erupts in adulthood as the stresses of life build and we ignore anger's underlying issues. my role is to help you understand where your anger comes from, which emotions lie underneath, and tools for how you can express yourself differently when anger arises.

The goal of anger management is to control and regulate anger so that it does not result in problems in interacting with those we relate to. Psychological factors such as high levels of stress, experiencing abuse or trauma, dysfunctional family or romantic relationships and chronic poverty are associated with the inability to regulate anger. Sexual trauma is particularly associated with anger, as well as childhood trauma. It is important to recognize, validate and resolve trauma, rather than ignoring it, or medicating it through addictive behavior - having symptoms worsen over time. Erle has worked with anger management for many years - call today for a free consultation session.

Our society seems unsure of how to deal with anger at all; however, research has shown that anger is an essential emotion showing us which issues are important enough for us to put our energy into. The problem with anger is that it often provides a lot more energy then we need to deal with the problem, or it is directed toward an area where we have little or no control. If there is an issue of past repressed anger, this excess energy can be fairly large, and often seems to force us into overreacting. Therapy focuses on learning how to notice early signs of anger, how to channel anger effectively, and how to reduce the effects of repressed anger.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.