Great Couples Counselling in Alberton, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Are you tired of having the same old argument? Feeling like you're circling around the same issues but not able to gain traction? We have couples therapists who are skilled at helping couples clarify their concerns, define their goals and move forward to a new place together, connecting again to the love that first brought them together.

We are not prepared to be married. Clouded with romantic ideals and unreasonable expectations, our relationships can quickly begin to feel lacking in fulfillment. I believe that most couples don't want divorce. What they do want is to feel connected again and safe again. I use Imago Therapy and Emotion Focused Therapy to help couples re-connect. Building a healthy marriage takes both time and commitment. The skills you will obtain will give you a clear path to reconnection and safety.

Couples Counselling Most relationships will become strained at some point and will begin producing maladaptive patterns. Relationship problems are rooted in our distorted egos, insecure attachment, emotional immaturity etc., which create to the many issues that develop for couples - infidelity, financial stress, poor communication, ill health, sexual divergence, household responsibility conflicts, addictions, etc., .... or just simply growing apart. Relationships can often be restored if help is sought soon enough. A counsellor can help reorient perceptions and emotions (how we look at a situation and how we feel about it) and assist the couple in adopting conscious structural changes.

I utilize an integrative therapeutic approach when working with couples. One is Emotional Focused Therapy, Systems Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. We look at the family of origin to determine how this has affected your new family system. We look at attachment issues as well as negative thinking patterns. Collaboratively we work on new ways of living by making the necessary changes that are required for a healthy, happy relationship!

Couples come together for a reason–from a point of deep commitment or even for practical reasons–both by choice. Some come together for more fleeting reasons–even by chance. However it begins, couples evolve–either to create a resilient bond or to find themselves in conscious or unconscious division. All are tried by adversity, change, and time. Even accumulating stress of the daily humdrum can blind the vision of ‘us.’ Couples are unique. My role is to challenge communication, to help couples define their bottom-line: to accept what is; define limits of tolerance and compromise; respectfully support a new reality if resilience is not found; or to see the contentment in finding a way back.

Dr. Van Blyderveen offers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples. This approach is evidence based and has a greater success rate than traditional couple's therapy. Therapy will focus on improving communication through creating and strengthening your emotional bond with one another. During therapy sessions Dr. Van Blyderveen will guide you and your partner through emotional conversations with one another with the goal of improving closeness, connection, and acceptance of one another.

In working with couples, the relationship is my client. My goal is to ensure that both partners feel heard and validated. I support the couple in creating space to have conversations that might otherwise be difficult to have. In working with me, couples will learn improved ways of communicating and being there for one another. They will also learn how to manage conflict in a way that is supportive of relationship growth. Further, the couples' strengths will be highlighted and accessed to continue to grow the relationship bond.

I have been a couple therapist for over 10 years and have enjoyed every minute of it! I have found great success using Gottman and Solution-Focused Strategies. Couples seemed to appreciate these approaches, as they seem practical and easy to comprehend. As well, the Gottman resources and its foundation sound research have seemed to empower clients to take charge of their situations with confidence.

In a warm and empathetic environment I assist couples in building trust, improving communication and working through conflict. My work involves helping change problematic thinking and communication, guiding through pain and forgiveness and helping you build the skills you need to improve your relationship both now and in the future.

Relationships can be some of the most meaningful and yet challenging parts of our lives We so often forget that we only get out what we put in to a relationship. Often individuals have expectations that a relationship should be good without a significant investment of time and energy Increasing communication skills, reducing judgement, listening and empathizing, are some basic steps towards the growth of a relationship .

Intimate relationships can be the most rewarding, and at times, the most painful relationships we experience. Couples often engage in pattern like communications which prevents them from expressing the love and tender emotions they feel for one another on a deep and intimate level. The goal of couples therapy is to enable partners to reconnect and express themselves, stepping outside of negative interaction cycles. Couples therapy helps willing participants to feel heard and understood by their spouse. Learn to listen with your heart and find each other again.

Couples desire to seek the most from their relationships. Whether it is rekindling a passion they once possessed, resolving disagreements in more effective ways, or fighting to exist as a loving partnership, building a secure emotional connection often lies at heart of it. As an emotionally-focused therapist (EFT), couples will be taught to recognize patterns that keep them trapped in conflict and interchange them with more adaptive patterns to assist them out of it. Through learning the principles of EFT, partners discover they can face new challenges together and develop a deep sense of emotional safety, security, and love.