Great Couples Counselling in Anmore, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

I have extensive experience in working with parents and their child or youth on a wide variety of issues. For example: dropping grades, school absenteeism, communication breakdown, anger issues, control and power, oppositional communication, self-esteem difficulties, and self-harming behaviours. I specialize in helping parents better understand their child/youth and youth better understand their responsibilities. My goal is to help child/youth and parents have better communication in order to live happier and healthier lives. I look forward to working with you and your child or teen.

My Approach to Couples Counselling includes - Providing you the tools for: Resolving Conflict and misunderstandings Effective problem solving Healthy ways to listen, talk and be heard Have a win-win relationship Moving past anger, resentment and bitterness Successfully changing self defeating behaviours Explore how your past affects your relationship/s Discover new ways to assist your life, It’s not just about your relationship, it’s also about you by building: Self-Esteem Love Intimacy Self worth Confidence Value Discovering how your personal past and baggage affect you Understanding what you need and your partner needs in a relationship And much more. Call now 604.290.1336

Relationships can be a source of our greatest comfort and our greatest distress. Many couples come to a place where they feel stuck, repeating the same patterns that seem to lead nowhere. When we feel emotionally disconnected from our partners, life can feel overwhelming. Counseling can help provide a new way of being with one another and offer the hope of safety and re-connection.

I am trained in the Gottman Couples Therapy Method developed by renowned therapists and researchers, Dr.'s Julie and John Gottman. This theory is based on over 25 years of research with couples and has been proven to be successful in helping couples overcome their relationship struggles. I use this approach in my work with both individuals and couples. I help clients determine their unique challenges and apply a variety of strategies to mend these challenges.

I work with couples resolving problems and conflicts that they have not been able to handle effectively on their own. I work with both partners to discuss their thoughts and feelings in order to help them gain a better understanding of themselves and their partner. My couple counselling practice integrates the Gottman Method and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).

Having difficulties communicating? Fighting too much? Not talking any more? Have you lost that loving feeling? Trying to get past an affair? Love is not always enough - there are relationship skills that every successful couple incorporates. Let me teach you some new skills and help you put the passion back into your relationship. I have been trained by the Gottman Institute which has been researching successful relationships for more than 30 years. Don't wait, call me now at 604-468-7300, and start loving again.

Where did your best friend go? Lets rekindle what used to be. How did you get here? If you didn't want to know you wouldn't be here! We meet oh the butterflies the highs, reality and boredom, we get engaged, the parties, reality the boredom, let's get married, wow the excitement again, reality boredom, lets buy a house, the reality the boredom, let's have children ooops now we are living parallel lives nothing in common and where did my best friend go? Are you ready to find them again?

Relationships are work, and each person in a relationship brings their own unique set of baggage to the relationship. Some of it is good and some of it is challenging. Depending on the type of couple (married, dating, common law, heterosexual, homosexual) the goals can be quite different. In counselling we can explore what those goals are and what baggage, or different values are contributing to the challenges. Even though relationships are work, they should also be the greatest place for reward. Working through understanding the goals, expectations, values, emotions and areas of conflict in the relationship, the reward can be achieved.

Do you or your partner suffer from social anxiety and it's affecting your relationship? Social anxiety is a fear of negative judgment from others and it can lead to reduced levels of intimacy, suppressed emotions, feelings of isolation and loneliness and lack of communication. If one or both of you feels anxious socially, your relationship may be suffering too. Contact me for ways in which you can move past social anxiety to a fuller, intimate, richer, relaxed more authentic relationship.

Couples therapy. I am trained in solution focused couples therapy to bring the issues at hand right out at the first appointment. I ask clients to prepare for their first appointment by bringing in a wish list, what each partner wants the other to get better at, to stop, to do more of, and to do less of. These take us right to the couples' goals and then we begin to work on the most important issues on their list. A successful, peaceful relationship can bring great joy to our lives.

In couples counselling, you and your partner identify the conflict issues within your relationship and decide what changes are needed in order for both of you to feel satisfied and content. You will learn the strategies that are necessary to move your relationship towards one with greater clarity, mutual understanding, and connection. What are you waiting for? Take a step beyond listening to your best friend´s relationship advice and rekindle the love, respect and friendship you once felt.

The research around attachment tells us that having a sense of closeness with others is essential to our well-being. When partners feel a lack of connection, it can touch on past wounds that may even exacerbate the present difficulties. All couples go through challenging times, and it is important that both individuals remain allies, even through trouble. Skilled couples counselling can support this, and help the relationship become stronger than ever before. I draw from a number of approaches when working with couples, especially Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, and communication approaches such as Non Violent Communication.

