Anger Management and Counseling in Piedmont, CA.

A lot of people "bottle and blow," not saying what they want to say a bunch of times and then blowing up. So a big part of managing anger has to do with finding better ways to get what you want. There are also helpful strategies for containing your impulse to blow up, so it doesn't get away from you and make things worse. Lots of people think that it's good to "blow off steam," but in fact we have clear data that "venting" anger actually makes you more angry!

Anger can feel overwhelming, out of control an this is not a good feeling. Learning how to manage this anger can help you regain a sense of control and confidence within yourself. It can be helpful to understand what might be triggering this anger. The more you can understand yourself and your behaviors, you then will have the ability to change the unwanted reactions that have probably created many negative consequences for you. Together we can work on your anger management goals and I will support you through this process.

Anger - by itself - is not problematic. Evolution endorsed anger to motivate us to protect ourselves. When we are in environments where anger is expressed in violent or abusive ways, then this can grow to feel normal. Instead of having a graduated response to a signal of disrespect, someone can jump directly to an outburst of rage. The heart races, blood pressure rises, and it's hard to think about anything but teaching a lesson to object of anger. If this sounds familiar, I can help. I focus on the thoughts, behaviors and feelings that you have when angry so that you can interrupt the rage reaction and allow yourself the time and space to think about the best way to respond when angry

Anger has both harmful and healthy/constructive potential depending on how it is dealt with. If you are coming to therapy for anger management, you are probably experiencing anger as interfering with your relationships, your work, or your general wellbeing. Sometimes a propensity towards anger signals that other things may be going on--stress, shame, or other feelings that may be hard to tolerate. In an atmosphere of acceptance and non judgment, we will work with mindfulness to build tolerance for a wider range of feelings, to find ease and to uncover the gems hidden beneath reactive anger.

Anger is a natural part of our emotional landscape but if you find that you are feeling angry more than you would like and/or you have difficulty expressing your anger in healthy ways I can help you. My style is warm and collaborative and I will provide a safe and reliable space for us to explore your anger. By making links between your past and present experience we can work together to increase your awareness, generate movement, and let go of some of your anger, making room for more positive feelings.

Anger can feel like an all consuming reaction to something other may have done to you intentionally or unintentionally. However, we always wind up on dealing with the aftermath of our anger when we didn't even feel like we were in control of the situation. If this is happening, we will working on developing anger management strategies. We will identify those common words or behaviors that set us off and try to better understand our anger in the beginning stages. This will allow us to start establishing and using coping strategies that will put us in control. Ideally, these techniques and strategies will help improve our relationships with those that we want to spend time with.

Managing anger is an opening of the door to the Self. Therapy is of tremendous value for anyone who wants to learn more about responding in the world rather than reacting in the world -and later wishing you hadn't....again and again and again.Managing anger has nothing to do with willpower and everything to do with gaining consciousness, setting intentions, and learning about the wounded parts of the self that are lurking below the surface that can trigger such chaos in one's life. ready to get off the roller coaster of reactivity and begin to feel empowered and happy like never before? Please call to learn how i work with anger management today at 925-520-5263.

Think before you speak. Express anger when calm, not in the heat of the moment. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. I teach clients to express frustration in an assertive, non-confrontational way. To state concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. There are several useful, evidence-based methods to use in the face of unhealthy behaviors such as anger mismanagement. I teach my clients to become aware of these habits, and work on changing them by engaging them in talking about what lies underneath anger which is a secondary emotion.

Anger in itself is not a bad thing. It is a feeling and feelings are there for a reason. You can manage your frustrations without losing control of yourself. In my work with you, you will learn your personal signs and symptoms of anger and catch yourself before you reach that point of no return. "My anger outbursts and destructive behavior seem to come from nowhere!" This is not true. You can learn the root cause, slow it down and have control over your life again. You will learn how to be assertive instead of being aggressive.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I have extensive experience working with men who are struggling with their anger management. Oftentimes, such men come to see me because the way they are experiencing and expressing their anger is causing serious damage to their relationships, either at home or on the job. Ironically, such men often feel simultaneously disconnected from and ineffectual in their sense of personal power. I help men access their own vulnerability as a way to start feeling what is behind the ineffective expressions of anger and rage. From there, men can begin to reclaim a more true and embodied sense of their strength and power, one that is far more connected with the heart.

More than 20 years ago, I had an "Anger Management" problem. I know what it is like to try to keep it under control to only find myself saying cruel things I wish I didn't say. It destroyed a relationship. However, that inspired me to learn how to deal with my anger in a healthy way. I was highly motivated; it took me less than 12 sessions. If you struggle with your anger, we will come up with real strategies that help you pay attention to what is going on in your body so we can prevent the angry outbursts from happening. You may need somebody who can challenge you and keep you in check while at the same time not judging you. Your next step is to call me to make an appointment.