Anger Management and Counselling in Anmore, BC.

Anger is a very legitimate and important emotion. We need anger, to help us set boundaries, honour our dignity, and heal from deep wounds. It is an emotion we need to honour within ourselves while finding ways to express it so we don’t hurt ourselves or anyone else. In my practice we start by honouring the anger, even if we don’t understand where it comes from. A lot of our anger is built up inside of us from childhood experiences or life events where we felt helpless and not in control. In therapy we get to the source of the anger and release the emotion safely allowing us to connect to the emotions the anger was being used to cover.

Anger is not the problem; it is often a signal. It's usually trying to point at something real. The problem is when the pressure cooker explodes, or goes cold when you need it most, or turns inward and becomes a slow simmer you carry everywhere. In anger counselling, we look at what's underneath the heat. Something older usually lives there. Hurt, fear, or a long history of feeling unheard. Once you find it, the anger tends to make a lot more sense. And something that makes sense is something you can actually begin to work with.

Do you find yourself yelling at your partner, losing your temper at your children, storming out of the office in a fury of frustration and anger? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that sometimes gets away on a person. Feeling disappointed in yourself when you 'lose your cool' is information that there may be better ways to handle a situation. Together we will work to help you develop the skills to communicate effectively, maintain your authenticity and foster strong, positive relationships.

Anger can be understood as a secondary emotion. This means that oftentimes, there is another emotion, such as sadness or fear underlying our anger. Anger can feel strong and uncomfortable for many and my hope is that through our work together, clients can learn to regulate their anger so it doesn't feel as consuming in their life. I believe that whatever is under our anger is still important to express and by learning regulation, we can achieve this and ultimately be responsive rather than reactive. We will do this by identifying triggers and building coping strategies as well as connecting with underlying emotions that can bring further awareness and healing.

Anger is a normal emotion that is necessary to our survival. However, if anger is controlling you, rather than you controlling it, your anger is likely impacting your relationships and functioning in important parts of your life. Anger management counselling can help you develop techniques for changing the way you think and behave in response to events that trigger you to respond inappropriately. Self-soothing strategies, cognitive-behavioural therapy, and family systems therapy are some interventions that I use to help people manage anger more effectively.

Anger is not an emotion....did you now that?? It came as a surprise to me, since my whole life I just assumed it was. However, instead, anger is a type of communication we choose to use when we are hurt or feel that we are being treated unfairly or taken advantage of. Now this is good news! Methods of communication are a lot easier to change than are the feelings we encounter - although even feelings can be changed. Don't let your ANGER communication style- cramp your relationships or prevent you from getting want you need out of life and from your loved ones. If you want to change, help is a close as a phone call away. Marriage-Works, is focused on helping you find the peace you want

Anger management counselling in Richmond and Ladner. I teach anger management techniques to clients who are troubled by anger in their lives. Once skills are learned, they can be applied to a variety of life situations. The effects of anger management skills will improve relationships, employment and parenting. The use of a cognitive behavioral approach and a family systems approach will help you understand the triggers to anger and give you tools to handle stressful situations better.

For anger management, feeling calmer and keeping calm in life is a crucial focal point in this therapy. It is important to regulate emotions first. I provide therapy to experience emotional stability and resilience by increasing self-control. It is best to reduce impulsive or reactive behaviours. Next step is learning how to communicate your feelings and needs for enhancing relationships. It’s more effective to improve relationships with others. My approach is bringing inner peace. I encourage clients to achieve better decision-making. I suggest thinking back and asking to be less influenced by rage, wrath or anger. Therefore, our goal for improving overall quality of life can be achieved.

Many people struggle with anger management. Anger management counselling can help you identify where these feelings are coming from and identify when they are about to happen in order for you to learn to control these strong feelings. Counselling is a great way to tackle these struggles as the therapy is tailored to you and your specific issues while in a confidential, supportive and non-judgemental environment.

As a couples and marriage counsellor, I help partners slow down the negative dance that takes over their relationship. Anger in relationship is often like a suit of armor meant to keep the person safe from feeling underlying pain. I help couples create the safety they need to begin to investigate the pain that lies beneath the shield of anger. The healing is transformative and couples find connections with themselves and each other that restores safety and confidence and brings love back.

Real Solutions to Real Challenges. Common Sense Techniques. Anger can be helpful or it can be destructive. Anger unchecked and not understood can consume a persons attention and energy and keep them stuck. Anger can be hepful in that it is telling us that something is wrong. We may feel unfairly treated, overpowered, and hurt. As a result individuals may become defensive, withdrwan/silent, or even aggresive if they sense injustice and then go the attack. Quite often if the intensity of the anger response seems out of proportion to the current incident then this is most likely due to a cumulative history that comes rushing in to the present and hence the over reaction.

As a retired Marine Corps Officer, I have had a lot of experience with anger management, both personally and with my clients. Once again, I feel the key to anger management is identifying the root cause of anger. Oftentimes we improperly project our internal anger onto someone who does not deserve it. My clients report that after working with me, they no longer project anger onto the innocent people in their lives.

Collaboratively, we will explore the underlying causes of anger and identify triggers within relationships (with self and other). An emphasis on relational strategies can promote effective expression and constructive conflict resolution. We will work on developing emotional intelligence, helping you recognize and understand what is beneath the surface of your anger. It can be useful to explore past experiences that might be contributing to present challenges. Treatment focusses on building healthy connections and increasing self-awareness.