Anger Management and Counseling in Willowbrook, CA.

I have worked with clients who have had a difficult relationship with anger throughout their lives and have found that it is often accompanied by shame, blame, judgement, or guilt. These problems have a powerful voice that works to drown out a person's preferences and unique outcomes, placing them far into the background, and deeming them unimportant. It is remarkable to find out what values clients have managed to hold onto despite anger's seemingly all consuming presence. The excavation of moments of holding onto values in the face of adversity is an opportunity to approach anger from a place of agency and empowerment versus blame or shame.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

I encourage you to express your anger without violence to others while finding how you can harness this emotion to help yourself instead of self-destruction. You have a right to be as angry as you feel and to learn to evaluate the costs of bottling it up or feeling out of cotnrol. The expression of anger and its energy can be used to help you improve your life if you are willing to learn more about it.

We all get angry sometimes. The issue is what you do with your anger. If you act it out in ways that hurt yourself or other people, that’s where the problems lie. You may express you anger physically by hitting people, hurting yourself, or breaking things. You may also express your anger by saying things that get you in trouble or damage your relationships. Sometimes it’s what you say, and sometimes it’s how you say it. Together, we can sort it out. We’ll see what triggers the anger and how you express it. We’ll work to undo the triggers and find other ways of dealing with the anger when it arises.

We can retrain ourselves react differently to challenging situations that spawn angry reactions. With a little time and practice, we can learn to regulate our distress by tuning into the cues when we are on overload. Bringing mindfulness to our triggers and our reactions, while slowing down our thoughts, can give us more choice in how we react. Mindfulness can teach us to be the observer to our own inner dialogue and can make room for little shifts that make gradual differences. I work from a somatic place first, giving attention to the indicators of distress. Each person manifests distress differently. Does your face get hot? Does your throat feel tight? We will begin here.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Like all emotions, it is normal to feel anger. Anger is like the yellow signal light or a dashboard light on our care signifying somethng is wrong. Maybe for you anger is viewed as a protest when you sense something or someone has wronged you. Anger can be also viewed as a justice issue wanting to make sense of the hurt you are feeling. But anger can also be used in a unhealthy way to build a resentment, hold a grudge, and seek revenge. From my counsel you will benefit by understanding how your anger can be helpful versus how your anger can be destructive and abusive to others. You will benefit from expressing anger at something versus attacking or blaming someone.

Your anger turned towards yourself creates depression, but your anger towards others creates resentment. Do you find yourself vacillating between feeling depressed and resentful towards yourself or others in your life? Learning how to deal with your anger is the first step to get you out of that cycle. Counseling along with Mindfulness Meditation are great tools to help you manage anger and find more peace.

Feeling out of control can be extremely distressing, destructive, and can have a lasting impact on your relationships with others. Learning how to manage your emotions and effectively deal with anger is an important goal, and one that can be accomplished through active participation in therapy. The goals is for our clients to leave therapy with the skills and confidence that they can manage the challenges that come with everyday life. Learning such skills will directly help with increasing the quality of your relationships and decrease the negative impact of your anger in areas such as work, school, and family difficulties. It can also potentially help avoid any negative legal outcomes.

Anger is a healthy expression of emotion. When anger and rage become the dominating emotion that rules our actions, a potentially serious problem exists. When this occurs we feel out of control, even frightened by the intensity of feeling. Scared by life altering actions and repercussions. We become lost and confused. We know this is not me but yet it is. This mystery is solvable. Sometimes when negative experiences happen we hide and bury them, We do this so well we forget why the anger is there. Over the years these experiences multiply, fester and grow. A time bomb waiting to be triggered. We can help you unearth the issues, defuse and help you to dismantle the bomb. Call! We can help.

Anger can be a scary emotion. It can be frightening for the person expressing it and frightening for the person receiving it. Anger is a healthy emotion when used appropriately but sometimes, a person's anger feels out of control. That is when help is needed to look at ways of controlling the anger and perhaps, why such anger exists. When a person comes to see me with issues of anger management, we look ways to improve impulse control and look at why the anger is occurring in the first place. Hopefully, the client will get some insight and understanding into his/her issues, anger management skills will be taught, and, as a result, the anger be decreased and expressed appropriately.

Frustration and anger are normal parts of the human experience, but when they become chronic, uncontrollable, and hurtful, they can do untold damage to relationships, families, and ourselves physically. I work with patients to understand the roots of anger, and to develop strategies for anger management by facilitating recognition of hurt, helplessness, and lack of control that underlie rage and excessive anger. Healing comes both from clear introspection and also the use of effective tools to better express hurt, anger, and need.

With a partner, I have developed a new and effective model of anger management that teaches you eight proven tools for anger control. These skill-based tools include; (1) reducing stress in your life, (2) developing empathy, (3)learning to respond instead of react, (4) changing self-talk, (5) communicating assertively, (6) adjusting expectations, (7) learning to forgive, and (8) retreating and thinking things over. These tools are taught to clients both in individual consultation and in anger management classes. They are also taught in online anger management programs I have produced.