Real Solutions to Real Challenges. Common Sense Techniques. Short-term & Cost Effective. All couples are exposed to challenges such as; traumas, accidents, sickness, infidelities, job loss, grief, and unproductive communication cycles. Individuals histories contain our unique interpretation of ourselves and our world and how we currently cope and function. Understanding more about our selves, recognizing unfulfilled intentions, and discharging umcomfortable feeling will produce greater self-acceptance and communion/ imtimacy with our partners

I use a practical and collaborative approach to my work with couples. I am a conflict resolution specialist who has helped many couples establish healthy communication patterns in their lives. I realize that each couple is unique and I will focus on the issues identified in order to bring a different dynamic to strained relationships. If you are experiencing stress from a difficult relationship I can bring a much needed objective and supportive viewpoint.

Couples come together in love and many expectations too. Often, after the honymoon phase has passed couples experience a loss of the tight and sacred bond that they once had. Sometimes affairs have happend or fights and arguments are destroying the relationship. Yet couples are attached and want to re-build the relationship and find a way to stay together. I work hard with the couples I see to help them understand the dynamics of their unique partnership, using Emotioally Focused Therapy and Satir Model I help couples get back to where they want to be. Regardless of the issues bringing a couple in to therapy the most significant measure of their sucess is how much they want to be there !

I help couples who are struggling with communication issues or who would like to gain a better understanding of each other. It is not uncommon to find your self stuck in a negative communication pattern which is leaving both parties frustrated and confused about how to make a constructive shift. Counselling can be helpful because it can help dislodge this logjam as well as teaching the couple new communication techniques that will enable the two to communicate without blame and judgment. Please feel free to contact me for a free 20 minute consultation.

Couples counselling focuses on developing strong communication skills, conflict resolution techniques, forgiveness, and effective dialogue. Many couples experience frustration at some point in their relationship where they feel they are not heard, valued or even loved any more. A toxic cycle of blaming, fighting and pulling away begins to form, creating distance and fatigue. For others an affair has shaken the very core of the safety and love they once felt in their relationship. It can be an agonizing and terrifying discovery for the partner who has been betrayed, and strong feelings of guilt, shame and a lack of understanding to how it even happened for the offending partner. Whether you are looking for a tune up to build back the excitement and...(view profile to read more)

The foundation of a healthy relationship is vulnerability (Brene Brown) and one of the greatest detriments to a relationship is resentment. These two conditions are very delicately linked. When there is vulnerability in a relationship it enhances connection and increases intimacy (and I’m not just talking about sex – although that is one of the perks if increased intimacy). Unfortunately, being vulnerable means risking being hurt or disappointed which can lead to resentment. Overcoming this requires a sense of safety and a willingness from both parties to make it happen. I understand the vulnerability and can help you achieve connection and intimacy.

In an environment of safety and respect, it is my hope that each person will develop a greater self-awareness and a sincere willingness to change. Couples will learn to listen to and understand the feelings and needs of their partner, as well as to communicate their own more effectively. Couples will identify the repetitive negative patterns in their relationship that create distress and alienate one from the other. Each person also will explore negative thought and behaviour patterns within themselves, and relevant past issues that may be contributing to their difficulties. It is my hope that couples will discover that they do have the capability to build a healthy relationship.

I work with couples of different cultures, ethnicities, sexual orientation, genders, and lifestyle. I help couples build on their strengths to improve their communications, increase their feelings of intimacy, support one another more fully when they experience life changes, negotiate their differences and reduce the intensity and frequent of disagreements, and help them remember why they chose each other as partners.

Couples counselling focuses on the important structural aspects of your relationship, and builds on your relationships strengths to overcome challenges together and reduce conflicts. Couples that develop a strong sense of attunement towards each other are better able to empathize with each other, stop anger and resentment before a boiling point or a barrier is reached. There will always be disagreements and conflicts; being a successful couple is about using productive skills and tools to resolve these conflicts without going to war. Doing so helps bring couples closer together. Imagine your next disagreement making you two fall deeper in love!

I have extensive experience in marriage and couple therapy. In any relationship, both people play a role in the problems and concerns, and it take two to find solutions. I work with couple dealing with communication issues, fidelity, divorce and separation, co-parenting and commitment issues. I promote mutual support, and a collaborative approach to problem solving which builds trust in the couple and the counselling process. I help couples move through the old, repetitive cycles of arguing towards new and healthier communication and connection.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Have distress in our most important relationship can be one of the hardest things to cope with day to day. Don't settle for an undertrained counsellor when it comes to your marriage. Our couples counsellors at Experience Change Counselling have a specialized Master's of Marriage and Family Therapy as well as additional training in the most cutting edge, researched based approaches to help you to step out of the pain and into a new and healthier season. Give us a call to book with with one of our couples counsellors 778.668.8602 or visit our website for more information at experiencechange.ca.

Relationships can be difficult to manage when there is a pile of problems. Couples therapy can improve communication and provide a safe environment to approach difficult topics. My practice is informed by The Gottman Method, the works of Dr. Brene Brown, and the Response Based Approach for those who are experiencing violence. I believe couples work can only be done when there is a space where all parties feel worthy and dignified.