Great Couples Counselling in Aldergrove, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

As a couples' therapist utilizing the Gottman Method, I provide evidence-based, effective tools to strengthen relationships. This approach, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, focuses on improving communication, resolving conflicts, and deepening emotional connection. Through structured exercises, assessments, and practical skills, I help couples gain insight into their dynamics, identify areas of concern, and develop strategies for healthier interactions. By fostering trust and understanding, the Gottman Method empowers couples to build lasting, resilient partnerships based on empathy, intimacy, and a shared vision for their future together.

Is your relationship/marriage struggling, or do you feel disconnected or lost? Do you feel like your relationship is at a standstill? Are you and your partner stuck in the same argument loop every night? Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting away? Do you desire more intimacy between you and your partner? I use Gottman Couples Therapy and Emotional Focused Therapy to explore the deeper dynamics that are at play and provide strategies that deepen and strengthen the relationship.

Relationships usually start with lots of love and passion. After a while, however, the miscommunication between partners, their previous traumas, and the everyday stresses of life lead to an unhappy couple. With training in evidence-based approaches to helping couples, I help my clients become mindful of the repeating patterns in their relationship and their roots. We will then work together to change these patterns and create new loving healthy patterns. We will work on helping you communicate your true feelings to your partner without blaming, stonewalling, or criticizing. We will focus on helping you become more vulnerable with your partner so that your emotional bond becomes stronger.

Having difficulties communicating? Fighting too much? Not talking any more? Have you lost that loving feeling? Trying to get past an affair? Love is not always enough - there are relationship skills that every successful couple incorporates. Let me teach you some new skills and help you put the passion back into your relationship. I have been trained by the Gottman Institute which has been researching successful relationships for more than 30 years. Don't wait, call me now at 604-468-7300, and start loving again.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a model of couples counselling that has proven to repair broken relationships. Through EFT, couples gain the skills necessary to understand themselves and communicate their emotional needs which enhances intimacy and the relational bond. With EFT, I focus on creating a safe and secure environment for couples to explore their emotions and the underlying patterns that contribute to their relationship challenges. and fulfilling relationship, and my goal is to help my clients build the foundation necessary to achieve that.

Couples interact like people dancing together; one partner takes a step and the other does something as a result. Sometimes couples can't dance together well. Through couples counseling, people can learn to identify the destructive patterns that erode their relationships. Once identified, I can show you how to replace destructive relationship patterns with effective systems that can lead to healthy, fulfilling, and enduring relationships.

Couples counselling focuses on the important structural aspects of your relationship, and builds on your relationships strengths to overcome challenges together and reduce conflicts. Couples that develop a strong sense of attunement towards each other are better able to empathize with each other, stop anger and resentment before a boiling point or a barrier is reached. There will always be disagreements and conflicts; being a successful couple is about using productive skills and tools to resolve these conflicts without going to war. Doing so helps bring couples closer together. Imagine your next disagreement making you two fall deeper in love!

Loving, successful relationships need to be carefully and skillfully nurtured in the following five areas: Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Financial. Couples who are ready to do ongoing work on their relationships are richly rewarded with a loving, meaningful and joyful life together. Committed relationships that have the possibility of morphing into long term relationships benefit greatly by being guided by the Gottman research on relationships as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Premarital Counselling prepares a couple for a new stage in their relationship by identifying potential areas of conflict and strength and developing tools to create a strong foundation.

My aim during couples counselling is to create an impartial and comfortable environment for both partners to equally share their experiences, thoughts and emotions. Through cultivating a better understanding of one another, couples I have worked with have shared that they experience more connection, patience, intimacy and appreciation for each other after our sessions. My aim is to improve communication by offering practical techniques, to explore the deeper rooted cycles of conflict and dissatisfaction and to help couples understand their own and their partner's past traumas and childhood experiences that may impact the relationship. I draw on approaches such as EFT or the Gottman method.

I am passionate about this work and will invest deeply in helping both of you succeed based on your engagement in the process. My approach: -Focus on the positives as well as the negatives - Hear from each individual about the positives and the negatives in the relationship -Teaching new skills that can help the couple based on the problems that are coming up in the relationship - Going over what's resolvable and not resolvable in the relationship - Have exercises the couple can work on each week

It can be extremely difficult when we are experiencing issues in our closest relationships. Thankfully, a lot of these issues come down to communication skills that can be learned. When using active listening skills, you can begin to create a fuller understanding of your partner(s). We can also work on skills to express your own needs and desires in an effective way, using Non-Violent Communication tools. More often than not, we become frustrated when we don’t feel understood, but the reality is that we are not communicating properly, and our partners are not mind-readers, as much as we would like them to be (sometimes). Together we can create a more stable, loving foundation to grow from.