Anger Management and Counselling in Burlington, ON.

Anger management is a series of preventative and reactionary steps that help us regulate our emotions. While anger management is about executing these skills, the successful implementation depends on a foundational understanding of what anger is and how it operates in one’s life. Without understanding angers unique roots for each individual, anger management techniques become especially challenging to implement. My approach to anger management involves establishing a foundational understanding of anger by examining personal underlying fears and needs. With this foundation set, the individual is able to integrate a personal understanding of anger consistently with strategies and techniques.

Anger is a normal natural feeling at times in ones life, however, it can be paralyzing when it is expressed in a destructive manner. Like most feelings it is never right or wrong to feel angry, but how we behave because of it can be right or wrong. By understanding the underlying causes of anger, an individual can learn a more positive way of handling their negative feelings, which will make one feel better about themselves and their relationships.

Learning to manage your anger and express it in a healthy and positive way is a process. This process, through therapy or counselling, involves becoming self-aware - or learning where the anger really comes from. And also acquiring the skills or tools to express in a way that is healthy and constructive. I have been doing this work for nearly 30 years and is one of my specialty areas.

In 30 years of helping people, I have found that how we handle our feelings is a major contributor to our joy, pleasure and success in life, not just in relationships but pursuing our work and our goals as well. Anger can be a powerful motivator or an obstacle in getting what we want. I have an approach for understanding the healthy purpose of anger, and becoming aware of and in control of your natural physiological arousal process so that your angry behavior can stop getting in the way of what you really want. You can obtain the tools and resources to work with this arousal process, giving you more choices and chances to succeed, rather than letting anger take away those choices.

Anger is one the most misunderstood emotions and leads to some of the most destructive ideas and actions. Let us help you make sense of this from the inside out. Anger is the flip side of passion. When you are really angry it's because you're passionate about something! Anger is always a call for change, something needs to change either in our external world or within so we can feel better and more alive in our life. Let us help. We can help you make sense of your anger. We'll help you understand how to utilize your feelings to work for you rather than against you and to create the changes needed in your life.

Anger is a normal emotion that everyone experiences from time to time. However uncontrolled anger can often create problems within relationships, at work and many other aspects of our life. My goal is to work with you to help you recognize and manage your anger. I will work with you to assist you in understanding what your needs are, and how to ask to have those needs meet in a healthy way. When you understand all aspects of your anger, you will be better equipped to choose an appropriate response, resulting in your needs being heard, understood and met.

I believe that anger is an emotion that in and of itself is not wrong. However, the actions that result from our anger can be negative. I help people understand their anger, where it came from, and why they deal with situations the way they do. Once a person has that knowledge, I help them to find healthy solutions to deal with the anger they feel by teaching them body language skills, communication and listening skills, and the freedom that comes from forgiveness.

Anger is not the enemy and just might be the most misunderstood of all our emotions. Often it is misdiagnosed or mislabeled. I look forward to helping you to experience all your feelings and then access the powerful tools available to assist you in moving from pain to healing. In this process, your anger will defuse and you may become more aware of your full range of emotions and strengths that will help you to succeed in your present relationships.

Anger can be upsetting not only for the one receiving it but also for the one expressing it. Although we can believe that someone "makes" us angry it is usually our own trigger that fires off. We express anger not just because we feel we have a right to be angry but because we use anger as a way of self protection. It says "back off and leave me alone." Understanding your angry pain can free you from it's grip. I have helped many clients with this difficulty through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and inner child approaches that have proven to be successful in the treatment of anger.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

“I’m always mad – I lose my temper so easily. I’m just like my Dad and my grandfather – I inherited it from them! While it may be comforting to blame anger on inherited traits, anger is often better seen as a learned emotion. If you feel (or have been told) your anger is out of control, let’s work together to uncover your triggers and what is behind them. From there we’ll look at techniques which will best help you ‘un-learn’ your anger!

Although anger is a completely normal and common emotion, intense levels of anger, however, can get difficult to manage and starts to affect the quality of your life and your relationship with the people around you. First steps towards developing a more positive method of expressing your anger is learning about the triggers and identifying the thoughts behind the triggers. This makes it possible to start to explore and experience alternative methods of expression and being assertive.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Anger is a difficult emotion to control once it gets started. Stopping anger is like stopping a runaway train after it has a full head of steam. Managing one of the most powerful emotions takes preparation, awareness and containment skills. I have personally written the book on the Eight Steps to Conquering Chronic Anger. It is used monthly at our centre in anger management classes. Anger can be conquered!

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

One of the most common complaints I hear from parents is that their child never listens. “No matter what it is they just don’t hear me. I yell and scream and plead but it’s like I am talking to a brick wall.” Most of the time the way the message is delivered is more important than the message itself. Adults and children alike tend to close themselves off from loud and intrusive tones of voice. I help parents understand that perhaps the best way to get their kids to listen and behave is by first changing their attitudes towards the situation. Engaging in a parenting paradigm shift is a great way to start their journey and I can help with this process.

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.