Great Couples Counselling in Kimberley, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Relationships are the most important thing we can do! While the relationship with ourselves is primary, a close second is having a loving healthy relationship with the person we hope to live the longest with: our partner. We do better in life if we have someone supportive behind us. I work with all kinds of couples and even when only one person in the relationship shows up. I am trained in both the Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.

The first step with my approach to couples therapy is for us to establish rapport as you inform me of the problem that has brought you to therapy. I use a Choice Theory approach which includes defining more closely what each of you want for yourselves as individuals and the relationship as a whole. From there, we get to work on rebuilding trust in the relationship by enhancing communication skills so each of you feel listened to, heard, and respected. Then we can build on trust to establish the changes needed to restore the happiness that brought you together in the first place.

Couples counselling offers a supportive space where partners can navigate challenges and enhance their relationship. Through guided sessions, couples can improve communication, address conflicts, and develop effective strategies for resolving issues. Therapists facilitate understanding, helping couples explore underlying dynamics and strengthen their emotional connection. By engaging in couples counselling, partners can foster healthier interactions, rebuild trust, and work collaboratively to create a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership.

I work with couples using Gottman Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Attachment Therapy. I will help you identify your maladaptive patterns of behaviour and improve your communication skills. There is no shame in getting some coaching in how we connect with each other and how we can better meet each others needs. I use a strengths based approach to help you see the positives and remember why you fell in love.

I'm a down-to-earth, client-centered counsellor that can bring new hope to you and new life to your relationships. I specialize in marriage and couples counselling. I'm trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Gottman Couples Therapy. With over ten years of experience, I have the tools to get your relationship back on track. I also offer intensive therapy for highly distressed couples. I'm here and ready to listen with warmth, kindness and compassion, without any judgement or criticism.

Bettina specializes in couples/relationship counselling. She has completed Level 1 and 2 of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy as well as Dr. Gary Chapman's training with The Five Love Languages. Bettina believes having a better understanding of each other's differences as well as similarities, creates trust, acceptance, compassion, understanding, and passion in relationships. The more couples are able to communicate their feelings, needs and wants with each other, the more the relationship can thrive. Bettina uses Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, The Enneagram Personality Program, and communication tools to help couples feel heard, understood, and accepted in their relationships.

I offer Gottman Method Couples Therapy which is an evidence-based practice derived from decades of collected data with effective tools for couples to address areas of weakness and strengths within the relationship. This will entail a rigorous assessment process to determine treatment plan. I will be guiding the couples throughout the session and will be supporting couples coping tools during sessions.

Couples counselling often focuses on helping partners learn to manage conflicts in a respectful and caring manner, improve their ability to listen deeply and accurately to one another, and heal from emotional wounds. Building healthy intimate relationships involves understanding your partner’s aspirations and dreams, increasing commitment to the relationship, and learning to identify and overcome potential obstacles to open and effective communication with your partner. Other common focus areas include helping partners to recall and renew their friendship, increase their shared pleasure and enjoyment, and strengthening the emotional connection that initially attracted them to one another.

If you're looking to improve your relationship, we'd work together to create a supportive environment for discussion, allowing each of you to share your perspective and experience. With important conversations and empathetic questions, there's opportunity to truly see each other and to collaborate to resolve the issues rather than engaging in blame. Together, we'd uncover experiences that promote mutual understanding, empathy and appreciation. Through this process you'll gain insights, develop new ways of communicating, strengthen your connection and establish a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.