Anger Management and Counselling in Havelock, ON.

My approach to anger management first teaches clients to become expert observers of themselves their triggers, risks and "buttons". Once this is done, strategies are developed to mitigate risk and experiment with alternate, healthy forms of expressing rage. Anger can be profoundly healing and revealing, as well as destructive. Sometimes deeper reprocessing work is necessary if the source of anger is extreme or rooted in early life, or marked by great suffering, humiliation, disgust or injustice. If impulse control is a concern, practical safety agreements in addition to DBT and affect regulation strategies can be imparted. Couples can learn ways to allow safe and healthy anger expression

Anger can be a difficult emotion for many of us to deal with. It is important to understand that it is not wrong to feel anger and in fact, anger can be a very healthy emotion. In therapy, we work together to first understand the source of your anger and why it shows up in possibly triggering ways. We can then work to find healthier ways to express anger and build better relationships. I also would like to empower you to feel better about your anger by not having to feel guilty about it. Call today and book a free consultation.

Anger is a secondary emotion, meaning that something else is usually going on, other needs may not be met. Assistance with Anger management involves actively listening to your story, experiences, expectations, and frustrations. I will help you learn coping strategies to effectively notice and avoid unecessary anger, better communication strategies to deal with others, and adopt a healthier outlook on life to provide more realistic expectations.

Anger can be unpredictable and can arise for a variety of reasons; death, illness, change, loss, addiction, relationship strain, workplace stress, chronic burnout, chronic anger, and various other reasons. It is an emotion that you feel and it affects how you act and it can affect relationships, work, and life. Many people I work with feel ashamed, fearful, and stressed about their anger and it’s impact. Together, we learn from your experiences to understand your anger: how it feels, your triggers, and the patterns and beliefs that are embedded in it. We build safety, skills, support, and intentional response. My approach is integrated and personalized, finding a pace that works for you.

Anger is a natural emotion — it can signal when boundaries have been crossed or when something feels unjust. However, when anger becomes overwhelming, impulsive, or difficult to control, it can affect our relationships, work, and overall sense of well-being. Through psychotherapy, I provide a safe and supportive space to explore what lies beneath your anger — whether that’s frustration, fear, hurt, or unmet needs. Together, we work to understand your triggers, recognize patterns, and develop healthier ways of expressing and regulating emotion. My approach focuses on helping you respond to anger with awareness rather than reaction. By learning practical skills for self-regulation and commun

Anger is often thought of as a negative emotion, but I like to think of Anger as the part of you that loves you and wants to stand up for you when you’ve experienced something “unfair.” Anger does not always make the best decisions about when to stand up for you, so I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore how anger shows up in their lives, and to strengthen and develop strategies to minimize the impact it has on living the life you want to live. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

Often those with anger management issues find themselves acting in ways that hurt themselves and those around them. Uncontrolled bursts of rage can frighten, alienate and harm those close to you. Get control over your moods and learn what is triggering your anger. Discover alternate methods for expressing your feelings so that you feel understood and listened to.

It can be difficult to control our emotions, especially in these challenging times. Anger can also be an expression of other emotions that are lying beneath the surface. Psychotherapy can help identify tools that work for you in learning to regulate your emotions, as well as approaching your anger with preventative strategies such as learning to recognize when you begin to feel angry, and regular activities that can help alleviate stress and build up your stress tolerance. You are not defined by your anger, and your anger doesn't control you. By learning to identify your triggers and the purpose your anger serves for you, therapy can help you make a shift bring more peace into your life.

Anger is a common emotion that can come easy to us and can feel quite powerful. Our anger can often help us identify when something doesn’t sit right with us, when we feel like our needs are not being met, or like situations pose some level of injustice towards us. However, it is what we do with this anger that can make all the difference in how we cope, experience, and navigate situations. As a therapist, I will never tell you how to express your anger, but rather I will empower you to manage it in a way that fits best for you and your life. Connect with me today for a free consultation to see if we are a good fit.

There are 3 phases in working with Anger 1.Prevention- Attempts to forestall the very onset of anger. 2. Intervention- Aims to reduce the intensity or the duration of anger that has already ignited. 3. Postvention- Aims to discharge any residual anger. Emotions are regulated by re-experiencing, releasing, or converting them into a safe form. We will not only focus on your cognitions and behaviors as entry points but also focus on the modification of affect (your emotions). Anger is an emotion. To have no room in therapy for the feeling component of this emotion is to deny its very essence, your existence. Gestalt perspective- Expression of anger can be very productive. Let out!

Anger is a healthy emotion it is what we do with our anger that can create problems. I help clients look at their anger honestly and get to the sources of it. We explore what message is the anger telling the client. I help clients learn more effective and safe ways of expressing their anger. Often clients benefit from learning more coping skills as well. Relaxation techniques and self-care are an important aspect of learning to cope more effectively with anger.

There are many other emotions that bury themselves under our anger and impulsive reactions. Identifying these emotions can be the first step in developing emotional regulation. I have been trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). This form of treatment focuses on using Distress Tolerance skills, Mindfulness, Emotion Regulation and Interpersonal Effectiveness to manage intense and overwhelming emotions.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.