Great Couples Counselling in Alberton, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Our couples therapists at Hope Centered Counselling are ready to get into the cracks and see what's going on, find the glue, and get some repairs completed. You don't have to live like this! There are people to help, you just gotta find the right fit and want the same thing: Choose to love each other every day because there are definitely days you aren't going to like each other. We just need to learn how to be better friends again. We wanna help!

Couples therapy with me is not about teaching communication tricks or conflict avoidance. It is about helping two people understand the deeper emotional systems at play between them. We look at the invisible patterns such as cycles of pursuit and withdrawal, criticism and defensiveness, disconnection and repair that often operate beneath the surface of conversations. My approach is relational and emotionally focused but also grounded in depth psychology and cognitive science. Together, we examine how each partner’s history, wounds, and protective strategies collide to create patterns that neither wants but both participate in. The goal is to build a new relational system.

One of the most detrimental problems that I have seen in Family Therapy is when parents become so overwhelmed by life, inundated by the responsibilities with their children (hockey, karate, tutoring, piano, etc), and consumed in running the household that they forget about the relationship that they have with their spouse. I hear things like “I don’t even know my husband anymore”, “there just isn’t any time left for us”, “we are growing apart”, or “we can’t agree on anything; not the kids, not the house, not the dog… help!” All is not lost and there are ways to learn to balance all of the aforementioned intricacies of a family dynamic. You don’t have to hold it all together by yourself.

Dr. Van Blyderveen offers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples. This approach is evidence based and has a greater success rate than traditional couple's therapy. Therapy will focus on improving communication through creating and strengthening your emotional bond with one another. During therapy sessions Dr. Van Blyderveen will guide you and your partner through emotional conversations with one another with the goal of improving closeness, connection, and acceptance of one another.

We are not prepared to be married. Clouded with romantic ideals and unreasonable expectations, our relationships can quickly begin to feel lacking in fulfillment. I believe that most couples don't want divorce. What they do want is to feel connected again and safe again. I use Imago Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy to help couples re-connect. Building a healthy marriage takes both time and commitment. The skills you will obtain will give you a clear path to reconnection and safety.

Couples Counselling Most relationships will become strained at some point and will begin producing maladaptive patterns. Relationship problems are rooted in our distorted egos, insecure attachment, emotional immaturity etc., which create to the many issues that develop for couples - infidelity, financial stress, poor communication, ill health, sexual divergence, household responsibility conflicts, addictions, etc., .... or just simply growing apart. Relationships can often be restored if help is sought soon enough. A counsellor can help reorient perceptions and emotions (how we look at a situation and how we feel about it) and assist the couple in adopting conscious structural changes.

Couples desire to seek the most from their relationships. Whether it is rekindling a passion they once possessed, resolving disagreements in more effective ways, or fighting to exist as a loving partnership, building a secure emotional connection often lies at heart of it. As an emotionally-focused therapist (EFT), couples will be taught to recognize patterns that keep them trapped in conflict and interchange them with more adaptive patterns to assist them out of it. Through learning the principles of EFT, partners discover they can face new challenges together and develop a deep sense of emotional safety, security, and love.

In working with couples, the relationship is my client. My goal is to ensure that both partners feel heard and validated. I support the couple in creating space to have conversations that might otherwise be difficult to have. In working with me, couples will learn improved ways of communicating and being there for one another. They will also learn how to manage conflict in a way that is supportive of relationship growth. Further, the couples' strengths will be highlighted and accessed to continue to grow the relationship bond.

As human beings, we are wired for connection, and when a relationship feels conflicted, the ripple effects touch every part of our lives. In therapy with me, couples find a safe space to acknowledge the hardships they face while working to strengthen their bond. Together, we focus on improving communication, deepening understanding of yourself and your partner, and exploring what secure attachment could feel like in your relationship. With curiosity and compassion, we uncover the root causes of dysfunctional patterns and practice repair. This process helps couples rebuild trust, nurture intimacy, and create a healthier, more resilient connection.

A loving relationship can be a source of profound connecting and security, and as with many aspects of life worth pursuing, it requires nurturing. While I do not offer couple therapy sessions, we have many couple and family therapists at Psychotherapy Collective, my online clinic who are availability to schedule a free 15-minute consultation to ensure they are the proper fit for your journey. Visit our website to book a free couple consultation https://www.psychotherapycollective.ca/services/couple-therapy

Couples Counselling Most relationships will become strained at some point and will begin producing maladaptive patterns. Relationship problems are rooted in our distorted egos, insecure attachment, emotional immaturity etc., which create to the many issues that develop for couples - infidelity, financial stress, poor communication, ill health, sexual divergence, household responsibility conflicts, addictions, etc., .... or just simply growing apart. Relationships can often be restored if help is sought soon enough. A counsellor can help reorient perceptions and emotions (how we look at a situation and how we feel about it) and assist the couple in adopting conscious structural changes.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

I utilize an integrative therapeutic approach when working with couples. One is Emotional Focused Therapy, Systems Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. We look at the family of origin to determine how this has affected your new family system. We look at attachment issues as well as negative thinking patterns. Collaboratively we work on new ways of living by making the necessary changes that are required for a healthy, happy relationship!

A loving relationship can be a source of profound connecting and security, and as with many aspects of life worth pursuing, it requires nurturing. While I do not offer couple therapy sessions, we have many couple and family therapists at Psychotherapy Collective, my online clinic who are availability to schedule a free 15-minute consultation to ensure they are the proper fit for your journey. Visit our website to book a free couple consultation https://www.psychotherapycollective.ca/services/couple-therapy

In couples counselling, I collaborate with clients to increase their relational satisfaction. Through a safe and neutral environment, both partners are guided to express their thoughts and emotions, openly. Techniques that I often employ include active listening, empathy-building and conflict resolution skills. I help couples to identify their negative patterns and encourage development of interaction strategies that are more supportive of the relationship. Couples can expect to gain a deeper understanding of each other and practical tools that allow them to manage disagreements constructively.