Anger Management and Counselling in Burnaby, BC.

Do you find yourself yelling at your partner, losing your temper at your children, storming out of the office in a fury of frustration and anger? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that sometimes gets away on a person. Feeling disappointed in yourself when you 'lose your cool' is information that there may be better ways to handle a situation. Together we will work to help you develop the skills to communicate effectively, maintain your authenticity and foster strong, positive relationships.

I offer counselling for anger management to help clients manage difficult situations. The treatment process is rooted in CBT with a focus on identifying triggers and recognizing body sensations that indicate emotional dysregulation. Developing coping skills and strategies to manage anger and associated emotions can improve conflict resolution, communication, and problem solving abilities while showing individuals how to express emotions such as anger in a healthy way.

If anger is damaging your relationships or controlling your life, it’s time to take back your power. Anger isn’t the enemy—it's a signal that something needs attention. I help individuals understand their triggers, regulate intense emotions, and develop healthier responses so they can feel heard without hurting themselves or others. Imagine handling conflict with confidence instead of regret. Change starts now, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

Like all other emotions , anger is a messenger about the unmet needs. Unlike the common belief about anger ; experiencing healthy anger can assist us have a healthier life . In therapy , I will help you transform the unhelpful anger to helpful one . As a result you will experience assertiveness and skills on setting boundaries instead of burst outs .

Although anger is a very natural human experience, what you do with it and how you channel that anger is what matters. Emotional regulation techniques are a forte of mine, and so much of it is learned behaviour from childhood experiences; learned behaviour from caregivers in your life and/or not providing the teaching skills required to manage angry emotions healthily. We will uncover this through therapeutic sessions.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Anger is a healthy emotion. It is an important part of our human experience in certain instances where our boundaries have been violated, or some injustice has impacted us, for example. Anger becomes destructive (to ourselves and others) when it is expressed in dysregulated ways such as angry outbursts, abusive speech, violent acts, feeling overwhelmed and out of control, etc. Dysregulated anger was at one point a quiet, subtle regulated feeling, but was either overlooked or avoided and, just like any boiling pot of water that has been left unattended, it bubbles over and burns whatever it touches. In therapy, I help clients slow down their experience of anger so they can learn to give proper attention to the subtle nudges – the early bodily experiences of anger – rendering the escalation

Feeling like you always go from 0 to 100 in seconds? Do people say you overreact to small things, or do you feel constantly on-edge? Maybe your anger is hurting the people you care about. If any of this sounds familiar, counselling can help. Together, we can develop better emotional control, improve your relationships, and reduce your stress. You'll gain insights into your triggers and learn how to manage them. Imagine feeling calm and connected with the people you love. You deserve this peace. Let's take the first step together. Book your free 15-minute consultation now, and start your journey to a more peaceful life today.

What has anger accomplished for you? Anger can be a devastating emotion, that if not managed can cause problems in your life. By working with me, we can work together to help manage and better understand why you get angry. I can help you understand that anger is not the first emotion that we feel, but it is usually the first emotion people see. I can help you better understand and communicate your underlying feelings that lead to anger. It is important what you do with anger that counts. It is important to understand that you can use your anger in a constructive and positive manner to help you get what you want in your life. Call now to see how I can help you create a more fulfilling life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger can take over quickly, leaving you saying or doing things you regret, shutting people out, or getting caught in conflicts that never seem to resolve. Often, anger is protecting something more vulnerable underneath — hurt, fear, rejection, shame or the feeling that you don’t matter. I offer anger management counselling that helps you understand your triggers and what your anger is trying to communicate, not simply control or suppress it. Using an emotion-focused approach, we can work toward responding differently when you’re triggered, communicating what you really need, and creating safer, healthier relationships with the people who matter most.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

Anger can be all-consuming, it affects our quality of life, and it can damage relationships we care about. When it comes to anger management, I would be most likely to offer support through Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and/or Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. These two related therapeutic approaches use different strategies, from challenging your thinking in order to help you feel better to learning more effective ways of interacting with others. I believe in adjusting my approach in order to meet each client where they are at, because no two people struggling with anger management are the same. I will listen carefully to your story and make a treatment plan accordingly.

Anger is a normal healthy human emotion. When people allow it to get out of control it can turn destructive, it can lead to problems at work, personal relationships, and the overall quality of life. I like to think of anger using the metaphore of a hammer. You can do a lot of things with a hammer. You can build things and you can tear things apart. The hammer is just a tool just like anger can be a tool. Anger isn't the problem, it's what you do with it. I help people learn the skills they need to use their anger and the underlying hurt and feelings of injustice to make positive choices that lead to positive relationships and experiences.

While anger is a natural human response to frustration or upset it needs to be managed appropriately. In counselling, I help clients of all ages identify and understand their anger "triggers." We then process together appropriate responses to such triggers and practice such reactions. Over time, the goal is for clients to use the tools and strategies learned in counselling and apply them in their everyday lives at home with family, at school with peers and in the work place with colleagues. I look forward to working with you to make positive life changes.