Anger Management and Counseling in Piedmont, CA.

I will help you to understand anger for yourself and to manage it more effectively. I will help you start to recognize triggers, negative self talk and destructive patterns of behavior, to learn practical techniques to calm your self down and to use your feelings of anger to get in touch with your deeper human needs. You will be more authentically empowered with self knowledge, better communication and self regulation skills. Your relationships and health will benefit greatly.

Other people can be really thoughtless, rude, & annoying. Sometimes it feels like they deserve our anger. Yet anger comes with a price. We run the risk of losing our relationships with our family & coworkers. We feel embarrassed & ashamed. We wished we could do better, & are angry with ourselves. I use a therapeutic technique that has been shown in research to be the most effective in the treatment of anger problems, cognitive behavioral therapy. I combine this powerful technique with EMDR, Somatic Experiencing to get at the root of your anger problem and help you making meaningful and lasting change. You can feel better. You just need to call. Call 415-820-1487 for a free phone consult.

Anger in itself is not a bad thing. It is a feeling and feelings are there for a reason. You can manage your frustrations without losing control of yourself. In my work with you, you will learn your personal signs and symptoms of anger and catch yourself before you reach that point of no return. "My anger outbursts and destructive behavior seem to come from nowhere!" This is not true. You can learn the root cause, slow it down and have control over your life again. You will learn how to be assertive instead of being aggressive.

More than 20 years ago, I had an "Anger Management" problem. I know what it is like to try to keep it under control to only find myself saying cruel things I wish I didn't say. It destroyed a relationship. However, that inspired me to learn how to deal with my anger in a healthy way. I was highly motivated; it took me less than 12 sessions. If you struggle with your anger, we will come up with real strategies that help you pay attention to what is going on in your body so we can prevent the angry outbursts from happening. You may need somebody who can challenge you and keep you in check while at the same time not judging you. Your next step is to call me to make an appointment.

Anger is a natural part of our emotional landscape but if you find that you are feeling angry more than you would like and/or you have difficulty expressing your anger in healthy ways I can help you. My style is warm and collaborative and I will provide a safe and reliable space for us to explore your anger. By making links between your past and present experience we can work together to increase your awareness, generate movement, and let go of some of your anger, making room for more positive feelings.

Anger can feel overwhelming, out of control an this is not a good feeling. Learning how to manage this anger can help you regain a sense of control and confidence within yourself. It can be helpful to understand what might be triggering this anger. The more you can understand yourself and your behaviors, you then will have the ability to change the unwanted reactions that have probably created many negative consequences for you. Together we can work on your anger management goals and I will support you through this process.

Anger has both harmful and healthy/constructive potential depending on how it is dealt with. If you are coming to therapy for anger management, you are probably experiencing anger as interfering with your relationships, your work, or your general wellbeing. Sometimes a propensity towards anger signals that other things may be going on--stress, shame, or other feelings that may be hard to tolerate. In an atmosphere of acceptance and non judgment, we will work with mindfulness to build tolerance for a wider range of feelings, to find ease and to uncover the gems hidden beneath reactive anger.

A lot of people "bottle and blow," not saying what they want to say a bunch of times and then blowing up. So a big part of managing anger has to do with finding better ways to get what you want. There are also helpful strategies for containing your impulse to blow up, so it doesn't get away from you and make things worse. Lots of people think that it's good to "blow off steam," but in fact we have clear data that "venting" anger actually makes you more angry!

I offer Anger Management workshops for Women to help you find constructive strategies for expressing your anger. I help you to learn new ways to deal with anger in relationships. You'll learn how to express anger so as to be heard rather than get shut out, attacked or abandoned by others. You'll also gain tools for calming yourself down so you can express and handle your anger in better ways. We will address cognitive, physical and behavioral aspects of better ways of dealing with anger Workshop dates are tba. Individual sessions also available.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is one feeling that seems to come up readily when we are hurt, feel misunderstood, feel hopeless, or wronged. Anger in itself is not a bad thing. It is an emotion like all others, but how we find resources, who we turn to, having someone to talk to, and then deciding what to do, can be helpful. Anger can be a useful tool if we can understand what has triggered us and what to do about it in ways that are not self destructive. I offer a safe place to explore all the feelings surrounding anger so that it starts to feel like something you have a choice in expressing the way you want to.

There are many different reasons for why someone might be angry and have difficulty managing it. What is common though, is a lack of understanding by the person expressing the anger and most likely the person receiving it. Together, we can take a nonjudgmental approach to understanding your anger, unpack what it contains and the function it serves. Through this process reactivity is diminished, composure is restored and relationships improve.

Having experienced a father with significant rage and having, over the years, outgrown anger myself, I am both very empathetic about anger and effective at assisting clients reduce it. With 45 years of meditation practice and 30 years of training in a wide spectrum of trance and other techniques - as well as understanding how relationship itself can trigger anger - I have powerful means of helping clients manage and reduce problematic anger.