Anger Management and Counseling in Rahway, NJ.

I can help you learn how to manage your anger. Often anger is covering deeper feelings such as heartbreak, helplessness and loneliness. I can teach you a three-step anger process that can help you take personal responsibility for your angry feelings and learn what feelings you may be avoiding with your anger and, how you might be using anger to try to control others. Also how to know if you are really angry at yourself for maybe not setting a healthy boundary with someone and instead project your anger onto others.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

Many people don’t know that anger is a healthy emotion! We all feel angry from time to time. They key is learning how to manage our anger appropriately, so that it doesn’t impact our relationships or daily functioning. I have experience conducting group and individual treatment of anger management. This is a no-judgement zone and I’m here to help.

Anger is a cover and protector for deeper emotions hiding underneath. I provide a safe space for the client to be vulnerable with their emotions and so we can understand what anger is “trying to tell us”. By exploring the anger without judgement we allow more vulnerable feelings to surface which can help us understand what the anger is protecting.

Anger management therapy can be transformative for individuals struggling to control their anger. It offers tools to understand triggers, recognize early signs of anger, and respond in healthier ways. Techniques such as relaxation exercises, cognitive restructuring, and problem-solving are taught to manage anger effectively. It also provides a safe space for individuals to explore underlying issues that may contribute to anger, like past trauma or unmet needs. By fostering emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and better communication skills, anger management therapy can lead to improved relationships, personal growth, and enhanced life satisfaction.

One of the main tools I use with people to help them control anger, is mindfulness. Anger is a normal emotion; we all know what it feels like. No one can help how they feel, but they can certainly control what they do with these feelings. Mindfulness is a way to help people understand what is happening for them in the moment. Teaching people to stop and pause, as they become more aware of what is happening for them, is a way to help them make different choices, rather than jumping into the same patterns which have not been useful in their lives. There are other behavioral skills clients can use as well, but it all starts with slowing the process down and awareness of what is happening.

Sometimes anger is a response to feeling misunderstood: you cannot believe that the other person does not see what is evident to you. At other times, anger is an expression of frustration because you cannot attain a goal or you are prevented (by others or by life situations) from reaching a desired landmark in your life. As a therapist, I will help you understand what is fueling your anger, and once you get a better sense of this, you will be able use emotional energy to deal with the underlying personal frustration instead of wasting it in staying angry.

I can help you or your partner / family member with anger management. We'll start with a thorough assessment of what's going on, including the history of how anger was modeled to you in childhood, the influences of your culture and family, your own anger story, and any grief or trauma you've endured. Then we'll talk about how you want to manage anger and make a customized plan to reduce verbal conflict and eliminate physical violence as we develop a strategy to communicate your needs and boundaries to those you trust and have those needs and boundaries met and honored. I'll be with you every step of the way.

The teenage years can be filled with irritability, aggression, and mood swings. In therapy, your teen will learn about anger, its uses, its consequences, and how to manage it. Your teen will identify their triggers and create a plan to increase their distress tolerance. With practice, they will recognize the physical and emotional warning signs of their impending outbursts and they will engage in healthy responses to regulate their emotions. Whether it is through grounding techniques, or removing themselves from the environment entirely, your teen will learn that it is okay to feel strong emotions and that they have the ability to channel those emotions into productive and healthy actions.

Skills building interventions have been extremely successful in decreasing the negative effects of anger. At ART, clients learn to identify, develop and apply effective skills that reduce anger immediately!! It's not enough to TALK about what to do, but to PRACTICE the skills while in session. This way, you'll know exactly how to handle a situagtion that triggers anger. Protect your life and relationships! Learn how to use anger to your advantage.

Having anger is not a problem. The problem is how one deals with the feeling of anger. What does one do when one is angry? Is the anger realistic or is it not? What are the events associated with the anger? One can learn to manage one's anger effectively through the use of effective anger management skills. Is one angry because one has communication problems and cannot express oneself assertively? Is one angry because of persistent unfairness that one has experienced? Come and let us explore the source of your anger and help you manage it effectively.

Using a structured, yet individualized approach to anger management, I help you identify triggers and thought patterns that lead to issues with anger. Therapy focuses on learning to respond and not react to people, situations, and circumstances that have been troublesome. We cannot control other people, but we can control how we respond to them. I often provide court-mandated anger management.

Children and adolescents don’t usually say, “I’m having trouble with my anger right now and I need help coping”. They show us they’re experiencing overwhelming feelings with their actions and behaviors. Whether your child or teen is experiencing frequent tantrums or meltdowns or just difficulty regulating their emotions, I can help. I have extensive experience working with children and adolescents in both outpatient and school settings. Using play therapy, creative modalities, and cognitive behavioral therapy, I can help children and teens to communicate, make sense of their feelings, and begin to gain control over them so that they can overcome what’s standing in their way of happiness.