Great Couples Counselling in Castlegar, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

My approach to couples work is rooted in Attachment Theory and draws heavily on the work of Sue Johnson’s Emotion Focused Therapy. After years of working with couples who are stuck in conflict, I agree with Sue Johnson that it is the painful patterns or dance that couples get stuck in that is the key to resolution. For me, helping couples understand and identify the larger patterns rather than getting mired in detail, is hugely satisfying because it helps empower them to recognize, in the moment, what is happening and to make different choices.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Relationships can be difficult to manage when there is a pile of problems. Couples therapy can improve communication and provide a safe environment to approach difficult topics. My practice is informed by The Gottman Method, the works of Dr. Brene Brown, and the Response Based Approach for those who are experiencing violence. I believe couples work can only be done when there is a space where all parties feel worthy and dignified.

My work with couples is founded in attachment theory. Our romantic relationships mimic our first relationships as infants. I will help you to understand your individual attachment styles (ways of relating) and how these may be currently working against you. With this new understanding of your partner, you can begin to work together as a team.