Anger Management and Counseling in Chicago, IL.

While anger is a natural emotion which everyone feels now and then, it can be very destructive when it gets out of control. When that happens, it can easily take a toll on you and those around you, leading to relationship problems, employment problems, and legal problems. The good news is that anger management therapy is a very effective way of getting greater control over your anger. When you see me for anger management therapy, we will identify events contributing to your anger and create a plan together to cope with the anger so that you remain in control. Give me a call today for a free consultation and we can put together a preliminary plan over the telephone.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

As a society we tell people they shouldn't be angry. But anger is a hard-wired emotion that's part of our physical and emotional make-up. What we do with that anger however is another thing altogether. Many people with anger management issues, or people who feel overwhelmed or engulf by their anger, come to therapy feeling lost as to how to handle what they are experiencing and regret the aftermath of their "anger management." I will help you understand the deeper meanings and anchors to your anger so that instead of fearing it, mis-using it, or snuffing it out with addiction, you will be able to process and understand it in a healthy manner.

Our focus on anger management is to identify and address the underlying thoughts and beliefs that trigger anger through cognitive restructuring. We encourage relaxation techniques and strategies to manage anger including deep breathing and identify personal triggers which help change thoughts patterns and responses to anger-inducing situations.  We utilize trigger identification,relaxation techniques and problem solving skills by encouraging clients to record their anger triggers and emotions, 
We expose our clients to situations that trigger their anger in a controlled environment to help them develop coping strategies. 
We tailor the counseling plan to each client

Anger can be a powerful emotion that often masks deeper pain or unmet needs. If anger is affecting your relationships, work, or self-image, I can help you understand its roots and develop healthy tools to manage it. Together, we'll explore triggers, build emotional regulation skills, and find effective ways to express yourself—so you can respond with intention rather than react with regret.