Anger Management and Counselling in Oshawa, ON.

Often those with anger management issues find themselves acting in ways that hurt themselves and those around them. Uncontrolled bursts of rage can frighten, alienate and harm those close to you. Get control over your moods and learn what is triggering your anger. Discover alternate methods for expressing your feelings so that you feel understood and listened to.

I have spent hundreds of hours working with clients who struggle with managing anger/rage. There are specific, step-by-step techniques that can be taught, that are very effective at helping people deal with this issue. Based on reports from clients I have worked with, I have found that if clients are committed to their process, most people make significant improvement within 6-12 sessions. Drawing from polyvagal theory, AEDP and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn healthy ways to manage and experience their anger.

Anger, frustration, rage, and reactivity overall, can make a person feel frustrated and powerless; when we have emotional outbursts of any kind they can feel so all-encompassing and make us feel like we are not in control of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. In working with clients on their emotions I aim to primarily promote an understanding of why our emotional outbursts occur; once this has been established we begin to work on how to manage, mitigate, or change how these outbursts occur, or why we feel the way that we feel in the first place.

There are 3 phases in working with Anger 1.Prevention- Attempts to forestall the very onset of anger. 2. Intervention- Aims to reduce the intensity or the duration of anger that has already ignited. 3. Postvention- Aims to discharge any residual anger. Emotions are regulated by re-experiencing, releasing, or converting them into a safe form. We will not only focus on your cognitions and behaviors as entry points but also focus on the modification of affect (your emotions). Anger is an emotion. To have no room in therapy for the feeling component of this emotion is to deny its very essence, your existence. Gestalt perspective- Expression of anger can be very productive. Let out!

"Emotional management" titles this topic area more efficiently as those of us experiencing difficutly expressing one emotion, such as anger, are quite likely struggling to express numerous other emotions very well. There are many strategies including cognitve-behavioural, narrative, stress and coping skills training, assessment of strengths, values and beliefs as well as communication training/coaching that includes assertiveness education, negotiation and conflict resolution work and advanced empathy awareness. We are constantly changing. With good support and leadership we can learn to express emotions clearly, effectively and in a calm, kind & loving manner. Breathe, Breathe & Breathe !

Anger is a common emotion that can come easy to us and can feel quite powerful. Our anger can often help us identify when something doesn’t sit right with us, when we feel like our needs are not being met, or like situations pose some level of injustice towards us. However, it is what we do with this anger that can make all the difference in how we cope, experience, and navigate situations. As a therapist, I will never tell you how to express your anger, but rather I will empower you to manage it in a way that fits best for you and your life. Connect with me today for a free consultation to see if we are a good fit.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is one of the destructive mental health problems that cause devastating consequences in a person’s life. The stressors of anger include worries, stress, anxiety, grief, loss, trauma, family dynamics, disappointments, and relationships. If triggers to anger are not carefully and constructively managed, they can lead to serious emotional, cognitive, physical, psychological, and spiritual setbacks. I use evidence-based modalities, such as Mindfulness, CBT, ACT, and talk Therapy. I have years of experience in anger management to help identify triggers for anger and treatment that restores healing. Please, you need to seek help and never allow anger to ruin your health. We can help!

Most times, anger is felt due to another original emotion. Individual sessions for anger management will begin by learning how to identify these other emotions. Sessions will also aim to collaboratively build strategies for you regulate these emotions in health ways through drawing from personal interest, relaxation techniques, and support systems.

Terry Smith is our expert on anger management. For many years, he ran a group for men convicted of assault through the John Howard Society. He also worked with women and their relationship to anger for much of his career. He is a seasoned clinician with an undergraduate degree in Psychology and a master's degree in Social Work. He is not only a great clinician but also has a good sense of humor. We are proud to have him on our team.