Great Couples Counselling in Castlegar, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

My approach to couples work is rooted in Attachment Theory and draws heavily on the work of Sue Johnson’s Emotion Focused Therapy. After years of working with couples who are stuck in conflict, I agree with Sue Johnson that it is the painful patterns or dance that couples get stuck in that is the key to resolution. For me, helping couples understand and identify the larger patterns rather than getting mired in detail, is hugely satisfying because it helps empower them to recognize, in the moment, what is happening and to make different choices.

My work with couples is founded in attachment theory. Our romantic relationships mimic our first relationships as infants. I will help you to understand your individual attachment styles (ways of relating) and how these may be currently working against you. With this new understanding of your partner, you can begin to work together as a team.

Given the stresses of modern life, especially since the arrival of COVID-19, it is no surprise that most romantic relationships will get strained at some time. Couple’s under chronic stress often begin to produce self-defeating, maladaptive patterns that are reinforced the more they practice them. As a therapist, I attempt to set relationships back on track by interrupting maladaptive patterns of interaction. This often involves reorienting the way individuals' think and feel and by helping them to examine how they interpret or respond to situations. This is done with the aim of improving intimacy by getting problems solved and needs met.

Relationships can be difficult to manage when there is a pile of problems. Couples therapy can improve communication and provide a safe environment to approach difficult topics. My practice is informed by The Gottman Method, the works of Dr. Brene Brown, and the Response Based Approach for those who are experiencing violence. I believe couples work can only be done when there is a space where all parties feel worthy and dignified.