Find a Therapist in Kimberley, British Columbia.

We all have yearnings in our lives that make up the core of who we are. Bettina helps individuals and couples discover or uncover our deepest wants and needs within ourselves and in our relationships so we can live the life we truly want. The need to feel loved, appreciated, needed, wanted, purposeful, and a sense of belonging, are some of the driving forces in our life. Exploring these yearnings on a deeper level creates growth in ourselves and in our relationships. Sometimes trauma or emotional childhood experiences can negatively affect our ability to achieve our core yearnings. EMDR helps heal the wounds of trauma and helps remove the barriers blocking us from attaining our yearnings.

I offer a multidisciplinary and relational approach to psychotherapy that includes early attachment work and a sensitivity to intergenerational dynamics and trauma, with a holistic orientation and evidence-based techniques. The role of the body in healing is central to my work, as I draw on many somatic practices. I also work with the arts as a healing modality. On the part of my clients, no experience in the arts is necessary. Whichever therapeutic modality we choose as best suited to your current journey, we work with the fundamental creative drive that is present in all of us to encounter the many facets of your healing pilgrimage necessary for growth and lasting change.

In therapy with me, you’re stepping into a space where you don’t have to perform or hold anything together. We explore the raw, unfiltered parts of your story—the hurts, hopes, questions, and contradictions—trusting that they all carry wisdom worth hearing. I guide you to reflect deeply on your patterns and choices, helping you make thoughtful changes that align with your values. Clients often leave feeling more centered, more compassionate toward themselves, and more intentional in how they live, equipped to move through life with clarity, confidence, and purpose.

Counselling and psychotherapy provide essential avenues for individuals to navigate their emotional and psychological challenges. These therapeutic processes offer a confidential and empathetic space where individuals can explore their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in a supportive environment. Through various therapeutic techniques and approaches, such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Talk Therapy, and Mindfulness-Based Therapy, individuals work collaboratively with therapists to gain insight into their concerns, develop coping strategies, and create positive change. By addressing underlying issues, reframing perspectives, and fostering self-awareness, counselling can really help.

Psychotherapy is commonly used for both short-term and long-term therapy to help clients come to a harmonious state of being. Using many different types of psychotherapy techniques, as a therapist, we can target a clients thoughts, emotions and behaviours that are causing them problems. A focus of psychotherapy is to create positive change and a better quality of life for clients. This includes improved relationships, creating self-awareness and understanding of oneself, and overall better functioning in day-to-day life.

In psychotherapy, the foundation of our work is a strong therapeutic relationship built on trust and collaboration. You bring deep knowledge of yourself and your situation; I bring clinical skills and an outside perspective. Together, we create meaningful change. Our approach balances structure and flexibility—focused enough to work toward your goals, yet open to whatever thoughts and feelings arise each session. This allows therapy to feel natural and responsive to your actual experience rather than following a rigid formula. Whether you're dealing with anxiety, relationship issues, life transitions, low self-esteem, or feeling stuck, you'll find a collaborative partnership where you're genuinely heard as we work toward the changes you need in your life.

Psychotherapy provides an opportunity to explore unhelpful relational patterns and obtain feedback that can promote more satisfying interactions. Oftentimes we re-create many of the same limiting dynamics with our therapist that we do with family and friends, and therapy can be that relational space where, when we feel deeply understood and respected, we can experiment with new ways of interacting and overcome the constraints that we have often placed on ourselves. Effective psychotherapy helps clients fully experience and accept their feelings, thoughts, as well as other aspects of themselves that they have turned away from out of feelings of guilt, shame or a sense of basic unworthiness.

James Hillman once said, "We've had a hundred years of psychotherapy and the world is getting worse." While there are many occasions where the validation and listening endemic to psychotherapy makes sense, there are times where we over assume that "feeling better" and "changing behavior" are the same. Grey Matters International, Inc. goes after the forgotten brain laws to behavior change that therapists miss when processing hours and hours of dialogues with people. Utilizing a cutting edge technology to facilitate the emotional process of change, we can make the therapy process way more effective, faster, and with less money spent. Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Building a trusting client-counsellor relationship takes time and is the key to successful work in counselling. Being able to talk about pain, difficult memories and relationships in a secure place is a crucial component on the road to growth and wellness. In counselling you can feel seen and heard without the judgement that can come in personal or work relationships. Hearing feedback that is compassionate, kind and constructive creates an environment that makes transformation possible. Move beyond limiting beliefs and "stuck points" and give yourself permission to say yes to your own needs and no to others, when necessary. Saying things out loud, confidentially, can really help.